Temporary_User

ok, there is this hot girl that sits in front of me in one of my classes. Ive never really talked to her, mainly in class I just talk to the two girls that sit on each side of me...
There was one time (about a week and a half ago) that I arrived to class early and was the only one waiting in the class room, when she came looked in the door and then left, came back a few mintues later (still only me) and sat down. luckily for me I had a project where I had to ask people q's for another class so I brought that up and talked to her about it. She had an interest in the class and I told her I loved that class and reccemended her taking it. Soon others came in and sort of joined our convo, and I asked them the q's I had to ask for my class aswell.
I cant remember all the details of that chat.
Now onto my main story
Today I early again to class, but instead of going to class I sat in this lounge which in sort of near the classroom. I was all by myself and was originally studying, when she came up and sat on the bench beside me. I struck up conversation and we just chatted for around 20 or so minutes waiting for it to be time to goto the class. Nothing too interesting, just class stuff, where we are originally from... but she remembered which major I had, which I found out she had a similar one (both education) maybe she told me that last conversation, i cant remember....
I did ask her why she was so early, and she said she planned on studying a bit b4 class. I said sorry am I holding you back, she said its fine Ill get the info from class.
Anyways the bad part.... about 5 minutes before time to goto class I sort of ran out of things to say or ask at the time. so it was sort of just a silence. maybe this went on for a minute or so, (no matter who it is with it always seems to be forever) then she just said want to head to class. so we did.

I know this is wrong, which makes me now feel like a loser for writing all this, but am I thinking too much about this? She did seem a little shy... I think I have enough confidence to ask her out if I get another chance to talk to her alone again... should I or did I blow it w/ the silence? should I see how other conversations go first?
I did find out that she lived somewhat far from school (one hour) so i told her that a girl who sits next to me in class also lived far and communted half the week, the other time she got to stay in town w/ and aunt or something. she said she knew and has to do something like that come winter. (i wanted to say you could stay @ my place )
again sorry for the length...

PayUp

Ask her out! Otherwise you'll hate yourself for not asking her and you'll never know. Keep it simple like coffee or something, just in case, you can cover your ass and say it was just a cup of cofee.

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Willravel

I second that, ask her out. Shy girls are a rare treasure. I'd make it a date at a book store/coffee place.

Borla

Seriously!!!

If she is shy, it was probably a big step for her to come up and talk to you. Take advantage of that and ask her to grab lunch before/after class, or study for the class together, or something simple along those lines.

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abaya

Ask her out before you lose your chance and you both regret it forever.. or at least, you regret it. It is always better to do the thing that you would regret NOT doing, then to never do it at all.

Personal note: there was a guy that I was really into a few years ago, but I was too shy to do anything more than drop (big) hints. Apparently he was into me the whole time too, but never said or did anything about it. There was one perfect chance when he could have done something (I was visiting him in his hometown, Pamplona, during the running of the bulls festival), and he never did it. I had no idea that he liked me back until 2 years later, when I joked around and told him how I used to feel, and he 'fessed up and told me he felt the same... too bad no one had any balls to take action when it would have mattered.

I don't care much now since I am with a wonderful man , but being shy sure denies you of a lot of life's opportunities. I am glad that ktspktsp had the balls to tell me how he felt--a real man gets over his shyness when it really matters.

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pandafaye

All I can say is good luck, man. It's worth a try! Keep it simple, though. I agree that coffee or something short would be good. You can always lengthen the date if it's going well. Something informal will keep the pressure off you both.

Temporary_User

thanks everyone for your quick replies!
I guess I should ask her, I don't know if I'll have a chance next class because we have a test, so we'll probably be leaving class @ different times, also I normally don't have all this extra time inbetween classes.
Were both pretty young, Im 20 and I think she is either 19 or 20. I was thinking about asking her more to a casual night thing. I think this weekend would be good. I have a cousin coming into town also 20, so it will probably be him, me, and my brother & maybe his GF going out drinking on the town.
probably start w/ sushi and sake, then just head to a local pub w/ a band.
I guess it wouldnt be too bad if I ask her, and she says no & I have to see her @ class for the rest of the semester.

Borla

And how bad is that? Not very......just ask already!!!

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little_tippler

the silence...it happens at the beginning of a relationship. not important. ask her out already! and come back and tell us about it

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Redlemon

Ah, nothing like getting busted for underaged drinking and spending the night in a drunk holding tank to bond a young couple together.

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wolf

the worst that can happen is that she says no, it wouldn't kill you. Even if she says no, tell her that's cool and you still want to talk to her. The situation may change and she may be willing later.

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tooth

If you are going to ask her out(and you should), ask her to do something where it will just be the two of you. Don't take her along with your family this weekend, even though you will be out partying. She will likely feel completely out of place and uncomfortable.

Temporary_User

Actually I live in Canada, in one of the provinces where you oinly have to be 18 to legally drink. I guess I should of stated that.
And maybe Tooth is right, although my family that I will be going out w/ I consider more my friends than family....

Redlemon

Even so, you have a group of people who know each other quite well, and an extra wheel. And you don't even know her that well. Get to know her first, then introduce your family and friends. Concentrate on her.

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Sultana

AMEN! Thank you Redlemon!

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skier

Yeehaw go Alberta? and UofA?

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Temporary_User

No, Im in Calgary....

ruggerp11

so did you do it yet?

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Mantus

It's been two days, are you sleeping with her yet?

Dragonknight

LOL I love the fact that everyone is pushing for you, as am I!!! If you haven't done it yet I third Redlemon and Sultana with the no group idea. If she's shy, you don't want her to be the odd person out on the first date. That will make things even worse for her, and there's even less chance for her to open up. If you have already asked then Good Luck! (If you haven't asked then, what are you waiting for man?) LOL

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Temporary_User

haha, no I havent asked yet...
I dont have that class everyday...
I did have that class today, but we had a test so not much talking to be done, and we all leave @ seperate times. I don't know if im truely feeling the connection though, I would like there to be one. I guess if I ask then it might become more aparent, or grow...

kyllmore

Good luck man, and don't sweat the silence. A good friend of mine once said that her perfect man woul dbe the person she felt comfortable with when there is just silence.

Awesome on you being a Calgarian, I'm a bit more north than ya, winter started 2 months ago.

~~Kyll

Willravel

There might or might not be a connection. Knowing that, it'd be better to gable that there is and be wrong than to think there is none and miss an opportunity to make a connection. Life's short, and so is Tom Cruise.

infamous13

Ask her to go on a study date to a barnes and noble with a coffeeshop.

genuinegirly

Now you're just being picky.
Ask her out to coffee... one on one. She's shy, she won't necessarily be able to open up and have a good time with a group. You won't be wasting your 5 bucks on coffee... promise.

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Czernobog

If you don't ask, you'll never know.

If she says no, you haven't lost anything for it.

I'm inclined to agree with the "no crowd date" group here. It would probably make her uncomfortable, and that's NOT an ideal situation.

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