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SecretMethod70 · 03-29-2004, 11:17 AM

can't say I'm particularly familiar with your posts/problems, but I agree with redlemon.

Listen, there are plenty of things I could say"aren't perfect" about onodrim and plenty of things she could say the same for me. I don't think our relationship has any basis on the ruse that either of us are perfectly attractive.

Perhaps your boyfriend, just like you, looks at the whole package as far as attractiveness. So, he said you have bags under your eyes. But that doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive at all. It just means you have bags under your eyes. Big deal - so do a ton of people.

I think - and again, I'm not familiar with your previous posts offhand - that he was simply saying what you should do if you wanted to try and be "perfect." Well, no one's perfect, and I think if he expected you to be he wouldn't be with you.

There's a big difference between a relationship based on a dream world wheer you don't acknowledge the fact your partners not perfect and a relationship based on the reality that neither of you are perfect and love BECAUSE of that fact, rather than in spite of it.

Of course, there's always the possiblity that he's just a complete jerk in which case you should dump him, but to be honest, based on your posts in this thread, I get a much bigger "self-esteem problem" vibe.

03-29-2004, 11:17 AM	#29 (permalink)
SecretMethod70 Human Administrator Location: Chicago	can't say I'm particularly familiar with your posts/problems, but I agree with redlemon. Listen, there are plenty of things I could say"aren't perfect" about onodrim and plenty of things she could say the same for me. I don't think our relationship has any basis on the ruse that either of us are perfectly attractive. Perhaps your boyfriend, just like you, looks at the whole package as far as attractiveness. So, he said you have bags under your eyes. But that doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive at all. It just means you have bags under your eyes. Big deal - so do a ton of people. I think - and again, I'm not familiar with your previous posts offhand - that he was simply saying what you should do if you wanted to try and be "perfect." Well, no one's perfect, and I think if he expected you to be he wouldn't be with you. There's a big difference between a relationship based on a dream world wheer you don't acknowledge the fact your partners not perfect and a relationship based on the reality that neither of you are perfect and love BECAUSE of that fact, rather than in spite of it. Of course, there's always the possiblity that he's just a complete jerk in which case you should dump him, but to be honest, based on your posts in this thread, I get a much bigger "self-esteem problem" vibe. __________________ Le temps détruit tout "Musicians are the carriers and communicators of spirit in the most immediate sense." - Kurt Elling Last edited by SecretMethod70; 03-29-2004 at 11:21 AM..