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Rlyss · 03-10-2004, 02:49 PM

Hi everyone, I've got a bit of a problem...

My friend is a really terrible driver. She doesn't believe there are blindspots in her car, so she never does head checks, and she never uses her mirrors. She changes lanes without indicating or looking, she slams on the brakes at lights, she accelerates excrutiatingly slowly. She doesn't look while turning, she doesn't look at intersections, she doesn't look out for Stop or Give Way signs, she doesn't look when she reverses.

Yesterday I was a passenger and I had to yank the handbrake on to avoid hitting a lady and her toddler and a baby in a pram at a pedestrian crossing which she didn't even notice.

Needless to say I am terrified being in her car.

If I insist on her driving her car then we almost die every time, and she doesn't seem to care, she just laughs it off and says 'I'm such a terrible driver!' and if I insist on driving her car she lets me, and I feel awful for not letting her get more experience, which she obviously needs.

I can't drive my car all the time. I share it with my family, and among 5 drivers we have one car. I'm not complaining, just stating a fact. Among four people in her family she has 4 cars.... that is, she has her own car, AND her parents pay for all her petrol, so it makes sense for her to drive at least as much as me if we decide to go out.

That's the thing, though - in order for us not to die, I have to drive either my car or hers, either way I'm either using my family's hard-earned petrol and hoarding the car, or I drive her car and still do all the work.

Sorry for the long-winded post here, the incident at the pedestrian crossing got me really scared and angry at her that she didn't seem to care that she almost hit a lady and her two children at 60km/h.

What am I supposed to do? She drives to work and university 5 days a week, uses a whole tank of gas in one week, so she does drive a lot. And in the two years I've known her she hasn't improved her driving with that amount of experience. So I'm terrified knowing she's out on the roads.

What am I supposed to do? Do I insist I drive my car everywhere? Do I insist on driving her car and letting her ride in the passenger seat? Do I just try and be patient with her and keep teaching her as I sit white-knuckled in the passenger seat? Do I tell her straight out that I won't be in her car anymore?

I'm really at a loss here and I honstly think it's just a matter of time before something bad happens, and I feel like it'll be my fault.

Thanks everyone.

03-10-2004, 02:49 PM	#1 (permalink)
Rlyss The Pusher Location: Edinburgh	Friends and driving Hi everyone, I've got a bit of a problem... My friend is a really terrible driver. She doesn't believe there are blindspots in her car, so she never does head checks, and she never uses her mirrors. She changes lanes without indicating or looking, she slams on the brakes at lights, she accelerates excrutiatingly slowly. She doesn't look while turning, she doesn't look at intersections, she doesn't look out for Stop or Give Way signs, she doesn't look when she reverses. Yesterday I was a passenger and I had to yank the handbrake on to avoid hitting a lady and her toddler and a baby in a pram at a pedestrian crossing which she didn't even notice. Needless to say I am terrified being in her car. If I insist on her driving her car then we almost die every time, and she doesn't seem to care, she just laughs it off and says 'I'm such a terrible driver!' and if I insist on driving her car she lets me, and I feel awful for not letting her get more experience, which she obviously needs. I can't drive my car all the time. I share it with my family, and among 5 drivers we have one car. I'm not complaining, just stating a fact. Among four people in her family she has 4 cars.... that is, she has her own car, AND her parents pay for all her petrol, so it makes sense for her to drive at least as much as me if we decide to go out. That's the thing, though - in order for us not to die, I have to drive either my car or hers, either way I'm either using my family's hard-earned petrol and hoarding the car, or I drive her car and still do all the work. Sorry for the long-winded post here, the incident at the pedestrian crossing got me really scared and angry at her that she didn't seem to care that she almost hit a lady and her two children at 60km/h. What am I supposed to do? She drives to work and university 5 days a week, uses a whole tank of gas in one week, so she does drive a lot. And in the two years I've known her she hasn't improved her driving with that amount of experience. So I'm terrified knowing she's out on the roads. What am I supposed to do? Do I insist I drive my car everywhere? Do I insist on driving her car and letting her ride in the passenger seat? Do I just try and be patient with her and keep teaching her as I sit white-knuckled in the passenger seat? Do I tell her straight out that I won't be in her car anymore? I'm really at a loss here and I honstly think it's just a matter of time before something bad happens, and I feel like it'll be my fault. Thanks everyone.