Uptown,
If you think he is the issue, then dump him. End of conversation. I'm going to agree with the others. Why not take some time away from him, and get some counseling? You seem to have some serious issues with yourself; here is my unofficial take on it, since you did ask for help ( sorry folks, this may be a long post)
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I can barely raise my face from the floor to look at him..
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If you cannot look at him, leave the relationship. he isn't worthy.
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The thought of ever being seen naked by him again makes me want to cry,I mean hey my stomach is obviously disgusting to him and he should be spared the horror of having to look at it.At this point I can't even look him in the face without wondering if he's measuring my eye circles which now loom larger than life...
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Then you need to leave him. this is the second instance in two posts about your confidence.
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How my lover feels about my appearance and my body has a huge impact on me and my sexuality and I doubt I'm alone in my viewpoint on this.
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Correct, leave him and find a lover that doesn't make you feel like that
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I am spared the shame of having to remove my clothing and exposing the body that he finds so disgusting to him and because my long hair will hide my face so he will be spared the view of my unslightly baggy eyes.
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You've mentioned this almost every reply.
... never-mind, I'm not going to quote all this, since it's basically the same thing..
You need to work on or consider the following things:
1. To me it seems your confidence is in the negative and was NOT much higher before this. You mention that you have to work toward confidence, this is not normal for the majority of the populace. Could possibly your confidence in yourself rub off on the relationship? I know it would for me.
2. From your post you seem to be using sex as a guilt trip, if you cannot have sex with him, he is not your lover. leave him or you all need to change, fast
3. Why do you need surgery? Love is, and should be blind. if it is a confidence thing, why not some counseling before hand, I'm sure it's going to be a lot cheaper, and may prove better results. If it is something psychological then when you get your stomach fixed it will be something else.
4. We in NO way can or should make ANY decisions for you. You should be seeking the guidance of someone that is not emotionally involved or someone who will not take a side to help this issue. A pastor or your minister perhaps?
I really hope I haven't offended you, as it was not my intent. I just feel you have some big emotional issues that go alot deeper than just this issue. I had a friend in highschool that had some of the same issues and she did not get any treatment, she commited suicide a couple of years after highschool. She just refused to believe anything was wrong.
Feel free to PM me if I an be of any help.