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Originally posted by yournamehere
Courtesy <i>should</i> work both ways.
I will always give up a seat or hold a door for a lady - that's just the way I was brought up.
When a lady thanks me for it, she gets a polite "You're welcome." in response.
If she <i>doesn't</i> thank me, she gets an even louder "You're welcome."
But I'll still do it again next time. It's just the right thing to do, IMHO.
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Thats exactly how I feel, and exactly what I try to do.
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Originally posted by motdakasha
there is a difference between chivalry and courtesy. the underlying message behind chivalry is that a woman is supposed to be weak and helpless; it is the man's duty to protect a woman because she is a frail creature.
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I DONT agree with you at all on this one. It was stated earlier that chivalry was not created because of the belief of women being inherently weaker (Although the idea was dominant at the time). Chivalry IS courtesy towards women without question. I can understand that you dont want to be treated as "a weak little girl", and I respect that. However, when someone holds a door for you or attempts to carry something for you, its not neccesarily because they think you're weaker. I personally will always carry my girlfriends luggage or anything heavy, not because I think she's weak (I know perfectly well that she can carry those things) but because I think its respectful. She doesnt take it for granted however, and always holds the door if she gets there first etc..
My thoughts may have gotten a little garbled, so I'l sum up.
Chivalry doest not view women as weaker
Chivalry is a sign of respect towards women
Im not sexist
I dont expect my courtesy towards women to go un-appreciated
That is all