John Henry

My girlfriend of over a year phoned me up tonight to tell me she snogged her best friend at university last night. I knew from the tone of her voice that she was going to tell me she had cheated on me, but I was very suprised when she said it was with another girl. For some reason, this made me much less jealous than if it had been with a man.

She has never cheated on me before (as far as I know) but only last week I started getting paranoid that she might have and confronted her on the matter.

I know that when this happened, she was pretty much as drunk as she's ever been and when she told me about it today, she was really really upset. She said they had been playing spin the bottle with pecks on the cheek and that she had got a bit carried away/done it for a laugh/done it because she needed some affection.

I told her that I could forgive her, because it didn't really bother me somehow and in a strange way, I trust her more now that I know she was able to talk to me about this.

In my heart I have forgiven her and I trust her, but my head is telling me otherwise. Do I need to worry about this? Could it mean that she's been cheating on me with blokes, but not telling me? Should I pursue the issue or let it lie? Does anyone here have experience of a similar situation? I would particularly appreciate a female perspective on this, but any advice is appreciated.

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