Sawfmonkey

Hey girls/guys~ I've come to believe that I'm horrible at girl on top sex. Do you have any suggestions as to thing I can do to make it more pleasureable for the guy, and for me? I like it, but I just don't seem to get off on it as much. And as for the guy, well its always nice to pleasure the other person's desires.

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Squishor

Why do you say you're horrible at it? If you don't get off that way, that may just be the way you are. I know I don't. Does he not enjoy it?

la petite moi

I have no tips. I don't like it, and believe I'm pretty bad at it too. I would just ask for his understanding, cos that what I do for nwlinkvxd. Anyway, sex should be about comfort for the both of you. Why do girl on top if you're uncomfortable?

SparklingDot

You really should ask your partner what he thinks. Usually, if a guy is having sex, its good for him (or so I've heard). Make sure you're comfortable. What seems to work best for us is for me to straddle him, then lean forward (ends up being me on all fours). Don't be afraid to reposition yourselves. That's the best way to find out what works (and what doesn't). Definitely communicate with your partner, and be open to his suggestions.

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drakers

Talking to your partner is the best advice you can get, unless he thinks he also needs advice...then the tf is the best place to get your sex advice. But talk to him first and find out what he thinks. Then come back and talk to us if their is a slight problem.

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little_tippler

my problem with this is not enough leg strength...I enjoy it but about 10 mins of vigorous motion is enough to tire me out...and not enough for him to get off...so, it's not my favourite really

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ironmaiden7o7

I would suggest speaking to the partner about this also. I think guys usually like the girls on top for some reason. I don't know.

kollege_gal2000

I have found that various places are better for some people. In the bed, I am horrible at this position, but it has to do with the way the bed bounces. When in this position the couch is alot more sturdy for me to use, of course there is the chair approach also. I would suggest trying this position out on other types of surfaces, possibly the floor.

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Janey

I don't have a real problem with it. my prefered position is on all fours. it seems to provid for the most comfort, and penetration. My hubby likes me on top, because he can lay there and my boobs hang in his face. so i like to accomodate.

jalora

Woman on top is MUCH more pleasurable for me than it is for my wife, and I would assume this is the case for most couples. Something we've found that works is for me to raise my knees and create sort of a "seat" for my wife to recline onto. This way, she has something to support part of her weight, and the feeling of her sliding down my thighs is quite nice. It is also easier for me to get into a little finger play in this position.

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black94lt1

For my wife, her on top is much better than any other position, so it really just depends on the two people involved. Try other positions and have fun with it!

Daoust

I find when she's on top that I don't feel as much. I like doggy and me on top because I can move it the most. Not that I have no movement when she's on top, but there is much less sensation. She likes it because she controls how deep I go. I guess that's not much help to your question, but it's my input.

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firestormo

Everyone is different, but for a guy, any kind of sex in any position is better then your best day fishing or at work or whatever(even if the female thinks she is doing a bad job)

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braisler

I have heard of some women really enjoying girl-on-top positions, but it doesn't seem to work for us that well. As a man, I enjoy it since it gives me a great view and my hands free to explore. Plus I enjoy giving up control since I am usually the one dictating the pace, depth, etc. My wife finds girl-on-top to be tiring and not very stimulating for her, so we don't get around to it all that often.

If it is something that you want to improve, practice. I am sure that he isn't going to mind you working on getting better at it and maybe you'll have a breakthrough. Something like, "Oh, so that's how you do it!"

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Carno

Every girl I've been with has loved being on top.

I like being on bottom because I think it's really hot seeing a girl going up and down on me.

EDIT: I just remembered that they all liked different positions on top though. One girl loved reverse cowboy, but didn't like to do it regular. One girl liked to lean back and put her hands on my knees and go up and down like that.

guthmund

Exactly. For me, it's about the visuals. It puts the woman in charge, so to speak, and leaves my hands free to do other things (like eat a sandwich ).

I know for some women it's not as enjoyable as it makes them very self-conscious about their bodies and very aware of what they're doing.

If that's not the problem, well, all I can say is there is no 'right' way to do it. You could try leaning into him in either direction or using your feet instead of resting on your knees. He could try raising his knees a bit or find interesting things to do with his hands. With a little experimentation, you guys will find what works eventually and have your 'Eureka' moment.

Sex, to me at least, is about expermentation. Each individual is different and it takes a bit of creative thinking to find and understand what works for you and your partner. Books, tapes, and advice from us here at the ol' TFP are, at best, just guidelines to get you moving in the right direction and spark your creativity. It's up to you to do the legwork, so to speak, and find what works and what doesn't.

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MSD

I think you mean revers cowgirl, unless there's more to this lady that you're letting us know.

Sawfmonkey

Thanks everyone! I'll keep your suggestions in mind next time around....which will be...hmm..who knows! Also, I don't have a strict partner. I have a fuck buddy, but that's only when I feel like driving downtown. :-P

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Seaver

Maybe off topic... but I always think it's funny when a girl gets tired after only a couple minutes on top but expect a guy to go all night.

Honestly now I'm in good shape but damn sometimes I need a rest hehe.

Jay You Dee

When my girlfriend's on top, she likes it better if she leans towards me. I like it too because I can always suck on her nipples... well or kiss her, but suckin' on the nipples is my favorite.

Carno

LOL Yeah I meant cowgirl

Hahaha yeah I have run into that too..

Redlemon

Well, they are using different muscles in different ways. Try the position yourself.

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wolf

The wife and I love her being on top. Works for both of us. Some people have better luck with other positions. Don't stress about it. If it works, great, if not find something else. Doggy rocks too. We had a great time with that last night.. oh yeah.... *Off to find the 'got some' thread.

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skier

I love having the girl on top- My fav position is when she's laying down faceup on top of me. It feels so good and I have my hands free to play.

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angeltek

Maybe trying a little slap on her fanny to get her excited. My Wife and I discovered that really got her going when she was on top.

HookedOnChronic

If you find yourself getting tired after 10 minutes try switching positions for a while. Guy on top will give you some time to recoup and then when he's all tired out - get on top!

Shades

My most recent ex liked being on top, but not going up and down. She got me inserted all the way, then leaned forward slightly, supporting herself with her arms in front of her, hands on my chest, and rocking forward and back quickly. She said it felt good and sort of allowed her to stimulate her clit. Personally, I didn't care if she wanted to flap her arms and caw like a rooster, whatever worked. If part of your feeling this position isn't so good for you is self consciousness, trust me on this. Guys love watching girls have sex, especially if it's with them. Why do you think we look at porn? Plus, then he can take a bit of a breather, play with boobs, slap ass, etc. I have never once been on bottom and thought it was a waste of my time, although it doesn't usually get me off.

kylewa

I bet 90% of the time my wife and I have sex she is on top. Why? To be honost, I would have to say it's because I'm just lazy! That's why most guys like it I'm sure. We have grown accustomed to it and it's what works for us. To each his or her own I guess.

ophelia783

For us, the whole girl-on-top thing is very awkward...However, we've figured out how I can grind against him while he's on top, so it feels very similar to him.

Just keep experimenting!

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Hampshire

my girl loves it, her clit gets stimulated when she grinds against me and i get to control my movements also, we love it

Lockjaw

Last two people have it right. GRIND!
Move those hips make that booty bounce. That will get your man going every time I assure you. Why do you think guys produce a tent big enough for a small army to sleep under after a lapdance or a nice grind session on the dance floor?

Next time you are up top remember to get your hips and pelvis in motion and get it going in nice circular motion.

HGClown

I like the girl on top posistion but I will say it has never got me off, but the grinding feels oh so good. Then again its more about what a woman is saying or what sounds she is makeing than what she is doing to me that gets me off, nothing gets me off faster than getting her off, but dont feel like your bad if your not getting him off while your on top. As long as his unit isnt getting soft then he is having fun but be carefull about leaning back while on top, that can be cool but that can hurt jr.

Shades

Oh yeah that's a good point- watch out with the going too far back thing. What worked well for me was bending my legs some so that if she leaned back too far she hit my knees. That way, she wasn't really restrained, but there was a safety net.

alec

yah girl on top feels great plus its always a nice 10-15 minute breather (then back to work again)...

ErcDaMerc

i think the curve of your penis affects this- mine curves downard and girl on top doesnt work so well for us...

it would be nice to separate the work-out from sex though...

vvveronica

Being as small as I am and my lover being a big man it is great to be on top. our hands are free to hold and carress and besides the penatration is Incredible woooohooo

ShaniFaye

on top is my most favorite postition....either frontwards or backwards, BUT I have to be leaning forward, it hurts like hell if Im sitting straight up or leaning backwards

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tooth

when my wife is on top, she usually is on her hands and knees. And I bend my legs and tilt my hips up a bit. So it winds up being a bit like doggie, except that I am laying underneath her, instead of kneeling behind her.

Usually, in this position, I can thrust fasirly easily. She doesn't have to do any work even though she is on top. It is a pretty versitile position.

vector_1979

I love it when women are on top. Just seeing their breasts jiggle and for them to take control, does it for me....

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Dunta

I agree the woman on top is the best for me also. Seeing my wife in control and going from a bouncing motion to a grinding motion is just plain heaven. And like vector said, seeing the breast jiggle is great eye candy.

-Dunta