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32/male here. I know exactly how you feel. At the club you have your groove on and the ladies respond to man who can move on the floor. Afterwards is the hard part. Will she think less of me when she see's my car in the parking lot? Or think I'm a loser because I have a studio apt.
The fear of losing that good thing you had going is strong. Or even worse. Not even starting that conversation with her because she drives a late model Honda. Obviously I am out of her league.
I compensated with dating larger women or single mothers. Their expectations are lower so I have nothing to worry about. Something to be said for taking the easy route. At least I wasn't lonely.
The problem came when I realized that I couldn't build a true love on such a foundation.
My confidence turned around when I realized that all those "unattainable" women are just normal people. Treat them like your cousin. Make them feel like they are family with you. Your family doesn't care what car you drive. They just care your about your health and ur happiness.
I may be wrong. But it won't hurt to try. Loosen up and let events unfold without the pressure.
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