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Thanks for the help so far guys. However, now that afew posts have come in, I'm going to explain how he's cost me since then (albeit indirectly)...

That changed this past December. I was best friends with a girl (Leigh) for about the past year or two, and she had been in a serious relationship with a cop named JB. They got engaged in September, then broke up a week later and never could get it fixed again. Meanwhile, Jon had admitted to Leigh that he ~loved~ her, even though he hadn't hardly seen her or talked to her in months. They got to talking, and Leigh knew how I felt about Jon. I told her that I don't like the guy and I'd be afraid it'd hurt or even destroy our friendship, but I'd wish her all the happiness with him I could if she did get him. Leigh was convinced it'd all work out.

In late December, they're officially together, and he moves in with her.

Leigh now blames me for our friendship going to hell because I don't want to be around him, while I tell her that I still want to be friends with her but not him (it worked with JB, and I thought JB was a cool guy, too). It's also hard to do much about it when she sides with Jon in everything I mentioned ("you don't understand what it's like to break up in a serious relationship"). My only wish is that we could hang out some without me having to be around Jon because she's known how badly I dislike him ever since I started to dislike him. Her response last month was that they "were already at the point of only having couple-friends", so I'm either friends with both of them or neither of them...and they were only together for two months then, while her and JB were together for just short of two years yet we were as close as anybody can be.

It's a damn shame that to keep my best friend, I'd have to throw my standards out of the window and consistantly put up with people who's done me wrong. That's why I wonder if it's worth holding this grudge...but it's really too late now, because Leigh and I are nothing like we once were, and it's hard to imagine us getting back to that point, especially while she's still with Jon. Plus, to beat all, her and Jon are goin' to move to Chattanooga when she graduates from high school this year, so our friendship time would be very little before colleges pull us apart anyways.

That's really why I made this post, to see if people blame me for being mad at him. I don't want to have lost my best friend because of something irrational on my part.

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