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Speaking from long experience here.
It is time to move on for at least a little while. Don't do it looking backwards (towards your relationship with her) either. Much of life not only has to do with feelings but timing. Her "time off" to work on herself is a bit suspicious to me. It sounds like she was having some thoughts about the relationship and wanted to date around. Relationships are not only built on your feelings for each other but communication and the maturity to handle it. It sounds to me like you guys aren't quite at the great communication stage yet (maybe due to her maturity or both of yours). This could work itself out over time. The best thing to do is just let her go and do her own thing. If it so happens that circumstances allow you to get back together later, great, but the danger in this is that you guys already have an established pattern in your relationship. It is awfully difficult to break the mold and learn new behaviors. It is possible, but you both must work at it or it will fail.
From my own experience, going back to an old relationship just never worked. However we both made the mistakes I mentioned above. In my own long marriage now, we have had parts where we both wanted out (early on) since we weren't communicating as well as we should. However, in a marriage, it just isn't as easy to "leave" and we both always really loved each other. We worked it out and developed new patterns of communication that have served us well over the last 8 years or so.
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