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Because many of us aren't totally happy unless something is changing. I had this same issue a few years back. My career wasn't working out the way I wanted it to, and I didn't have the cash to go back to skill for my MBA the way I wanted to. I took it out on my wife a bit and blamed her for my failures. It took almost losing her before I realized that my home life was the least of my problems and just a handy scapegoat. We worked it out, and she became #1 to me again (as she should have been all along). This was 7 years ago now, and I have never been happier.
I now choose to focus the changes I want in my life in my career, school, my fitness level. I still like things changing, but I focus my energy on the things that can actually be improved. Feeling attraction to someone else is perfectly natural, but when you really think about what would happen if you did something about it (and it looks like you have started doing this), then you will just enjoy the mutual attraction and not act on it. My wife and I are good friends with another couple, and I'm very attracted to the wife, but it would absolutely never go beyond just a flirtation level. The reason I know this is that a vagina is a vagina no matter who it is attached to and one is not better than another. It is the love and intense trust that I have with my wife that makes my family life as happy as it is. That is the thing that can't be replaced.
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