bayd

Ok.. my gf wants to get on the pill, but is afraid of going to that doctor and dealing with the examination and such. What she wants to do (and is going to do for now it seems) is get a month or two supply of pills from a friend who isn't going to take them anymore. I'm not sure if she really realizes the possible problems associated with this.. I really want her to just go to the doc but at the same time I don't want to push her into something shes not ready for, thinking about just suggesting we keep using condoms till shes ready for the doc.. I've been looking up stuff on the pill - side effects and everything from tfp, planned parenthood, and the national women's health center, and am wondering.. what exactly happens during the doc visit? (lets just assume this will be at planned parenthood since each doc office is prob a little diffent and she won't be in college till fall). Just want to see if I can ease her worries a little bit.

Thanks

And one more question just to prevent making another thread : What positions would you consider the most pleasureable? (condoms suck.. been doing it with her on top recently and that just doesn't work that well with a condom on..)

cellophanedeity

If you're sexually active, or even just a woman over the age of eighteen, you need to go for an anual pelvic exam anyway. It's just good health. Many doctors won't write a prescription for the pill without having a pap done, and I bet this is what she's afraid of. But it's really not that bad. As long as you have a decent doctor it's livable.

It's kind of nerve wracking, I won't lie. First the doctor leaves the room and you need to get naked, at least from the waist down, and you wear a hospital gown. The doc then makes you put your legs up on these metal sturup like things. They lube the speculum more than really needed even, then they try to get you to relax. Once relaxed they insert the speculum and (here's the most uncomfortable part) they lightly clamp the cervix. After that they clear off any excess mucus, then swab a couple of times for the pap, then it's all over. It sucks while it's happening, but much worse things could happen to you. And after, you get to know that everything is alright down there! It's a nice feeling to know that your lady-bits are healthy.

Also, I don't reccommend her going on the pill for just two months. In many cases, pharmacists reccomend that you wear a condom for the first three months of being on the pill anyway, just to allow your body time to adapt. And of course, she'd need to consider what she'd need to do once the pills ran out.

Oh, and search around for position threads. The search button is uber useful, and everyone will get along better if we keep it in use!

Hope that helped.

Best of luck!

SiN

if she's ready for sex, she's ready for the doc.

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batteraziiz

Wise words.

...If she doesn't get a test, she can't take the pills. If she gets them from a friend, there's a chance she could have a reaction to them. My girlfriend suffered from something similar. She opted for the shot as opposed to the pill, and she ended up having her rag for 7 months straight.

If she gets the wrong kind of pill, she could have similar problems. Get it done the proper way and don't worry, the tests aren't as bad as they sound.

Vincentt

"if she's ready for sex, she's ready for the doc."

I hear this all the time, but it just isn't true.

It takes nothing to have sex, just put it in.
Maybe less for women, just let someone put it in.

This doesn't involve anything that would make the person responcable enough to visit a doctor. It also doesn't mean the people are mature enough to even truely understand.
I assume it is hugely embarrsing, and I would bet she feels sex is 'wrong' too (why else be so ashamed?)

I dunno, the "if you are mature enough for sex, you are mature enough to talk about birth control etc"...

It sounds good to say, but it just isn't all that true.

-anyway

Don't be a dumbass, go to the doctor!

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Martian

Vincentt - Yeah, anyone can stick it in, the other is more of an ideal. Anyone who's going to have sex should be looking into the consequences and accoutrements that go along with it. This girl isn't doing that and it's important for both parties to realize that and just how critical it is.

We're looking at the potential for unexpected pregnancies, negative reactions and potentially severe health problems due to that. If your girlfriend becomes infertile because of a negative reaction to birth control pills she shouldnt've been taking in the first place or becomes pregnant because she didn't receive proper instructions on their use and as a result used them incorrectly, you can bet she'll regret not going to the doctor and doing it right when she had the chance.

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jRuntlets

First off I need to double and triple up on what batter and SiN said. If she's ready for sex, then she should go to the doc.

I had a friend in high school who was having sex and was terrified to go to the doctor because of the exam... 9 months down the road and quite a few prenatal doctor's visits later she had a doctor staring at her while she pushed a kid into the world. Isn't that a nice image?

The reason that women go to the doctor is to make sure they don't have irregular cells on their cervix as well as other things that involve the reproductive system. They need to be clear before they start birth control so that if something strange does come up, you know it was the medicine not anything else. Aside from that fact doctors help decide what perscription of medication would be best for her such as a lo-hormone, the patch, the pill, the shot... ect. There are hundreds of different kinds of medications all with their own side effects. Not to mention that perscription sharing is majorly ILLEGAL as well as unsafe when your girlfriend does not know all of the information about the drug that she is taking.

The visit isn't as bad as she thinks. Offer to go with her, or have another one of her friends go if she's scared. It's more than likely going to be 10 minutes, and definately not the worst 10 minutes of her life.

Step up here. If she's not willing to take herself and her body seriously medically, shouldn't you?

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