Each girl is different. Know her anatomy. if you touch her clit and she does like it (yea I know that doesn't happen) then you don't do it. If you're fingering her and she pulls away with her body, she doens't like it, if she rides up on your fingers and comes closer to you, you've found something she likes.

Find what she wants and use it.

Every woman is different, watch her reaction and adjust accordingly.

i agree with most of these posts - the "come here" motion with a finger is spectacular for a lot of women because it often directly stimulates the G-spot. You're looking...err, feeling...for a spot a little less than an inch across and less than that deep. It feels like it is ribbed horizontally.

Another good spot I've found it a very small nub down and toward the back of the vagina. It seems to elicit some very good responses.

In addition to methods for inside the vagina, there are two important areas to cover outside of the vagina. One, of course, is the clitoris. It is a nub hooded at the upper intersection of the two labia (or "pussy lips," as they're commonly called). Be sure to stimulate this, but be careful, as it can be very sensitive (but that depends on the girl - my girlfriend can enjoy a roughed-up clit). I suggest lightly pulling back the hood with your fingers and, at first, delicately tonguing the revealed pink nodule. Do circles around it and otherwise play with it with increasing pressure to get a feel for what she likes.

Besides the clit, the labia are very sensitive and erotic. The large outer "lips" are the easiest to see, manipulate, and...suck on. So give those a shot, and see what she thinks.

However, the best method (as HFrankenstein pointed out) is to try different things, use what you see works, and then take it from her to make her want more.

Good luck - and be sure to let us know of your adventures!

A little pointless to ask all of us instead of the person who'll be on the receiving end of the attention.

That said, a little bit of teasing and suspense always works for me before the, um, plunge.

I'm glad I read this thread - I have learned a lot. I'll be trying some of this on my gf soon... :-)

I call this <b>DJ Pussy style.</b>

The way I explain it can be altered however you please. The particular descriptions in this tutorial are there for sake of keeping it simple.

First lay the girl down horizontally. Then put your hand over the pussy to where your fingers are pointing down to her legs. Massage, or mix, that pussy in either direction you want- I do it clockwise because I'm right handed. Make sure to be in contact with the clit while you're doing this. Start out really slow and soft, and then gradually progress, getting faster and harder, as time flies by or as she starts to breathe heavily.

You can do this while making out. You can do this with her clothes on (if her clothing is thin enough). Getting the picture? It’s a very easy tactic that doesn’t have to be messy and doesn’t require many prerequisites –maybe it would help if you already knew your way around a vagina- if any.

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Depends on the situation and the person - but most of the women I've been with enjoy a fingers in them if they're getting some other stimulation as well (oral or more fingering to the labia and clit).

For the original poster: like most things i sex, you gotta ask to find out what works for the person you're with, or she's got to tell you. And believe me, the best thing for a good sex life isn't a hot bod, it's someone you feel relaxed enough to ask questions of and give suggestions to.

To offer some contrasts: I've been with women who want light stroking of the labia and find any touching of the exposed clit painful (too intense) and can only be touched through the hood; conversely, I've been with women who want the clitoral hood peeled back and the clit pulled and tugged directly.

More arousal tends to make women appreciate more vigorous work, but it's all down to the individual.

That is great, what a hillarious diagram

i love using the shocker......two in the pink, one in the stink

my current girlfriend hate touching down there with hands for some reason. It really bothers her (which kinda drives me nuts), but in the past, I know I have gotten the best reaction from using actual penetration sparingly and mostly staying in the neighborhood of the clit using at least a couple fingers. But as mentioned before, everyone seems to have their own preferences, best to let the one you're with tell you what they need.

Most of the time my girlfriends comes with two of my fingers inside her, my tongue on her clit and a finger from my other hand playing with her ass. It's easier to get the finger action happening if you're lying on top and the opposite way to her; which, incidentally, also gets your dick sucked. :suave:

sub zero - lol!

That is "the shocker"


Way to go!:thumbsup:

clean hands, short trimmed nails...
technique I like..
with palm on top of mons pointing down (obviously after some nice clit stroking and labia stroking to make sure she's all wet) insert middle finger (like she's a bowling ball) about 3 inches inside and then push upwards towards belly.. be firm but gentle, you may need to explore a bit but when hit the right spot - you'll definitely know it. Once you've found it - she will let you know when you're there, masasge, insert more fingers if nexxessary, respond to her reactions, a rocking motion and not thrusting is also better IMO - fingers really aren't made for fucking in that way.

Have fun :)

oh lord TRIM YOUR NAILS BOYS!!! long nails HURT! ESPECIALLY IF YOU'RE PLAYIN' W/ ASSES! at least the pussy's relaxed... scatches anywhere in there hurt, though! so be careful.

I'm guessing it's all good as long as you cut your nails.

That is right WK. Short nails are a must.;)

the pointer finger gives most people more control, but the thumb is good too