Captain Nemo

Before wife got pregnant and diagnosed with Placenta Previa, 4 to 5 times a week.

Since the diagnosis, nothing since last November

ufgator35

Been married for 10 years...together for 13...
Before our 2 year old was born...once a week...
Now it's 1-2 times per month..
Like most relationships early on it was daily...

time is a real issue and conflicting schedules...

wish it was more!

skysooner

Prior to marriage - none (wife was a virgin)

First five years - 2 to 3 times a week

Six to ten years - 3 to 4 times a week

Ten years plus - 4 to 5 times a week

The statistics don't work in our case.

c172g

I see a lot of the married couples (aside from a few) who say it goes way down with kids. Aside from the first few months, when my wife was breastfeeding (as was I when I had the opportunity ) and on a four hour sleep schedule, we're back where we were before the kids. We average 2-3 times per week, but we make it happen. The kids go to bed at 8 (they would stay up till 11 if we let them, they are 2 & 4). By 9 or 9:30 one of us puts on the music & lights the candles & maybe starts with a backrub. I guess I'm trying to say we make time for it. I could be doing a lot of other things but we make an effort to keep that part of our marriage going strong.

There was a question earlier about quickies, for us probably 3-5 quickies a month. Nothing better than getting a call at work to go home for lunch!

abaya

Awesome c172g, I love the idea of getting a call at work to go home for lunch! Anyone else out there find time to squeeze in a few quickies during the week, or does fatigue just totally take over?

I also love that you and your wife make such an effort to integrate regular sex into your marriage, even with kids. The candles and music are cool ideas for making it more than just a quickie. I hope I can do the same, though I understand how hard it would be for some schedules.

mojodragon

We've been married for about 10 years now, and we have sex almost every night. Sometimes twice a day

Hampshire

we have been together for 9 months now, and live together, and we do it almost very day.

TheProf

Guess I'm the odd one out here.

Been married for a year, and the frequency is about once a month....

We're working on that though.

frogza

Married 8 years, two to three times a week is our average.

Aladdin Sane

Married 16 years, two kids, and we go at it 2-3 times a week.

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Grasshopper Green

Been with hubby 9 years, have a three year old and opposite work schedules and he's in college....so usually, once a week. We'd like more, but it usually isn't possible with our schedules.

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basmoq

we have been married only a few months, but the sex is almost nill due to the pregnancy... I don't think we'll have any troubles after she gives birth though...

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drewpy

been married twenty - i think one our little old lady aunts told me the following bit of wisdom at our wedding and I laughed (or maybe i've convinced myself that's where i heard it - cause i've heard it since ...) anyways she said, "honey, for the first year of your marriage put a penny in a jar everytime you have you have sex. Then after the first year, take one out every time." she said the jar will never be emptied. i never believed it would be true. but now sadly in down to about once a month or rather 10-12 per year ... sometimes going 2-3 months without.

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Aladdin Sane

I just wanted to add, our sex life is better than ever. There were times when we didn't have sex for months at a time. That was during our first years of marriage. Things have just gotten better as time has passed. She enjoys it now and she really didn't when we were first married. She was too much in her head. With age, she is more able to go with the pleasure, and forget about the politics.

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Zephyr66

Same for me. but my last girlfriend and i had sex about 3 or 4 times a week, school got in the way sometimes...

cellophanedeity

My love and I have been together for nearly three years. We both live at home with our parents (we're young 'uns!) but we still manage to have sex at least six times a week.

Sweetpea

We've been married 3 years . . . sex is 5 times per week . . . In my opinion, one can never have enough sex . . . so i'd like it to be 7 days a week . . .


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Catmandu

Married 19 years, lived together 23 years. We get after it a couple times a week. It's been at that frequency our whole time together. It's all governed by her sex drive, not mine. I'd like to double it, but she doesn't. I've had too many hurtful rejections to try again.

Dano069

Let's see, since 2000, when my wife and I made a decision to try to have sex as often as possible, we probably average 6 times a week (not counting the week of her period). Not bad for a couple of 40+ year olds. We just love to have sex. Prior to that, I think we averaged 2-3 times a week, maybe.

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Gilda

Been living with my SO for 3 1/2 years now. When neither of us is on our period, every Friday, Saturday (twice usually), and Sunday without exception, and ususally twice more during the week, for a total of 6 a week. We're both in our 20's, with no kids yet.

iccky

Almost-3-year relationship, and we're down to about 3 times a week (from a high of all the frickin' time).

That's just an average though, as what usualy happens is we'll have sex three or four times on a 24 hour period. And then nothing for a week or so. Hard to get the car started, but when it starts, whoa!

qweds

been with my fiancee for about a year and a half, mind you she lives on the other side of the world most of the time, but when we are together it's almost usually twice a day or more

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tres

**Update** Since my SO went off the patch and onto pills, she is hornier than ever. I do have a question though.. She started taking the pill the day she would normally have started the patch again.. Are we protected this month? or no?

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kajagoogoo

glad to hear your update tres!

prefect

Not married.. young guy.. dating for a bit over a year.. twice a month.

*sigh*

Phant84

right now, since my wife is pregnant, it depends on how she feels, but always atleast 2-3 times per week. some weeks more, some weeks less, but thats the average.

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snowy

Yes, she should be.

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LoganSnake

Haven't had sex since early October 2004. Before that we averaged about 2-3 times a week after the first 6 months. Five-six times a week before that.

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tres

Thanks I was wondering if anyone was gonna answer that question

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Ruse

Damn... that how I feel already and Im only in a 2 1/2 year relationship.. except its a few times a month (maybe 2).

janech

I know, that many couples have different temperaments. I also had low libido. And I found an way out this problem. I started to take Sentia pills and don’t remember a longer pause than a few days when I didn’t make love with my boyfriend. I think, that these pills certainly have something to do with it.

HAL3000

2-3 times a week on average... give or take. When the kids were very young it was less, when we have more time for ourselves, its a lot more.

Ebb and flow like everything else. Worst thing that can happen is not talking about things if needs change. Resentments can build on both sides. Sex is like any other part of marriage, sometimes it's great, sometimes it's so-so. Communication is the biggest part of keeping it good.

Scabs the Clown

We've been married 20 years and have two teen-aged daughters. The past year we have averaged about 3 times a month but things are slowing down from that frequency lately (like 5 times since the first of the year). It is always a Fri., Sat. or Sun. night. Our weekday schedules don't mesh very well. My wife goes to bed at 9:00-9:30, which is a little early for me but even if I went to bed then I don't think she would be interested because the kids might hear us. She gets up before 6:00 am so mornings are out too because we would have to start around 5:30, which isn't going to happen. I'd like it more often but my wife isn't interested enough to lose sleep over it.

tres

Sorry to hear that you are seldom sexually active. I refuse to believe that if someone wants it bad enough that time is a factor though. Are there any other mitigating factors?

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Scabs the Clown

Not that I've been able to figure out. I just think that she doesn't want it bad enough. When I bring it up she gets pretty defensive so that doesn't get us too far.

hotzot

once a week! and thats up from once every other month. We've been married 25 years so somethings do improve with age.

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