Alyssa

Sorry, this is going to be a long one, I've had a lot on my mind lately.


I'm in need of some good advice. I've been thrown into a no win situation between my girlfriends and my boyfriend. They don't like each other and I'm tired of being in the middle of their battles.

A couple weeks ago, I had a birthday. I wasn't planning on having a party or anything, I wanted to keep it small to maybe going out for dinner and the bars afterward. My boyfriend Aaron thought that he should throw me a surprise party with out me knowing (obvious). While I was unaware of these party plans, he decided not to invite some of my friends, (the ones that he doesn't get along with) but he invited other girlfriends that he does get along with. So a couple days go by, my girlfriends are getting more and more upset because of not getting invited until two days before my birthday, my friend Kelly came up to my boyfriend and I and spoiled the surprise birthday. She was angry and thought that blowing the surprise would be a great way to get back at Aaron. This made Aaron mad, Kelly was mad along with my other friend and roommate Alison.

I wasn't really mad at Kelly for ruining the surprise, I was just sad that she would involve me in Aaron's problem. I confronted her the next day and she apologized, but with a grin on her face which really didn't seem too sincere.

I later called and left voicemails on the uninvited girls phones and said that they were invited, but they never called back.

Well anyway the party went on, only two of my girlfriends made it along with a bunch of people I didn't even know. My birthday really sucked. I saw my uninvited girlfriends at the bars later that night and they ignored me. I remind you, I didn't do anything to deserve this.

My boyfriend is not taking any responsibility for starting this mess, he feels that what he did was fine. I feel like I'm the one doing clean up and my friends still won't talk to me. I feel like I'm somehow responsible. I'm really ticked off at my boyfriend, and on the verge of breaking up with him.

The other night I was writing a letter to Alison, I'm not good at confrontations, and thought the next best thing would be a letter of apology. Aaron saw that I was writing this letter and blew up, we had a huge argument where I ended up storming out of the apartment with a garbage bag full of my clothes. I'm now back at home with my parents because I needed a break from the shit storm back at home with my friends.

I didn't talk to Aaron for two days afterwards until he called me yesterday being all apologetic, but still not taking responsibility.


Is there anything more that I can do? Should I dump the bastard?

I go home tomorrow back into this mess, and need some advice as to what I should do.