hmm..since most people before me have pointed you to a eastern phiosophical standpoint of introspectiion, i guess i can point out a few western possibility::: there are several paths in my opinion with the major phisophers of the west... you can go for the good o' aristolian type of life. live life with a medium (never the extreme) as virtue and so on and maybe just as aristotle said, you will find "flourishing". Or you can follow Kant. using the catagorical empirative (can't spell..sigh) you can discover how to act upon the maxim of moral laws. maybe by living with strict logical principles and duties you will find enlightenment. If THAT doen't work, maybe you can adopt utilitarianism and follow Mill's greatest happiness principle. Essentially ask yoursefl if your action will make the most amount of people happy while restrcting the amount of grief. Well these are only three choices from the major western philosophers, i'm sure you'll find something right for you. try reading:: "The Great Conversation" by Melchert . it may give you some insight on what pepole in the past of have done to cope with this question
