Hey there everyone, I'm pretty new here but I've made a few posts. In any event I need some re-assurance that perhaps I'm not crazy, or if I am someone please just smack me. So here's the situation. (Sorry it's so long winded)
I'm your typical 18 year old college student. Aside from taking a full time schedule at school I train and compete dressage horses. I've worked long and hard to get to where I am in my training, which includes buying myself my dream horse (which I've spend YEARS saving for) which I will be training to the top levels of the sport, should she decide that's what she'd like to do.
Enter the boyfriend stage left. We met in one of our classes, and started dating shortly there after. We went out for coffee once and it was basically serious from that point. He's the kind of guy who's a lady’s man, and has been with several girls already this year (fuck buddies). I knew he was into the sex thing and made it clear from the start that a. I was a virgin. b. I wasn't ready for the responsibility of sex. And c. that I would need LOTS (more than he ended up giving me) of time before we had sex. He'd bring up sex and I'd remind him the reasons I wasn't ready and it'd drop. He'd bring up other girls he knew that he could have sex with, and I'd remind him that was rude. He kept the panties of girls that he'd had sex with, which offended me and I told him. Mind you, I'm not a total prude and he was getting other satisifaction without sex.
A few days before our two month mile stone, he brought up sex again. He said he'd been thinking about it a lot, and wanted to know a time frame. I said I couldn't give him a time frame because if I went longer than that it would be another issue. The main thing that got me was him saying "I've worked so hard to be at a point in my life where I'm sexually active, I'm not sure I can give that up." *How hard is it to get it up? He made it sound like he had to train to have sex!* This eventually led to the break up. He couldn't say flat out that he just wanted to have sex, so I said it for him and we parted ways.
I wish it would have been that easy but it's been almost two weeks and I finally have convinced him to stop calling me, crying, apologizing saying that sex doesn't matter. However, he still leaves flowers on my car, and makes group work difficult in class.
Am I crazy? It's hard for me to believe that A. he can care about me so much that he'll cry over me - and not just a little, but huge gut wrenching sobs. B. that he can bug me about sex for two months, and then when I dump him all of a sudden it's "I can forget about sex, it doesn't matter to me."