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This "too close" stuff is such nonsense. I read somewhere that we live like our feelings are these precious objects to be guarded and sheltered, like we'll die if our feelings get injured. IMHO that's a slow death. Might as well just curl up and quit now if that's how you're going to live.
I say keep doing things the way you're doing. If you want to be open and try new things and be passionate, do it! The people who can't take it will fall away, and the people who can will become your circle of friends. It makes no sense to be hurt by the people who pull away - they're pulling away because of their own internal shit, not because of you. Learn to have compassion for them.
There's also something to be said, though, for moderation, and for respecting other people's comfort levels. You can feel things intensely and express yourself intensely in an appropriate way, and without demanding the same of those around you. I don't know what causes some people to back away because they're getting too close, but chances are it's because they feel uncomfortable. You can choose to accommodate that comfort level and moderate your behavior, or you can choose to live the way you want to live and accept the consequences.
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