Help a some what beginner, please. - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Neogigas667 · 06-09-2005, 07:58 PM

Ok, I an 18 year old male. I really care about my fiance. She is the only girl I have been with and I am not ashamed of that fact. But she is well lets just say experienced. I have always listened to what she has told me to do during sex, albeit nipple sucking, eating her out, whatever. But recently I was looking through the posts here and saw the thread about females faking it and it got me to thinking, Since she is the only girl I have been with it is totally pheasable that she could be faking orgasms, and I stand with one of the posts in that thread which stated that "I would rather have a girl tell me it is not working than fake it". So, I was just wondering if(other than the contractions) are there any easily detectable sure-fire ways to know wether or not my partner had an orgasm?

Thank You.

the_marq · 06-09-2005, 08:20 PM

Nope none. That's what trust and love are for.

maleficent · 06-09-2005, 08:25 PM

^^^^^^^
Exactly!

Don't worry so much about the destination, and whether or not she is having an orgasm, as long as she is enjoying herself and you are , that's what is the most important thing... Women often feel pressured to 'fake' if it's not working, not becuase of somerthing you are doing wrong, but just because it's just not working at the time... and their partner places an importance on the orgasm, like if they didn't have one it wasnt good.

You are 18 years old, you've got a lot to learn and explore a bout sex and it sounds l ike you've got a wiling partner. Talk to her ask her what she enjoys and what feels good, and get your queues from her.

(major pet peeve of mine.... don't ask her either - if you can't tell - -she probably didnt -- don't make a big deal out of it)

trust her enough to let her tell you what is or isn't happening

akito · 06-09-2005, 08:27 PM

I agree with Marq. I'll also throw 'communication' into that. I wouldn't be too ashamed of asking. Hence the "Was it good for you?" If she's your fiance, and you both trust each other, her answer shouldn't lead you astray.

Considering she's more experienced than you are, I would suggest actually talking about sex sometime, see her opinions and views, ask her what she likes. Talking about it can be erotically pleasing as well, and lead into some great sex.

Always be willing to learn, that's the key. Keep your mind open around people that are more experienced, and never be afraid to ask questions.

just my $.02

Squishor · 06-09-2005, 09:10 PM

It sounds like she feels like she can talk to you, since she's telling you about all those things you mentioned. If you want, you can just ask her what more you can do to make things better for her. Sex can be a learned skill, talent doesn't just come overnight, so hopefully she's aware of that and patient. It does sound like she's willing to teach so why would she be faking it?

viper11885 · 06-09-2005, 09:20 PM

Did anybody miss the second sentence?

you are 18 and already engaged?

if you look at the positive side, at least she is teaching you what pleases her.

healer · 06-09-2005, 11:14 PM

^
Caught my eye immediately!

Sage · 06-10-2005, 10:51 AM

talk talk talk. Make sure you feel comfortable with her body, and don't be afraid to try new things as well as stuff you know works. Communication is the key to a happy relationship!

Axiom_e · 06-10-2005, 11:15 AM

My two cents.
I used to be uncomfortable and worried about making my girlfriends come, but I have come up with a way that works for me or at least makes me feel like I have done something.

After she has "cum"ed gently caress the sensitive parts of her body. You should get some type of involuntary reaction from her. Ex. Gently kiss the back of her neck and she will either push towards or pull away. Caress her thighes or ass gently and she will move. Compare how she moves when you caress her during foreplay and how she moves after she has orgasmed.

Another suggestion would be to ask later like the next day, but don't ask too much or you will annoy her. Don't ask right after at least wait an hour or two let her finish enjoying the feeling and you should be enjoying your.

In my opinion the best thing in the world is when you make your girl cum so hard she tells you that she just going to relax for a minute and start up again, but she falls asleep curled up in the fetal position protecting her sensitive bits. How fitting is it for the girl to fall asleep instead of the guy. For me that is when I know that she has had a Big O.

ShaniFaye · 06-10-2005, 11:23 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Axiom_e

My two cents.
I used to be uncomfortable and worried about making my girlfriends come, but I have come up with a way that works for me or at least makes me feel like I have done something.

After she has "cum"ed gently caress the sensitive parts of her body. You should get some type of involuntary reaction from her. Ex. Gently kiss the back of her neck and she will either push towards or pull away. Caress her thighes or ass gently and she will move. Compare how she moves when you caress her during foreplay and how she moves after she has orgasmed.

Another suggestion would be to ask later like the next day, but don't ask too much or you will annoy her. Don't ask right after at least wait an hour or two let her finish enjoying the feeling and you should be enjoying your.

In my opinion the best thing in the world is when you make your girl cum so hard she tells you that she just going to relax for a minute and start up again, but she falls asleep curled up in the fetal position protecting her sensitive bits. How fitting is it for the girl to fall asleep instead of the guy. For me that is when I know that she has had a Big O.

that is SO me....including the curling up/fetal position thing

also you cant miss my contractions when I do get off, I've never tried to fake anything, but I dont think I could fake that realistically if I tried

Neogigas667 · 06-10-2005, 11:50 AM

Thaks to you all for your help and advice. I shall try those things out and post up on how they go if you guys want

But either way thanks you guys and gals

06-09-2005, 07:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
Neogigas667 Upright Location: Tennessee, thats all you need to know.	Help a some what beginner, please. Ok, I an 18 year old male. I really care about my fiance. She is the only girl I have been with and I am not ashamed of that fact. But she is well lets just say experienced. I have always listened to what she has told me to do during sex, albeit nipple sucking, eating her out, whatever. But recently I was looking through the posts here and saw the thread about females faking it and it got me to thinking, Since she is the only girl I have been with it is totally pheasable that she could be faking orgasms, and I stand with one of the posts in that thread which stated that "I would rather have a girl tell me it is not working than fake it". So, I was just wondering if(other than the contractions) are there any easily detectable sure-fire ways to know wether or not my partner had an orgasm? Thank You.

06-09-2005, 08:20 PM	#2 (permalink)
the_marq All hail the Mountain King Location: Black Mesa	Nope none. That's what trust and love are for. __________________ The Truth: Johnny Cash could have kicked Bruce Lee's ass if he wanted to. #3 in a series

06-09-2005, 08:25 PM	#3 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	^^^^^^^ Exactly! Don't worry so much about the destination, and whether or not she is having an orgasm, as long as she is enjoying herself and you are , that's what is the most important thing... Women often feel pressured to 'fake' if it's not working, not becuase of somerthing you are doing wrong, but just because it's just not working at the time... and their partner places an importance on the orgasm, like if they didn't have one it wasnt good. You are 18 years old, you've got a lot to learn and explore a bout sex and it sounds l ike you've got a wiling partner. Talk to her ask her what she enjoys and what feels good, and get your queues from her. (major pet peeve of mine.... don't ask her either - if you can't tell - -she probably didnt -- don't make a big deal out of it) trust her enough to let her tell you what is or isn't happening __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

06-10-2005, 10:51 AM	#8 (permalink)
Sage hoarding all the big girl panties since 2005 Location: North side	talk talk talk. Make sure you feel comfortable with her body, and don't be afraid to try new things as well as stuff you know works. Communication is the key to a happy relationship! __________________ Sage knows our mythic history, King Arthur's and Sir Caradoc's She answers hard acrostics, has a pretty taste for paradox She quotes in elegiacs all the crimes of Heliogabalus In conics she can floor peculiarities parabolous -C'hi

06-10-2005, 11:15 AM	#9 (permalink)
Axiom_e Tilted Location: United States, East Coast, New Jersey	My two cents. I used to be uncomfortable and worried about making my girlfriends come, but I have come up with a way that works for me or at least makes me feel like I have done something. After she has "cum"ed gently caress the sensitive parts of her body. You should get some type of involuntary reaction from her. Ex. Gently kiss the back of her neck and she will either push towards or pull away. Caress her thighes or ass gently and she will move. Compare how she moves when you caress her during foreplay and how she moves after she has orgasmed. Another suggestion would be to ask later like the next day, but don't ask too much or you will annoy her. Don't ask right after at least wait an hour or two let her finish enjoying the feeling and you should be enjoying your. In my opinion the best thing in the world is when you make your girl cum so hard she tells you that she just going to relax for a minute and start up again, but she falls asleep curled up in the fetal position protecting her sensitive bits. How fitting is it for the girl to fall asleep instead of the guy. For me that is when I know that she has had a Big O. __________________ Life is meaningless. How awesome is that? Rock On! Now I can do whatever the hell I want and give my own life meaning to myself.

06-09-2005, 08:27 PM	#4 (permalink)
akito Insane Location: Colorado	I agree with Marq. I'll also throw 'communication' into that. I wouldn't be too ashamed of asking. Hence the "Was it good for you?" If she's your fiance, and you both trust each other, her answer shouldn't lead you astray. Considering she's more experienced than you are, I would suggest actually talking about sex sometime, see her opinions and views, ask her what she likes. Talking about it can be erotically pleasing as well, and lead into some great sex. Always be willing to learn, that's the key. Keep your mind open around people that are more experienced, and never be afraid to ask questions. just my $.02

06-09-2005, 09:10 PM	#5 (permalink)
Squishor Frontal Lobe Location: California	It sounds like she feels like she can talk to you, since she's telling you about all those things you mentioned. If you want, you can just ask her what more you can do to make things better for her. Sex can be a learned skill, talent doesn't just come overnight, so hopefully she's aware of that and patient. It does sound like she's willing to teach so why would she be faking it?

06-09-2005, 09:20 PM	#6 (permalink)
viper11885 Insane	Did anybody miss the second sentence? you are 18 and already engaged? if you look at the positive side, at least she is teaching you what pleases her.

06-09-2005, 11:14 PM	#7 (permalink)
healer Found my way back Location: South Africa	^ Caught my eye immediately!

06-10-2005, 11:50 AM	#11 (permalink)
Neogigas667 Upright Location: Tennessee, thats all you need to know.	Thaks to you all for your help and advice. I shall try those things out and post up on how they go if you guys want But either way thanks you guys and gals