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Supple Cow · 02-29-2004, 09:49 PM

I'm a big person for taking responsibility for things that are, well, my responsibility. I do my best with this, and when somebody points out that I'm not being responsible, I try to rectify it by correcting my behavior as soon as possible. This also leads me to expect the same from others, as much as I try not to expect much of anything from anyone.

My problem is that I'm a very emotional person once a month, during PMS, and I have been since I've been old enough to get my period. Every month, PMS sneaks up on me and starts mixing my ridiculous crankiness in with the real problems I'm having and the two become indistinguishable until it's too late (too late being the point after I've already said many stupid things to my boyfriend and we are in a fight). I know it's my fault once I realize what's happening, but at the same time, I can't really tell when it's going to happen and I don't exactly do it on purpose, so it isn't REALLY my fault. My only recourse (and this is me taking responsibility) is to recognize that this happens and to mistrust all of my feelings this week. Frankly, that sucks.

Who then should be responsible for avoiding this - should I put a reminder on my wall to stop trusting my own thoughts and feelings next month in a given week (and have a quarter of my remaining years before menopause suck) or should my boyfriend be held a little responsible for being a little more sensitive and forgiving once a month (when he's so good at keeping track of when I'm going to get my period anyway)?

(Ultimately, I feel like it is irresponsible for me to even think about asking him to do this, but the irrational PMS-ing part of my brain is forcing me to write this now. My, will I ever be glad when this week is over!)

02-29-2004, 09:49 PM	#1 (permalink)
Supple Cow Americow, the Beautiful Location: Washington, D.C.	whose responsibility? I'm a big person for taking responsibility for things that are, well, my responsibility. I do my best with this, and when somebody points out that I'm not being responsible, I try to rectify it by correcting my behavior as soon as possible. This also leads me to expect the same from others, as much as I try not to expect much of anything from anyone. My problem is that I'm a very emotional person once a month, during PMS, and I have been since I've been old enough to get my period. Every month, PMS sneaks up on me and starts mixing my ridiculous crankiness in with the real problems I'm having and the two become indistinguishable until it's too late (too late being the point after I've already said many stupid things to my boyfriend and we are in a fight). I know it's my fault once I realize what's happening, but at the same time, I can't really tell when it's going to happen and I don't exactly do it on purpose, so it isn't REALLY my fault. My only recourse (and this is me taking responsibility) is to recognize that this happens and to mistrust all of my feelings this week. Frankly, that sucks. Who then should be responsible for avoiding this - should I put a reminder on my wall to stop trusting my own thoughts and feelings next month in a given week (and have a quarter of my remaining years before menopause suck) or should my boyfriend be held a little responsible for being a little more sensitive and forgiving once a month (when he's so good at keeping track of when I'm going to get my period anyway)? (Ultimately, I feel like it is irresponsible for me to even think about asking him to do this, but the irrational PMS-ing part of my brain is forcing me to write this now. My, will I ever be glad when this week is over!) __________________ "I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." (Michael Jordan)