Advice on How to ask a Girl out (note: this thread is two years old) - Page 2 - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

777 · 11-28-2005, 11:29 PM

Mantus · 11-29-2005, 09:34 AM

Awsome! Way to go jbleed.

ratbastid · 12-11-2005, 09:24 AM

Hey, mods: this thread should be sticky! Whenever somebody has a "does she like me" question, we can just send them here!

match000 · 12-12-2005, 01:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martian

Things are going well. Don't fixate, don't think you're in love and do not set up expectations now. She may decide that she doesn't like you. She may have decided that early on Friday night and spent the rest of the evening being polite while privately thinking 'why won't this jerk leave me alone?'. She may meet another guy between now and your next date and decide she'd rather be with him. She may even have already decided that you'd make a better friend than lover. She may do or have done all of those things, or she may be madly head-over-heels in love with you. The direct approach here will likely only result in making everyone uncomfortable and may even destroy what you've built up so far. So my advice to you now is to take things slowly and just go with the flow. If you don't set any expectations of how this is going to develop then you won't be hurt or disappointed when they aren't met and if things don't work out for the best you can smile and truly say 'all the best' to her.

Or that's my two cents, anyway.

Man this is so true. I think its something that experience builds you up to be able to do what you said; first times are always tricky and well, you fall over pretty darn fast over nothing... at least I did.

joeyaz · 12-19-2005, 05:42 PM

Lol well it is over

So her ex who is in the military I guess came back into town..I get a text from her by accident directed to him saying how much she missed him blah blah..

Then she textes back that she was sorry that was not for me..

I had gotten weird vibes from her since Saturday when she said she was going out with friends and I didn't hear back from her till Sunday after I finally texted her before that we were still hanging out daily and talking all day and now nothing.

"we need to talk"

She told me she needed some time to figure out things.

So I figured I'd cut the cord now I told her no games were necessary and wished her good times and hoped she found what she is looking for.

Hit me harder than I thought it could since we had only been seeing each other for a short while..but I would not take anything back it was GREAT.

Well guess I'm back to the singles market ..maybe next time it wont be so hard to ask someone I like out

joemc91 · 12-19-2005, 09:40 PM

I'm sorry to hear how it went, I know how you feel right now. I wish you luck and keep looking up!

Martian · 12-19-2005, 09:59 PM

jbleed - Sorry. Life sucks sometimes. At least you had some good times with her and can walk away with no regrets and a minimum of hurt feelings.

So now you're back in the game. Keep looking and don't let this get you down. You'll go through a hundred wrong girls in order to find the right one, maybe more. That's just how these things work.

Try to carry what you learned from her over into your next relationship. You now realize that at these early stages absolutely nothing is set in stone. I know you probably don't want to hear it, but she didn't do anything wrong here. Neither did you. You're both looking for what's best for yourselves and she decided that it was her ex. The next one may decide that it's you. Or the one after that. Or after that. Etc.

You fell, so now you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on with your life.

Good luck.

Cynthetiq · 12-20-2005, 01:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martian

You fell, so now you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on with your life.

Good luck.

best advice!!!

joeyaz · 12-29-2005, 05:21 PM

It stung a bit at first from one day to the next but it wasn't so bad..

Thanks for the advice I will use it best I can. Well when we talked I think she was a bit stunned that maybe I didn't put up a fight I was just like.."okay if thats how you feel I'll deal with it"

So I feel a bit cheated now..she called and told me she had a christmas gift for me and that we could exchange gifts ..so I went out and bought something to give her and now she doesn't call..I'm too stubborn to call her..how long should I wait before I return the gift ?

Hat · 12-29-2005, 11:39 PM

I'd imagine that exchanging gifts a week after christmas with the girl you just broke up with would be pretty depressing. My advice is to return it, put her out of your mind and move on.

Not that I'd be able to follow my own advice...it's always so easy to see what to do unless you're the one that has to make the decision. And that really sucks.

Unicase · 12-14-2007, 04:37 PM

Damn that's sad. Sorry to hear that happen man.

Quote:

Originally Posted by offtopic

I kind find it funny when I see guy liking a girl and act naturally to the point where when they're in certain class. They usually sit close together. Then suddenly stops developing the relationship and continue a linear path of just being a classmate or a friend to that girl. Then again it's sad really. Since that girl always listened to that guy when he talked and vice-versa. Also they already exchanged their email addresses.

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allaboutmusic · 12-14-2007, 04:52 PM

Way to resurrect a two-year-old thread!

Unicase · 12-16-2007, 09:02 AM

My bad. I don't usually notice those thing really easily now days. (Maybe too little sleep and a bit alcohol). So I'll leave it as that. XP

11-28-2005, 11:29 PM	#41 (permalink)
777 drawn and redrawn Location: Some where in Southern California	__________________ "I don't know that I ever wanted greatness, on its own. It seems rather like wanting to be an engineer, rather than wanting to design something - or wanting to be a writer, rather than wanting to write. It should be a by-product, not a thing in itself. Otherwise, it's just an ego trip." Roger Zelazny

12-19-2005, 09:59 PM	#47 (permalink)
Martian Young Crumudgeon Location: Canada	jbleed - Sorry. Life sucks sometimes. At least you had some good times with her and can walk away with no regrets and a minimum of hurt feelings. So now you're back in the game. Keep looking and don't let this get you down. You'll go through a hundred wrong girls in order to find the right one, maybe more. That's just how these things work. Try to carry what you learned from her over into your next relationship. You now realize that at these early stages absolutely nothing is set in stone. I know you probably don't want to hear it, but she didn't do anything wrong here. Neither did you. You're both looking for what's best for yourselves and she decided that it was her ex. The next one may decide that it's you. Or the one after that. Or after that. Etc. You fell, so now you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on with your life. Good luck. __________________ I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said - Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame

11-29-2005, 09:34 AM	#42 (permalink)
Mantus lascivious	Awsome! Way to go jbleed.

12-11-2005, 09:24 AM	#43 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	Hey, mods: this thread should be sticky! Whenever somebody has a "does she like me" question, we can just send them here!

12-19-2005, 05:42 PM	#45 (permalink)
joeyaz Tilted Location: Az	Lol well it is over So her ex who is in the military I guess came back into town..I get a text from her by accident directed to him saying how much she missed him blah blah.. Then she textes back that she was sorry that was not for me.. I had gotten weird vibes from her since Saturday when she said she was going out with friends and I didn't hear back from her till Sunday after I finally texted her before that we were still hanging out daily and talking all day and now nothing. "we need to talk" She told me she needed some time to figure out things. So I figured I'd cut the cord now I told her no games were necessary and wished her good times and hoped she found what she is looking for. Hit me harder than I thought it could since we had only been seeing each other for a short while..but I would not take anything back it was GREAT. Well guess I'm back to the singles market ..maybe next time it wont be so hard to ask someone I like out

12-19-2005, 09:40 PM	#46 (permalink)
joemc91 Insane Location: Chicago	I'm sorry to hear how it went, I know how you feel right now. I wish you luck and keep looking up!

12-29-2005, 05:21 PM	#49 (permalink)
joeyaz Tilted Location: Az	It stung a bit at first from one day to the next but it wasn't so bad.. Thanks for the advice I will use it best I can. Well when we talked I think she was a bit stunned that maybe I didn't put up a fight I was just like.."okay if thats how you feel I'll deal with it" So I feel a bit cheated now..she called and told me she had a christmas gift for me and that we could exchange gifts ..so I went out and bought something to give her and now she doesn't call..I'm too stubborn to call her..how long should I wait before I return the gift ?

12-29-2005, 11:39 PM	#50 (permalink)
Hat Tilted Location: Adelaide, Australia	I'd imagine that exchanging gifts a week after christmas with the girl you just broke up with would be pretty depressing. My advice is to return it, put her out of your mind and move on. Not that I'd be able to follow my own advice...it's always so easy to see what to do unless you're the one that has to make the decision. And that really sucks.

12-14-2007, 04:52 PM	#52 (permalink)
allaboutmusic Aurally Fixated	Way to resurrect a two-year-old thread!

12-16-2007, 09:02 AM	#53 (permalink)
Unicase Upright	My bad. I don't usually notice those thing really easily now days. (Maybe too little sleep and a bit alcohol). So I'll leave it as that. XP