Trying to get to know her...
 

This might come off as strange but I am tired of being in meaningless relationships. I was with a very special person and ever since I lost her and yes it was my fault. I have been trying to get to know the women I date rather than seeing how long it takes to sleep with them. So I decided to give up sex until I had fallen in love. In theory it seemed easy! I mean what could be better that falling in love?
Well apparently it offended a girl I was friends with. She wanted to start seeing each other again. And at first I was apprehensive simply because she was very upset at the reasons why we stopped seeing each other just over 6 months prior. She was a bit in a rush for things and I was still getting used to the idea of seeing her more often. I wanted to let things progress at a slower pace. She has a daughter with a previous boyfriend that she had no intentions of marrying. I guess it was a bit out my league to begin with.
As things went on I wanted to slow things down. She was telling me that her psychic had told her that she was going to be pregnant with her second child by Christmas and the man who would father it was me? She told me that her psychic was never wrong. And had successfully predicted her first daughter. She kept telling me how she had always wanted a son and it was going to be with me.
I was so put off that I told her that we were not going to be having sex, at this point we had only been together twice. She responded with telling me her mother was going to be very disappointed?
Again confusion sets in. What the hell does her mother have to do with this I am thinking!
Well tonight we were supposed to go this fundraiser at a nightclub. I know i don't like being around her when she is drunk for the simple reason that she gets this way. And I guess I wasn't wrong. She was grabbing me and trying to kiss me. I was very upfront without being hurtfull. I just kept saying lets just hold off on this until we see where its going. She originally was ok with this. then she pushed and pushed. She had way to many to drink and turned into a pretty grabby chic. she wanted to take my shirt off and was telling me she didn't want to push me into anything but her crush seemed to far out weight me no sex policy.
When I told her to quit it. She flipped and decided to drive home drunk. I said she was acting like a jerk and that driving home in this condition wasn't going to do anything to me but she could hurt herself or someone else! ( i am not a big fan of drunk driving) ontop of that its snowing like crazy and visibility is pretty low.
I just feel upset I guess at the reaction of this girl who is supposed to be my friend. Why the hell would a girl be offended that I don't want just have sex! and that I wanted to actually spend time getting to know her and see if things progress positively?

I mean I think I have more to offer than just sex!
You don't have to respond I just needed to get this out. I am tired and pissed off.
Tomorrow will be a very hard day at the gym I can tell you that much.

Well we women are so used to men wanting sex as the number one priority that when we encounter a man who "just wants to spend time with us" we aren't really prepared with how to deal with it.

EDIT: eh.. I was a little hyper..

I'd stay away from her man.. She sounds kinda crazy.

w0rd...She has a psychic...and she's getting pregnant based on this woman's advice...(and predicting that a woman will get pregnant while have unprotected sex is not really a difficult thing...)

I was going to comment on your unitless distance measurement, but now the point is somewhat moot. Too bad, the rest of the post had that overzealous internet forum flavour.

The after-edit post is probably more convincing overall, due to its lack of said flavour.

Sounds a little on the omgwtfbbqnutjob side of the scale.

I'f she's trusting a psychic more than she is trusting her own view of her life, then I don't think she can possibly be all that stable. Unless she can understand (pronto) that you're not going to put a baby in the oven, then I'd have to say 'cut it off'. Whatever relationship could possibly be made from this situation can't be a good one.

Hopefully you can find someone as level-headed as yourself to forge a relationship with, one that starts with friendship and a personal connection, rather than the sexual advice of a psychic.

Ditto with the psychic responses. Anyone who listens to what they have to say is kukoo in MY books.

I think that "wanting to get to know her..." before sex is a great thing to do man. I have had few relationships where I waited to see how long it would take to sleep with someone as opposed to waiting until the right time! Good on you bro.

Hope this situation works out for you man! Good luck!

I do hope that everything works out for you. You should be careful on making a decision here, she doesn't seem too normal. Good luck.

"Hey, that's super! I've always wanted a son too! You know, actually, I almost forgot but I really need to get home and get some sleep. I'm shipping out tomorrow. What? I didn't tell you that I was in the reserves? Yeah, I joined up when I was 18, I never thought I'd have to go to war. I have no idea what will happen, but I'll be sure to write and as soon as I get back we can talk about that son!"

That's how I would have handled the situation, but that's just me.

I advise you to get the hell out of Dodge.

lol!

Yeah I figured it was a little too strong..

A girl that has a 'psychic' is bad news by default, pretty much. What a headcase. Best of luck!

Damn, now I'm wondering what all the fuss is about with Carn's post.

It seems the general consensis is 'Run Screaming'. I would totally agree. If you get any further involved with this chick you WILL regret it.

Waiting to have sex with someone you're interested in has it's merits. But in some way those first sexual encounters can help you sort out your interests. Either bind you closer together, or drive you apart.

wow, you almost got raped!

seriously tho...any girl who has kids based on 6th sense help from miss cleo AND talks to her mother about it....wow...just run away and carry mace with you...

Thanks guys I appreciate the comments.
After reading this from another persons perspective. It does seem to me more clearly that I may be better off without her in my life. Kinda freaky when I sit down and realize the reactions. I guess I was just hoping that it might have just been me. I mean in a way I thought I was being too stubborn. I wanted something and I wasn't ready to settle. But what I wanted was pretty fair. And most people who would have thought about what it was would have agreed.

Whoa.. Dodged a bullet there. I can almost see myself in a year or two a broken man with a bunch of kids and unmarried but living with the girl who wanted to have em. or perhaps worse... :eek:

*nods* you coulda ended up living with her mom and psychic! wouldnt THAT have been fun :)

Run and do not look back.

*Shivers*
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I am running. and No way am I looking anywhere but forward.

Sex is important to a relationship, but what is even more important is the relationship itself (how you two relate to each other and understand each other). I highly commend you on your choice to not have sex till you know them better. I always lived through how fast I could get laid early in my college career till I met a Catholic virgin who said there was going to be none of that till marriage. I had to work through all of our relationship issues without having sexual urges cloud my vision. That was almost 15 years ago now (14 years married), and I'm utterly happy. At least the no-sex thing gives you a great way to know whether you are truly compatible in your personalities.

Oh....and drop kick that girl to the side of the road. As soon as you said psychic, I knew that she wasn't a good long-term thing for you.