BlueBongo

Well, you're going to feel hurt. I don't think there's any way around that at all. Wether you push him away or keep him around as a friend, unfortunately, the feelings are still there.

I would say break away from him for a while and take some time for yourself to figure things out. If you would be comfortable with him around as a friend go for it... but just be careful with that. I think just breaking away for a while and sort of "finding" yourself or just reflecting... would probably be best.

Not that it's helpful, but in my experience with breakups after a couple years of being together it is hard. I would take time to myself away from them and I figured if we wound up communicating again, then that was fine. But I have a hard time remaining good friends with ex-boyfriends. I still talk to some of them, but I wouldn't call them friends. I don't care about them talking about their current relationships, I'm happy for them to have been able to move on and get married and be happy themselves. But I felt it best to break away for a while, sometimes a year or two, just to take care of myself. But I'm pretty "independently" minded.. so it may be different for someone else.

That's my 2 or 20 cents.

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