this is definitely an interesting situation, I'd have to agree with you and Prince here. I like the idea of the duplex as opposed to sharing a house, and having such a tightly knit group could work well if a kid was introduced to the situation. You always have great opinions, Lurkette and Ratbastid, and I'm guessing that this other couple are like-minded people (otherwise I doubt you'd love them as much as you do). A quartet such as this would create a wonderful environment to raise children if that were to happen.
I as well as others here profess to prefer monogamy over other forms of relationships, but I'm very happy for you two and your friends (and I'm mighty proud of your openness about everything), and from the way you speak of this situation, your instincts might be right
You don't need our opinions to validate your convictions, but go for it!