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JustDoll 06-02-2005 09:58 PM

Rare orgasms...normal? abnormal?..???
 
Mmehhh.. For some reason... i don't get orgasms everytime i have sex.....actually...hardly even......
Like yes.. its enjoyable..in the process..but i dun actually get my orgasm..
Im worried...is it normaL? :confused: Does that mean i don't like my boyfriend?? :eek: .. i dun get it..

Please Help..:(

Squishor 06-02-2005 10:59 PM

Do you masturbate? If so, is it hard to have an orgasm then? Are you doing the same things with your boyfriend? Have you had previous relationships where it was easier? Or are you still learning? And by having sex with your boyfriend, are you talking about just intercourse, or more targeted things like oral, etc?

It's not unusual for women to not orgasm during sex. I rarely do, but I've never found that was any measure of how much I liked someone - the only significance has been that I've had to learn to be less shy and take matters into my own hands, so to speak. :p

healer 06-03-2005 12:48 AM

It's times like these when I'm glad my gf orgasms so readily. I feel for your boyfriend too. It must be hard for him not to feel like he's inadequate - it'd be really hard for me.

JustDoll 06-04-2005 02:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Squishor
It's not unusual for women to not orgasm during sex. I rarely do, but I've never found that was any measure of how much I liked someone - the only significance has been that I've had to learn to be less shy and take matters into my own hands, so to speak. :p

Yaa..i know exactly what you mean. SquishOr... and i do love him ALOT..
but i just dunoo why i dun experience orgasm.....hardly..really..
And yeaa..we do both... intercourse and oral.....

Anyway...yea..I don't think he knows i don't tho.. he asks me sometimes.. and i just kinda nod..u know..siGhz..

Like when wud i start experiencing it tho?.. what does it take?..time?..or..experience or what?..lol.. :confused: im such a lost kid..:(

JustDoll 06-04-2005 02:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by healer
It's times like these when I'm glad my gf orgasms so readily. I feel for your boyfriend too. It must be hard for him not to feel like he's inadequate - it'd be really hard for me.

Oh.man u just made me feeel 10x worse...-____________________-..

SparklingDot 06-04-2005 11:34 PM

Try not to stress about it. This is normal. It may mean that you are too stressed out, or maybe that you guys don't know what you're doing. (Not accusing mind you, just speaking from personal experience.) Why not try going to the book store and looking at the sex/ love section? If you browse, you could get some ideas. If you buy a book (Like maybe K.I.S.S Kama Sutra for example) you'd have a reference guide nearby.

Try to relax, and let your sweetie know that it isnt his fault if you don't have an orgasm. Things will start to happen as you are more comfortable with each other and yourselves. When your sweetie asks, don't lie. Tell him if you did or not. If you didn't, make sure you tell him what you did enjoy about the experience. That should help a little bit.If you tell him you did when you really didn't, you could be training him to do the wrong things, and that means your collective sexual knowledge and experience won't grow. Be honest, and help each other.

lindseylatch 06-05-2005 05:13 AM

A lot of women (read:most) don't orgasm during intercourse. I think the posters on here are just lucky. :p But seriously, most women just orgasm during oral, or maturbation, but not intercourse. It doesn't really hit the right spot anatomically for those women.
If you're pretty young, still a teenager, then things will probably get better.
Also, listen to LoveLine, 10-12 pm pacific time, on the radio, if you're in the US. They talk about this subject a TON. They're usually on alternative radio stations. Here's a link to a streaming version: mms://wmc1.liquidviewer.net/KNDD

JustDoll 06-05-2005 11:23 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SparklingDot
Try to relax, and let your sweetie know that it isnt his fault if you don't have an orgasm.

Ohh..don't get me wrong.. i never onced blamed him.. i just feel bad about...it......He tries to wait for me alot of the times....but it just takes too long....and it just never happens...He's the sweetest guy i've ever been with.. ...and i don't want him to feel bad about it when it doesn't work for me...To me..he is doing everything right.. and i love it :) but...just that crucial part..i guess..isn't working out..:(

thats why i'm here to ask you experienced TFP posters how i can get my orgasm.. working for me..

Btw, thank you so much for giving me advices :) You guys are the best.. :thumbsup:

JustDoll 06-05-2005 11:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lindseylatch
A lot of women (read:most) don't orgasm during intercourse. I think the posters on here are just lucky. :p But seriously, most women just orgasm during oral, or maturbation, but not intercourse. It doesn't really hit the right spot anatomically for those women.

Ohh..talking about oral...that doesn't work very well for me either...
...ArGhz.

SiGhz..i guess im just one of the unlucky ones then...siGhz :|

btw..Lindseylatch..thx for the link :)

Aladdin Sane 06-05-2005 11:46 AM

Doll, do you masturbate? Can you orgasm from masturbation?
You can become familiar with your body by masturbating, then you can tell your bf what he can do to help you get off.

JustDoll 06-05-2005 12:37 PM

Hmmm...yes..not often..

Thx Aladdin, i'll discuss it with him...:) somehowwwwww..


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