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Skettios · 04-10-2004, 10:05 PM

Hey bro,

nothing to worry about here. Your situation isn't the slightest bit abnormal. There's hope too, because college is going to be a great opportunity for you. Remember, no one at college knows you, so you don't have to be the shy guy.

First things first. Live in the dorms. I'm still friends with many of the people I met in the dorms, and I'm out of school for a year now. Dorms at my school typically ate together, and went to parties together. I say, until you're feeling confident, just stick with the group. Absolutely do every group activity, they're not only fun, but provide useful social networking.

Next step... parties. I'm giving you unconditional permission to get loaded. If that's what you have to do, to stop being nervous and relax, then by all means. Don't overdo it, but remember, a little social lubricant can go a long way. It makes introductions smooth, conversation easier, and girls prettier. In college, there's no such thing as bad publicity. If you get wasted, and bring home roadkill of a girl, or if you get sick and puke in the hall, people won't hate you, they'll think it's funny. It's all a part of the shared experience.

Finally... Class. Be the guy that talks in class. Go to office hours, the prof will respect you for it. I never got below a B in any class where I went and talked to the prof. Go to every class, it will be difficult, but all you really have to do in college to get the grade is show up for class. Be the guy that starts the study group. People respect that, and odds are there will be cute girls in your classes that need help with their homework. Studying together also takes some of the pain out of the harder classes. One of my college girlfriends, I met because we studied together for philosophy class (she was impressed because I filled out the whole exam without opening a book, but that's a different story). If your school has a kiniesiology program, I recommend a health and nutrition class, it's useful information and full of girls.

Remember, as a freshman, that everyone is going to feel new and relatively insecure. No one is going to judge your actions, so feel free to do whatever you want.

I hope this helps, and wish you the best of luck in college. You're gonna have a great time.

04-10-2004, 10:05 PM	#3 (permalink)
Skettios Condition: Stable and Improving Location: Finger on the little red button.	Hey bro, nothing to worry about here. Your situation isn't the slightest bit abnormal. There's hope too, because college is going to be a great opportunity for you. Remember, no one at college knows you, so you don't have to be the shy guy. First things first. Live in the dorms. I'm still friends with many of the people I met in the dorms, and I'm out of school for a year now. Dorms at my school typically ate together, and went to parties together. I say, until you're feeling confident, just stick with the group. Absolutely do every group activity, they're not only fun, but provide useful social networking. Next step... parties. I'm giving you unconditional permission to get loaded. If that's what you have to do, to stop being nervous and relax, then by all means. Don't overdo it, but remember, a little social lubricant can go a long way. It makes introductions smooth, conversation easier, and girls prettier. In college, there's no such thing as bad publicity. If you get wasted, and bring home roadkill of a girl, or if you get sick and puke in the hall, people won't hate you, they'll think it's funny. It's all a part of the shared experience. Finally... Class. Be the guy that talks in class. Go to office hours, the prof will respect you for it. I never got below a B in any class where I went and talked to the prof. Go to every class, it will be difficult, but all you really have to do in college to get the grade is show up for class. Be the guy that starts the study group. People respect that, and odds are there will be cute girls in your classes that need help with their homework. Studying together also takes some of the pain out of the harder classes. One of my college girlfriends, I met because we studied together for philosophy class (she was impressed because I filled out the whole exam without opening a book, but that's a different story). If your school has a kiniesiology program, I recommend a health and nutrition class, it's useful information and full of girls. Remember, as a freshman, that everyone is going to feel new and relatively insecure. No one is going to judge your actions, so feel free to do whatever you want. I hope this helps, and wish you the best of luck in college. You're gonna have a great time. __________________ Convictions are more dangerous enemies of truth than lies. Frederich Nietzsche