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I pretty much agree with anyone else. Put the ball in her court: if she wants to break up again, this time it's for good. She has to decide whether she wants to do that or not. Make a big deal about it, though in a nice way.
You might actually be doing her a favor by doing this: while there are a lot of not-good reasons for her doing what she's doing, she might be one of those people who feels like they're getting emotionally in too deep for them to handle, then backs out. Then when she calms down, she wants to come back again.
Assuming that this is the situation, though, she has to learn to deal -- instead of running away, settle in a communicate what the problem is to you, and you both work it out together. It may be that she doesn't know how to do this. When you say she gives incompatibility as a reason for breakups, that makes me think that she just doesn't know how to work out differences with you, and so flees rather than hangs in. For a while.
Anyway, next time she tries it, offer to work out any issues she's got -- ask her point blank what's up, she may not be good at articulating her feelings (at least not to guys) -- offer her support if she stays, but tell her that if she goes, that's it. If she doesn't have consequences like that to deal with, she'll never change. And if she won't change, you have to accept that and move on, for your own good.
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