Rare orgasms...normal? abnormal?..??? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

JustDoll · 06-02-2005, 09:58 PM

Mmehhh.. For some reason... i don't get orgasms everytime i have sex.....actually...hardly even......
Like yes.. its enjoyable..in the process..but i dun actually get my orgasm..
Im worried...is it normaL?

Does that mean i don't like my boyfriend??

.. i dun get it..

Please Help..

Squishor · 06-02-2005, 10:59 PM

Do you masturbate? If so, is it hard to have an orgasm then? Are you doing the same things with your boyfriend? Have you had previous relationships where it was easier? Or are you still learning? And by having sex with your boyfriend, are you talking about just intercourse, or more targeted things like oral, etc?

It's not unusual for women to not orgasm during sex. I rarely do, but I've never found that was any measure of how much I liked someone - the only significance has been that I've had to learn to be less shy and take matters into my own hands, so to speak.

healer · 06-03-2005, 12:48 AM

It's times like these when I'm glad my gf orgasms so readily. I feel for your boyfriend too. It must be hard for him not to feel like he's inadequate - it'd be really hard for me.

JustDoll · 06-04-2005, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Squishor

It's not unusual for women to not orgasm during sex. I rarely do, but I've never found that was any measure of how much I liked someone - the only significance has been that I've had to learn to be less shy and take matters into my own hands, so to speak.

Yaa..i know exactly what you mean. SquishOr... and i do love him ALOT..
but i just dunoo why i dun experience orgasm.....hardly..really..
And yeaa..we do both... intercourse and oral.....

Anyway...yea..I don't think he knows i don't tho.. he asks me sometimes.. and i just kinda nod..u know..siGhz..

Like when wud i start experiencing it tho?.. what does it take?..time?..or..experience or what?..lol..

im such a lost kid..

JustDoll · 06-04-2005, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted by healer

It's times like these when I'm glad my gf orgasms so readily. I feel for your boyfriend too. It must be hard for him not to feel like he's inadequate - it'd be really hard for me.

Oh.man u just made me feeel 10x worse...-____________________-..

SparklingDot · 06-04-2005, 11:34 PM

Try not to stress about it. This is normal. It may mean that you are too stressed out, or maybe that you guys don't know what you're doing. (Not accusing mind you, just speaking from personal experience.) Why not try going to the book store and looking at the sex/ love section? If you browse, you could get some ideas. If you buy a book (Like maybe K.I.S.S Kama Sutra for example) you'd have a reference guide nearby.

Try to relax, and let your sweetie know that it isnt his fault if you don't have an orgasm. Things will start to happen as you are more comfortable with each other and yourselves. When your sweetie asks, don't lie. Tell him if you did or not. If you didn't, make sure you tell him what you did enjoy about the experience. That should help a little bit.If you tell him you did when you really didn't, you could be training him to do the wrong things, and that means your collective sexual knowledge and experience won't grow. Be honest, and help each other.

lindseylatch · 06-05-2005, 05:13 AM

A lot of women (read:most) don't orgasm during intercourse. I think the posters on here are just lucky.

But seriously, most women just orgasm during oral, or maturbation, but not intercourse. It doesn't really hit the right spot anatomically for those women.
If you're pretty young, still a teenager, then things will probably get better.
Also, listen to LoveLine, 10-12 pm pacific time, on the radio, if you're in the US. They talk about this subject a TON. They're usually on alternative radio stations. Here's a link to a streaming version: mms://wmc1.liquidviewer.net/KNDD

JustDoll · 06-05-2005, 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by SparklingDot

Try to relax, and let your sweetie know that it isnt his fault if you don't have an orgasm.

Ohh..don't get me wrong.. i never onced blamed him.. i just feel bad about...it......He tries to wait for me alot of the times....but it just takes too long....and it just never happens...He's the sweetest guy i've ever been with.. ...and i don't want him to feel bad about it when it doesn't work for me...To me..he is doing everything right.. and i love it

but...just that crucial part..i guess..isn't working out..

thats why i'm here to ask you experienced TFP posters how i can get my orgasm.. working for me..

Btw, thank you so much for giving me advices

You guys are the best..

JustDoll · 06-05-2005, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by lindseylatch

A lot of women (read:most) don't orgasm during intercourse. I think the posters on here are just lucky.

But seriously, most women just orgasm during oral, or maturbation, but not intercourse. It doesn't really hit the right spot anatomically for those women.

Ohh..talking about oral...that doesn't work very well for me either...
...ArGhz.

SiGhz..i guess im just one of the unlucky ones then...siGhz

btw..Lindseylatch..thx for the link

Aladdin Sane · 06-05-2005, 11:46 AM

Doll, do you masturbate? Can you orgasm from masturbation?
You can become familiar with your body by masturbating, then you can tell your bf what he can do to help you get off.

JustDoll · 06-05-2005, 12:37 PM

Hmmm...yes..not often..

Thx Aladdin, i'll discuss it with him...

somehowwwwww..

06-02-2005, 09:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
JustDoll Upright Location: T.dot	Rare orgasms...normal? abnormal?..??? Mmehhh.. For some reason... i don't get orgasms everytime i have sex.....actually...hardly even...... Like yes.. its enjoyable..in the process..but i dun actually get my orgasm.. Im worried...is it normaL? Does that mean i don't like my boyfriend?? .. i dun get it.. Please Help..

06-04-2005, 11:34 PM	#6 (permalink)
SparklingDot Insane	Try not to stress about it. This is normal. It may mean that you are too stressed out, or maybe that you guys don't know what you're doing. (Not accusing mind you, just speaking from personal experience.) Why not try going to the book store and looking at the sex/ love section? If you browse, you could get some ideas. If you buy a book (Like maybe K.I.S.S Kama Sutra for example) you'd have a reference guide nearby. Try to relax, and let your sweetie know that it isnt his fault if you don't have an orgasm. Things will start to happen as you are more comfortable with each other and yourselves. When your sweetie asks, don't lie. Tell him if you did or not. If you didn't, make sure you tell him what you did enjoy about the experience. That should help a little bit.If you tell him you did when you really didn't, you could be training him to do the wrong things, and that means your collective sexual knowledge and experience won't grow. Be honest, and help each other. __________________ 17 seconds is all you really need - Smashing Pumpkins Last edited by SparklingDot; 06-04-2005 at 11:37 PM..

06-05-2005, 05:13 AM	#7 (permalink)
lindseylatch Addict Location: Seattle, WA	A lot of women (read:most) don't orgasm during intercourse. I think the posters on here are just lucky. But seriously, most women just orgasm during oral, or maturbation, but not intercourse. It doesn't really hit the right spot anatomically for those women. If you're pretty young, still a teenager, then things will probably get better. Also, listen to LoveLine, 10-12 pm pacific time, on the radio, if you're in the US. They talk about this subject a TON. They're usually on alternative radio stations. Here's a link to a streaming version: mms://wmc1.liquidviewer.net/KNDD __________________ "Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities" "If God did not exist, it would be necessary to invent him." "It is dangerous to be right when the government is wrong." -Voltaire

06-05-2005, 11:46 AM	#10 (permalink)
Aladdin Sane Degenerate Location: San Marvelous	Doll, do you masturbate? Can you orgasm from masturbation? You can become familiar with your body by masturbating, then you can tell your bf what he can do to help you get off. __________________ Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam.

06-05-2005, 12:37 PM	#11 (permalink)
JustDoll Upright Location: T.dot	Hmmm...yes..not often.. Thx Aladdin, i'll discuss it with him... somehowwwwww.. __________________ It's like you slit my throat, watched me bleed to death, and asked my dead body why I was screaming in so much pain.

06-02-2005, 10:59 PM	#2 (permalink)
Squishor Frontal Lobe Location: California	Do you masturbate? If so, is it hard to have an orgasm then? Are you doing the same things with your boyfriend? Have you had previous relationships where it was easier? Or are you still learning? And by having sex with your boyfriend, are you talking about just intercourse, or more targeted things like oral, etc? It's not unusual for women to not orgasm during sex. I rarely do, but I've never found that was any measure of how much I liked someone - the only significance has been that I've had to learn to be less shy and take matters into my own hands, so to speak.

06-03-2005, 12:48 AM	#3 (permalink)
healer Found my way back Location: South Africa	It's times like these when I'm glad my gf orgasms so readily. I feel for your boyfriend too. It must be hard for him not to feel like he's inadequate - it'd be really hard for me.