I tend to think that a bit of it might be mental. I know that when I first started having sex, I was really concentrating on it, my brain was in overload and I would have performance problems like not being able to cum when she was ready, or not being able to get it up like you said, but when you just relax, let your emotions and everything flow, it tends to release that tension and bring everything back into check. Also maybe don't do something sexual to get yourself arroused, but sensual, like giving her a nice warm oil massage, no matter her position if shes lying down once you became aroused you could just dive in right there and even continue the massage at the same time if you can multitask. Anyways, that's just my 2 cents as he said about basketball or anything get something else in check and everything else falls into play, positive reinforcement. You want to pleasure her, give her oral, finger her, play with her breasts, do what she likes, her moans of pleasure should be enough to get you going and then WHAM let it happen. Also no shame in Viagra at all, if it is a medical problem, that's what it's for. So use it.
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