Is Cheating Sex Better?
 

Thinking back over my long and often ill thought out life -I can recollect only one situation where I cheated on a girlfriend. Honestly I should've just gotten out of the relationship but I was young and foolish.

The sneaking around sex that I had was fantastic.

Now that I'm older (yes I am Methuselah at 35) I can also recollect many, many, many times when women wanted to cheat on their boyfriends with me. I've also been cheated on several times as well. Hmm...

So I ask you the question dear TFP viewers... Is cheating sex more fun? Does it excite you more? And note that the poll is VERY ANONYMOUS for all of you who cheat but don't want others to think that you cheat.

Also note that this poll is for the SEX ONLY! I know it's tough to compartmentalize your life but even if the fall out from cheating is extremely rough -please try to keep your answers honest to the cheating sex. (Not the cheating relationships)

ain't gonna do it man......love the one you're with eh....

Not only does cheating suck, but I'd imagine that the guilt is worse.

Cheating is vile, and the emotional damage that accompanys it is much, much worse than the happiness it brings.

Cheating sex is good until the bloom wears off... like pretty much anything.

I know that technically a person can never say never... However. having been cheated on I know I could never willingly put another person thru that. I've heard the argument that sex is just sex - but I personally think that's a crock... One of those parties will get hurt -- if the cheater thought that sex was just sex, they'd tell their partner and it wouldn't be cheating it would just be about sex.

Is cheating sex better? Maybe for about five minutes, but whe reality sets in... Not a chance in hell.

I have never cheated on my husband. I have been tempted though. I think sex would be great, at first. Until reality sets in. The guilt I would feel would out weigh anything I felt from the sex. And it is so not worth losing my husband over. I will leave it to my fantasies.

Never cheated, but I've seen what it does to both sides (when caught). I've heard it's great, like a fresh start, until the SO finds out about it, then it really wasn't worth it. What keeps me from cheating? First, I love my wife, and I'm in a contract with her. Second, I'd feel so freakin' guilty, I couldn't stand it. Third, 4 children, lots of child support for at least 16 more years.

Sex is the most intimate of intimates. It cannot be toyed with without strings becoming firmly attached..

I have cheated...and the sex was amazing..some of the bets I have ever had

I've never nor will I ever cheated, but I can see how the sex could be better. Something new and exciting right? I'd say it's pretty weak to give in to something like that and risk something so much more meaningful though.

I've only ever cheated once in my life. The sex was great because it was like reclaiming my own person with someone who just appreciated me, and because I was angry and spiteful I guess. Yes, the other person was hurt but going through that process allowed me to understand more about myself. I would not do it again because I am more aware of what made me do it... if that makes sense?

I would imagine that the guilt would take any fun out of it. Though I know of a guy who cheats with everyone he gets the chance with and loves it so I guess it is a peronal thing.

I've been cheated on twice.... wouldnt' want to put any partner of mine through it.

Absolutely not. Cannot do that to a person.

I never cheated, nor was I ever cheated on to my pretty darn certain knowledge. Any temptation I have yet felt was not urgent, just kind of thrilling (maximum time I think has been a few dances in a row with someone ;)). I never analyzed it (not cheating), just lived it. I've actually been separated for months now and still don't really have a hankering to go out and seek some companionship. I've seen the results of infidelity within my close family, and it sucks to be them. But I bet the whole relationship is turbocharged, and a rush like that would be a complete wow from head to toe - if you were able to just take it for a ride so to speak.

never cheated..but been tempted....

i can see why it would feel better...theres that whole naughty shouldnt be doing this side..but like otherssaid...the guilt would ruin the buzz.

Sex with somebody new is always exciting and a bit of an adventure. However, that is very different than cheating. The idea that lying and hurting somebody else (the specific "cheating" part) is what would make sex better is a bit creepy.

Lots of great ways to be "forbidden" or "bad" without having to include an innocent person's trust and feelings into the mix I would think.

Well, I've never cheated. But I hope the two ex boyfriends enjoyed it. I also hope they enjoyed the gut-wrenching pain they caused me to endure and the shattering of self esteem. If you want exciting sex you dump your s/o and hook up with someone in the bathroom of an airplane. You don't jepordize the feelings of another person for 1.87 seconds of pleasure. It's selfish.
*Can you tell I hate cheaters?*

Cheating is for those that are emotionally insecure.

I agree with others. If it's sex with a stranger you're after or something like that, maybe you need to consider whether you're ready to be in a committed relationship. Sex is a great way to connect with someone and/or express love, but cheating implies hat you're going behind your partner's back and is a hurtful thing to do. If you're unappy with your partner, own up to it and move on.

I've never cheated, it always struck me as a cowardly, selfish thing to do. I don't have much respect for the people who do.

You hit the nail on the head.

I dont think I could even enjoy it because the guilt would be hanging over my head the whole time.

Wow - at the time of this post, 52% of people said:

"I will never cheat so I can't or will not answer this poll."

Looks like about 26% of people are right-out lying ;).

Cheating sex has the sense of danger - if you need that to get out off .. try having sex in more rique situations instead.

I actually read the statistics differently. I however can not comment about how I read them here -without actually affecting them.

P.S.

<- has a degree in statistics

Never had sex other than with nwlinkvxd.

Very true but who says we're all secure?

I haven't cheated and never would.

Besides if you ever think about cheating on your partner just think how you would feel if they did it to you!!!!!!!

I was one being cheated with, and at the time I had no idea she was seeing someone.. So when I stopped by one day, it made for some interesting conversations with her live in boyfriend..

I think she eventually told him, and then the worst part.. He got hired where I work!! I had to see him every day around work.. What an awful feeling... The sex was great.. don't get me wrong.. But I lost a lot of respect for both myself and her when I found out...

I ask now before proceeding... Safety first!!

This is about how I feel about cheating, although I have my doubts that things are that simple.

I wonder how the risk factor plays into all this... I imagine if the assumed risk of getting caught (in the act or afterwards) were high, some people would be even more reluctant to cheat... while it would give others an even bigger thrill. And on the other side, if the assumed risk of having the cheated find out is low... would that make people more likely to go through with it? Or then there's those that don't factor in risk at all... which are most likely the chronic cheaters.

Maybe I should make another poll... hmm.

In today's Boston Herald which made me think of this poll

http://news.bostonherald.com/localRe...rticleid=82636

i dont think cheating is right

That's basically what I came to post. Add to that the fact that the person I was "officially" with 1) Had already cheated on me, and 2) Had stopped making any valid attempt to please me during sex several years before, and I really feel less bad about doing it. Also, the person I cheated with ended up being a very deep connection, so... yeah.

But the sex was fabulous because it was with HIM, not because it was cheating sex.

To be crude, new pussy is almost always better then 'old' pussy.

If you have been having sex with the same person for 20 years, someone new will seem better then what you have currently.

I think this is one of those things that swingers have figured out how to handle without having to worry about cheating.

Swinging isn't cheating. Much discussion has gone on between the couple before making the decision to plunge into that type of relationship, as well as ALL parties are aware of the ground rules.

Cheating is just that... cheating... it's not taking responsibility for your own actions, it's not being responsible enough to tell your partner, it's lying to your partner. Cheating is one person going off to be selfish and immature and doing exactly what they want to do and not giving a flying crap about the other parties involved... including the person that they are cheating with.

Is Cheating Sex Better?
 

Only if you suck...

I hope you don't think I implied swinging is cheating. Its not. What I ment to say is swingers have the best of both worlds. They get to have sex with other people (and such a desire is natural) while still being honnest in their relationship.

you forgot this one.....and then they have to ask everybody if it was cheating