crazyness.... someone wants me
 

okay, theres this one kinda crazy girl who i know who lives kinda far from me, she's meet one friend once and was obbessing over him, but was turned down.... now she's trying to get on me and wants to meet for sex... i've never seen her before, she's young for me, but still of legal age of consent.....


i reallllly don't know what to do.... i'm single and all, and it wouldn't really hurt anything to do it...


i'm not really feeling it for her right now, i don't know why... theres a girl who is determined to have sex with me and she's horny as hell



i'm sure if we meet, it could be fun.... she isn't very sexually knowledgeable, and she's a virgin who hasn't once masterbated.... but she really wants sex.....


right now she is like trying to figure out everydetail of how to convince her parents to let her drive up here... shes thinkking about how to plan it agaisnt her period, what to bring, what to wear... and still theres a nice chance her parents wouldnt let her travel alone....


... and one thing i know might also not work with her is the fact that she's a virgin, and wouldn't beable to actually enjoy sex off the bat... i'm not sure how long it would take for her to have pleasureable sex after it..

what should i do???

All I can say dude is that HOLY SHIT ARE YOU ASKING FOR IT!

With a chick that off the deep end, she's either going to latch onto your nuts and you're never going to be rid of her no matter what you do, or she's going to go completely the other direction and tell EVERYBODY about how terrible you are, making shit up and everything else.

Are you really that hard up for sex that you'd put yourself into a position that has an almost 0% possibility of ending well?

she doesn't know any of my friends and shes lives far away, soo nobody could know....


its that latching on thing is what i kinda fear, cause i don't want to hurt her feelings or anything......... i could allways play my chances and let her parents turn her down by not letting her come up too....... i just dont know!!!


shes all over me, but seems to be more for the one day of sex than a relationship... i hope



she is seriously counting her menstral period stuff up now to see when would be best for her to screw.....

Don't put yourself in that position. From the female perspective, she is going to go through the 'cherry blues'. She will latch onto you like a suction cup after it's over. Unless you WANT someone clingy, run, don't walk, to the nearest exit and don't look back.

what would happen if i let her dream?? will she need to be told off or will it fade?

you mean, if you lead her on indefinitely? that doesn't sound like a good idea... by any means.

as exciting as it might seem on one end, you're really asking for a wild ride if you do anything with this girl... you won't be playing with fire, you'll be playing with a young girl's emotions... which can be far more volatile.

sure, she seems all about it right now... but what if you do have sex and then she regrets it? that is a situation you do NOT want to be in. period.

you've never even seen her before? have you spoken to her on the phone? IM'd with her? do you know what she looks like?

if the two of you haven't had a good session of phone sex yet, I say that's the next step.

also, just because she's past the age of consent doesn't mean you couldn't me in legal trouble, depending on her age, your age, and the state you live in. i.e., if you're 20 and she's 16, that might still be illegal.

she's good looking, not super hot or anything.... i'll defeintally talk to her on the phone before anything.... i had her take a picture of herself holding a sign that i requested, lol, and she seen me on webcam

pics or stfu

:)

she's under 18 and i don't want banned

Honey, stalkers are a bad thing.

Yeah, AquaFox, rent "Fatal Attraction" first and see if you're still up for it. :)

Yeah, I'm another one who thinks this would generally be a bad idea. Once again, she's either expecting mind blowing orgasmic sex, or a relationship out of the deal, and she'll probably get neither.

And to play up my shallow side. Watch out, web cams can lie. Oh boy can they lie.

If she looks crazy, acts crazy, and talks crazy, chances are, she's crazy. And last thing you want is to wake up full of stab wounds, or that when she said "plan her trip around her period" mean "plan her trip around when she's most fertile" to try and bait you into a relationship with a kid.

Sounds like you already know the answer to me Aquafox. You have doubts for a reason buddy. Turn her down, there are plenty more fish in the sea.

Run away, Run away! Now!

Stalkers are bad man, I made the mistake of going on a date with a girl like this once. The topic of conversation over a few drinks quickly turned into how many kids we were going to have, and what flowers we would have at our wedding.... on the first date! Aaaaah!

I say go for it. you're 19 she's 16. not much of a different, you won't regret it. its an experience

she's a virgin... how long does it take for the pain to go away after her hymn gets broken?

depends on the girl, and whether or not it's already broken. but there's a good chance it she won't be feeling any pleasure on that particular night.

There are some moral implications here . . . she seems young and impressionable and probably wanting to rebel against her parents . . . You said you weren't that into it for some reason . . . listen to your inner intuition . . .

Think with your head, not your dick and see what answer you come up with . . .

That being said . . . it's your life . . . but your decision on this could really affect this young woman's life . . . choose wisely for both of you.

Thanks,

Sweetpea

today she said she thought about me all day when i got online this evening...


lol, i donno, i think it would be a fun experience, she's nice and all... the big thing that freaked me out was the age difference, since shes' the age of my younger brothers

okay... it could be a fun experience, but it could be a huge mistake. please take into consideration all the consequences your choices could entail. there's a lot more to it than just the age difference.

also... if you do meet up with this girl, don't think that you will or have to automatically have sex. just take things one step at a time, don't rush into anything, and don't feel obligated to go through with something you're not really sure about... and make sure she's not having second thoughts either.

if i do anything, it will be what she wants, i'm not going to ask or really do anything she didn't want or ask for....

i'm talking her about it and trying to get her to determine why she really wants it.... it would be great for us to meet and hang out, but sex is alot to ask for, i'm going to be sure she understands what she is getting herself into before anything else

Why she really wants it?

She's 16. She's never had sex. She's HORNY.

Run, do not walk, as fast as you can in the other direction. Really. Your life will be better for it. I promise. This girl sounds like a total nutjob.

I'd say it depends mostly on what you mean by "kinda crazy"... is she wierd and eccentric or batshit insane?

she is more or less just super horny.........., she's really focused on it, she was the same for my friend before she was rejected, since he wasn't interested in a relationship



the way i see it, really horny virgin who wants the best time of her life, she even said she wants candles and stuff for when we do it if we do it.... but she's shy in preson


edit: shes definitally one of the horniest girls i've talked to, lol

Don't do it. I have a rule that I don't ever want to be anyones regret. You will be hers. trust me.

I would not do that to someone. If they were that way, probably mean's she think's to get a guy to like her she has to be that way. Some thing happened to her when she was younger probably. I kinda feel sorry for her.
I think at 16 your too young to have sex cause your still a child your self.
Some 16 year old's don't even know how to get birth control so it's kinda risky.

Just one word for you:

Run!!!!

RUN AWAY

GET THE FUCK OUT

YOU WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH THIS BASKET CASE

I'm serious. This chick is nothing but trouble. She will fill your life with nothing but drama.

Don't do it. She doesn't know what she's asking for. She needs to meet a nice guy at her high school or something, not proposition strangers. She clearly has a serious issue with a lack of boundries. Do you want to play a part in something that ultimately will only make her feel worse about herself? Even from just a selfish point of view, this girl still sounds like nothing but trouble.

One word for you....just one word.



Karma

how do i go about explaining and purswading her that she's not mature enough for sex and that she needs to find someone her own age?

Well, I'll join the chorus and say this isn't a good idea. Age of consent laws aside, she's a child, you're an adult.

It isn't your job to persuade her that she needs to find someone her own age, just that you don't think it's a good idea because of the age difference. She'll get the idea. She's going to find some guy to accommodate her, but it doesn't have to be you, and you may be putting yourself in line for trouble if you do. Let her down easy, don't lay blame, but don't have casual sex with this girl just because she's horny.

You Don't.......This will merely entangle you into the situation you should be avoiding. Back away, leave her be......and thank whatever Gods you pray to that you were wise enough to learn without pain.

really not your job. tell her no...and if she doesn't respect your answer, then don't talk with her.

I don't get how a girl can be that horny & have absolutely no idea what she's even going to be experiencing. I know what sex is like & yeah, I can see being horny after a while without it. Christ, I'm horny by at most the next morning after my wife & I have sex.

As everyone else has said above, you are getting yourself in over your head whether you realize it or not. Get a different phone number, change your online profile, get away & do it fast. As everyone on this board can probably spot, you are staring down the sights at a 100% basket case. You'd almost be doing this nutjob a favor by calling her parents & asking what the hell her problem is that she wants this so bad? She might have some other real issues. A 16 year old girl that's decent looking shouldn't have much problem getting laid (locally) if she's really interested in it. She's got major issues, keep them out of your life.

Oh yeah, and RUN like the wind!

i'm gonna most likely just start rubbing her the wrong way, as in making myself less apealing.......

calling her parents isn't a idea.



from what her friend says, she doen't have the guts to even actually do anything anyways if she had the chance, shes mostly all talk



thank goodness she doesnt know anything about my location or phone numbers, lol

Honestly I think you should do it and let us know how it goes.

i bascially summed up everything in this thread that was agaisnt us having sex, and told it to her.........

i talked about if she had any local guys and stuff too, then i talked about how she is going to feel after its done, she knows shes gonna have a hard ttime leaving and all...


right now, if this gets called off, i want it to be her that calls it off soo she can understand why.......

she did question my wanting to do this, she respects my opinion and will be okay with me saying no.. i told her what i felt about it and how i really wants right for her

you'll be far better off Aqua. good luck with the rest of it.

There are a few ways to approach this (I assume 16 is legal in your country?):

The Horny Asshole: Whip your dick out and let her play with it to her hearts content. Don't give in when she says she wants something more.

The Self-Depriving Pussy: Tell her you don't want to fuck her because you feel it will hurt her, etc etc.

Horny and Honest: Tell her your true intentions for her. Tell her that you want to fuck her madly, and that's the only interest you have for her. Be blunt. Don't hint towards any sort of emotional attachment unless you truly have one for her (I assume you don't, or if you do, it is very minimal). Be cool about it, but be blunt. Let HER make HER own decision, and when it comes time, just be ready to accept whatever her decision may be.

I highly suggest the third one. You're being offered some pussy, and you know you want it. Your being honest with her fully educates her in the current situation, while at the same time you're not forcing an opinion on her. Being an asshole and leading her on just isn't cool, while at the same time, if you tell her, "I really want to fuck you but I can't because I feel it would be wrong," you KNOW she's just gonna go jump someone else's bones. For all you know, she could end up with an asshole, and she WILL end up being fucked-in-the-head at the end of this. Being horny yet honest let's you be the good guy while at the same time gives you a chance at some pussy.

But damn, man...where do you live where 16 is legal?

The simple fact is this: If she doesn't have sex with you, she is going to do it with someone else. You will not be the savior of her dignity or chastity. You will be the guy that kicks himself in 2 years for missing the opportunity. Yes, there are moral issues here, but they are HERS, not yours. So here is all you need to know.

1) Protection,protection,protection
2) Under NO circumstances do you give her your phone number or address. Never call her from a phone that she could back trace to an address of yours.
3) Tell her you are willing to fulfill her sexual fantasies, but don't want a relationship.
4) Never take her to your house.
5) Did I mention protection?

I'm on the fence, my first intention was to tell you to punt, but on the other hand if she wants it after you have been completely honest and open (that means telling her things that she doesn't ask about) then saddle up partner. Bring your own condoms and put them on yourself. Be smart, open, honest and if it comes your way then let us know how it works out!

age of consent is 16 in michigan

actually a lot of states have it at 16:

http://www.webistry.net/jan/consent.html

cherry blues... I love it.

i live in PA, good advice, lol, i know i'm gonna besure we don't start anything, i just not determined on if i want sex or not with her.... afterall, a nice tight 16 year old pussy would be nice


lol, thats the holy grail, i know her numbers but never called her, she doesn't know where i live, i told her the region i was in, and i'm letting her pick the hotel, i'm gonna bring all my own fresh condoms and lube... i don't plan any body fluid transfer if we do, soo no real kissing or mouth-on oral

... and the last thing on earth i'm gonna do is take her to my house, lol, thats why i'm making her get a hotel... she's not even going to know my last name

i'm only going to call her once with a restricted number soo she can't trace it to me... sooo i know that she's real

lol, and i'm also watching my ass legally by keeping logs of the conversations we have





i'm talking to her now and she wants to know if in addition to condoms, can you get like birth control pills/patches without a perscription?

which can easily implicate you as well.... the double edged sword of evidence.

This girl sounds like a freak for sure. Definitely a keeper.

lol, yeah, i hopefully will not be in any situation that requires evidence.... lol

In this situation the only way that will be 100% is if you don't continue this...

after that it's diminishing returns...

why pursue this risky endeavor? is there not ANYONE else that you have interest in?

lol, yeah, shes breaking away from wanting me, since i'm being soo cautious, it is a real turn off :thumbsup:

I figure that might happen. There is a distinct difference between "aloof" and "cautious". Aloof is a challenge - she will do all the work because you are like "whatever". Cautious is a turnoff because it implies a conservative thoughtful nature. It reduces the dangerous nature of this encounter. You need to be cautious but appear to be aloof.

Are you a man who can get sex elsewhere easily?
I ask because I am not a man like that, and I myself fell victim to a similar situation about a year ago, and ended up turning the girl down. I know hate myself for that (figuratively speaking).

The only differance is that with this same girl (a virgin as well), the situation is now reversed! I am horny as hell and about dieing over her, and she wants little to do with me. It was a girl I went out with a few years ago, untill she suddenly broke up with me after a vacation (I never talked to her about this, but I have a strong feeling she met somebody else during that vacation). Then one day she started droping a ton of sexual hints and pretty much begged me to take her virginity. I was completely single, but like you, wasn't feeling into her at all. I had a strange notion that I wanted to lose my virginity to somebody I loved. Today, about a year later, I'm kicking myself hard in the ass for that because I am now begging the same thing of her and she is acting the same way as I was back then. A taste of my own medicine I guess...

My point is, if you're feeling the same sex crave that she is and you are unable to get it elsewhere, I highly suggest you do it. To avoid the risk of any clingyness, just make sure she understands very clearly that you do not want a relationship afterwards - she'll probably say OK because she is so horny, and then all you have to do is holder to that.

fox, whatever happened to that girl? did you go? if you didn't, how is she acting to it?

dude, if you havent already just dont...
legal worries and plus c'mon its just street smarts ..shes a virgin..she has issues..this coul dreally hurt her in the long run..and what happens if her mom or dad do end up finding out or she wants more after because she didnt realize the emotional attactment that follows sex and gets mad that you dont want more and tells people...

Think about dealing with her parents if for some reason she gets knocked up. I think the word is Statuatory rape. The sex won't be overly satisfying anyways.

umm... i almost forgot about this thread.....


we don't talk as much anymore and the whole idea of it is fading away, i don't think she wants it anymore or at least as much... soo all is good

Age of Consent
 

From this thread..

Age of Consent Laws

Look down at both footnotes.. Something doesn't quite click for me. How do people come up with stipulations like this??

This is more like bad karma running over bad dogma. Fatal Attraction was already mentioned but that was the first thing that came to mind. I'm not a fan of having a rabbit boiled in a pot on my stove.