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skysooner · 03-01-2004, 07:42 AM

This is a difficult situation in that it is something new. However, the best advice is just to communicate. The whole purpose of this is to open new avenues of experience for yourself. If there is something that you would feel absolutely uncomfortable about doing (i.e. messing around with him), then you need to make sure that is not in their expectations. I would be worried about the situation if all they want to do is jump in bed immediately. While this can be fun, it is not conducive to the best experience. I have actually done this twice. The first time was a jump into bed experience with a married woman and her boyfriend. It was just too quick, and there was nothing communicated. I just felt used after the whole thing. The second we took a little more time (maybe 2 to 3 hours to have dinner and drinks) and get to know each other. That lasted almost 9 months, and I looked forward to it everytime. Neither situation involved man to man stuff as I am not into that, but if there had been that expecation without us discussing it, then it could have been a real problem. This was a long time ago prior to my marriage so my experience isn't recent, but things don't really change all that much when it comes to sex.

03-01-2004, 07:42 AM	#6 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	This is a difficult situation in that it is something new. However, the best advice is just to communicate. The whole purpose of this is to open new avenues of experience for yourself. If there is something that you would feel absolutely uncomfortable about doing (i.e. messing around with him), then you need to make sure that is not in their expectations. I would be worried about the situation if all they want to do is jump in bed immediately. While this can be fun, it is not conducive to the best experience. I have actually done this twice. The first time was a jump into bed experience with a married woman and her boyfriend. It was just too quick, and there was nothing communicated. I just felt used after the whole thing. The second we took a little more time (maybe 2 to 3 hours to have dinner and drinks) and get to know each other. That lasted almost 9 months, and I looked forward to it everytime. Neither situation involved man to man stuff as I am not into that, but if there had been that expecation without us discussing it, then it could have been a real problem. This was a long time ago prior to my marriage so my experience isn't recent, but things don't really change all that much when it comes to sex. Last edited by skysooner; 03-01-2004 at 07:48 AM..