lurkette

I just posted in another thread that ratbastid and I are involved in a polyamorous relationship with another couple, whom we absolutely adore. We'd been friends for a few years before we started sleeping together, and the last few months have just seen us get closer.

One of the challenges of the relationship has been that they live an hour away. We're driving back and forth a couple of times a week, which is pretty annoying. A few weeks ago, a house down the street from them went on the market, and the seeds of a Cockamamie Idea (TM) were hatched. I could totally see living with these people. We love them both, we have a blast together, we all get along great, they want to have kids and we don't so we could babysit and not have to have our own kids but could still contribute to someone's upbringing, and they wouldn't have to move to be by family to get free babysitting.

I mentioned the Cockamamie Idea to them a few days ago, and they're enthusiastic in principle. Which surprises me, since only a week or so ago D (the wife, our girlfriend) was saying that she's not sure how long-term she wants this to be, etc. etc. (The sexual part of things - we're irrevocably best friended now.) Granted, she sometimes just says things and the act of saying them resolves whatever uncertainty she has. Something we need to find out about, though.

Anyhow, I started the ball rolling and now we're actually starting to talk about this like it could happen, and I'm wondering...

...are we nuts?

I honestly could see spending the rest of my life with these people. This might be the thing they need to allow them to stay here and have everything they want (they'd been talking about moving near family for when they have kids, although they don't really want to live anywhere their families live - it would just be a convenience thing). But it would mean uprooting ourselves, moving out of our gorgeous freshly painted house (paint is cheap), away from our dear friends who live on our block (we have half a dozen friends who live on our street or near us with whom we hang out every Friday). Granted, we're driving back and forth so much now it wouldn't be any big deal to drive back and forth the other direction to see these guys. A lot of the things we love to do are in this other city and in a way it would be really convenient. But...it's such a big move! Am I just having rational cold feet, or should I jump on in the way I usually do with Cockamamie Ideas (which, BTW, ALWAYS turn out well - buying a house in the first place was a CI, as was getting a dog, getting hardwood floors, renewing our vows and taking our entire families, all 20 of them who showed up, to the beach at the same time - I have a long and successful CI track record) and just know that this is what I want?

(BTW, ratbastid, you've been really quiet about this particular CI, and I'd love to hear what your thoughts are, here or IRL. Mwah!)

Edit: P.S.: Jobs are not an issue, since ratbastid works for himself and my job is portable. We could both work from wherever we wanted.

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