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Skettios has it mostly right here. It is so easy to say not to give a shit, but I have found that if you do that you are denying who you are. Some of us are just built to give a shit. Some other people are not. However, practice in some ways does make perfect. It is all about getting in touch with what you do well and who you are and feeling comfortable with it.
For example, at one time I was testing 7 grade levels above my current level when in elementary school. All of a sudden I was set apart, but my confidence wasn't that good. I breezed through high school, college, work (mostly) and along the way people kept telling me what an amazing person I was. Academics wasn't who I was however. It took meeting my wife and having a successful relationship with her to get comfortable with myself and realize how I could make a difference in the world. Now I am pretty much at peace with who I am. I had certain goals in life related to financial independence and work success that I have now set aside. I'm basically into becoming the best person I can be through learning more about myself and trying to improve. It is actually funny. I'm experiencing more success and happiness now that I have kind of set aside my goals and not trying so hard.
Confidence is one of those things that just sneaks up on you. Practicing it can help, but the true change will come with age and personal accomplishment that you acknowledge within.
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