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^^ I would rather make it a choice, to see that they have a choice and that they can experience the consequences of the choice they make. We always ask our son to say, clean up his toys before he does something he wants- even if it takes a while, he will eventually do it, because he may think "if I don't clean them up, I won't get what I wanted. But if I clean them up, I will be able to get it." Saying IF definately implies a choice, and I want my child to be raised on independent choice, so that he is able to see that his choices affect what happen. It's good for thinking out choices and actions beforehand. Because, for now he tends to just experience the consequences, but down the road he will remember the consequences of the experience before, and think through his choices the next time. It helps them realize that there is choice and consequences, and that he is aloud to make choices.
Either they can do what they are asked to do in order to do what they want to do, or they can face the consequences of not making the wisest choice.
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