Cursive

My good friend's girlfriend just broke up with him and hes really bummed out hardcore. He's 24 btw. Any advice on helping him out? I havent even talked to him yet because i dont really know what to say.

thanks

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degrawj

Man, that is a really tough one. I remember when my g/f of 3 1/2 years broke up with me (i was positive we were going to get married some day), and it felt like my life had ended. Your friend is probably having a rough time trying to sort out his emotions right now. He might be feeling a whole combination of sadness/anger/confusion/apathy. The best thing you can do, from my own experience, is to keep him active by doing things with him. I don't know what your friendship is like, but whatever you two like to do, do it. Let him know that you're there for him, and that he can talk to you. See if you can get him to talk about what bothers him about the relationship ending, and then see if you can get him to talk about where he wants to go from here. Most of all though, and this is the most difficult part, the only thing that will truly end up healing the damage is time. It's been almost four years since my g/f broke up with me, and I'm still not 100% over it. So just hang out with him and be a good friend, like I'm sure you are since you obviously care about his welfare. Let him know that. It won't be easy, for you or for him, but that's what friends are for, right? Getting through the tough times. I hope that you're able to help him out cursive! Good luck.

ShaniFaye

I agree with degrawj and would like to add....for goodness sakes dont degrade the girl, or talk bad of her....its one thing if he does it.....its quite another if you do. IF by some chance they get back together and you've said bad things about her it wont be good for anyone involved

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Strange Famous

pretty much just be there. right now he prolly needs someone to listen.

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PayUp

Shanifaye and degrawj offer you some sound advice. If you get your friend to open up and talk to you...LISTEN. Theres nothin worse than trying to talk to someone and their brain is channel surfing.

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vbuser

Let your conversation go naturally.

Say what you think is best.

Jackebear

Been there; I thought I would never get a girl again. My buddy got me out of town for a weekend. 2 nights in the big city, going to bars, clubs at night, patio bars during the day and basically got stupid drunk for 3 days. Wasn't a cure but it sure did help a lot and I have always appreciated him for helping me start to get her out of my mind.

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SVT01Cobra

Hmm...Boxing classes?
Hitting a punching bag and getting a good workout is a good way to relieve stress.

Coppertop

Sage advice right there.

wolf

Just be there and don't let him get into one of those rebound relationships.

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2sheds

spend time with him, even if he doesn't seem to want too. you don't even have to talk about the breakup - play xbox or something. i'm not saying you have to hound him or anything, but find ways to remind him that you are available. a lot of people will tell them that they are there for him, all he has to do is ask. i'm sure they all mean it too. the problem is in the asking - i think that's one of the hardest things to do, especially for your average guy. try to be the one that he doesn't have to ask.

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cowgirl02

Just be there for him. Dont bring it up, let him. When he wants to talk about it he will bring it up. It may take time, but eventually he will. Just be there for him and when/if he asks you what you think, tell him the truth and what you think. Just be honest!!!!

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Mattbastard

4 years heh?

That's quite a while, I'm in a 4 year relationship right now.

So, why'd she end it?

Stompy

My g/f of 4 years and I recently broke up.

Honestly, there's not much you could say/do that would make him get over it faster. It just goes away with time... at least, that's how I was. I was always hanging out w/ people after our breakup and most of the time I didn't feel like being around anyone.

I just gave lots of time to myself and played World of Warcraft a LOT

At first it's hard to get used to, especially after all that time together, but now, I'm glad I'm single I can do whatever the hell I want and don't have to worry about anyone else, haha.

So, hm... I guess you can kinda tell him that after a few months, he'll be very very happy and that it will all make sense then, but yeah, 3 months ago, I don't think there was anything anyone could've said/done that would've made me feel ANY better.. short of winning a million dollars or somethin

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