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ironmaiden7o7 02-16-2005 01:42 PM

Question
 
I came across this article earlier stating that we tend to accept physical flaws in our mates after being with them for a while, and on the other hand, there are some of us that would sit and try to come up with ways to change these things about our significant other.


What are things you would like to change physically about your boyfriend/girlfriend and why?

ironmaiden7o7 02-16-2005 01:48 PM

I would like to answer my own question and say that it's the physical appearance that usually attracts us when we first meet someone, it's like a magnetic force that pulls us closer and that's when we realise the numerous appeals within this person. For me, I think it was my boyfriend's electic appeal that caught me. We met online through mutual friends and didn't meet eachother in person until like 6 months after, I remember seeing him for the first time, I was completely in love. There really isn't anything about him that I would want to change, when I met him I thought he was close to perfection and it's been four years since then and my admiration for him has only grown.

So, my answer is, there isn't anything I would like to change physically. However, there are some things that I would change mentally, but that's a whole different topid.

hornjt 02-16-2005 01:58 PM

I can't say there is anything I would change. When I was single until 31 years of age, I kept saying when the right one comes along I will know (and of course I knew God would provide).

cowgirl02 02-16-2005 08:11 PM

The only thing that i would change is that he would not have so much hair on his legs because a little hair is ok but too much kind of grosses me out, but thats all i totally am head over heals for him and everything that he says, does, how he looks and everything else. He is my forever baby!! some mental things too, but like ironmaiden said thats a totally different topic!

Bryndian_Dhai 02-16-2005 08:12 PM

I would be happy to see my hubby more comfortable in his own body, though I don't have a problem with his physical apperance. He was a big man when I married him, and he's a big man now.

I'm not big on perfection in physical appearance... as long as the hygiene is good and there aren't any really grotesque flaws, I'm pretty content to let a person's inner beauty shine through. That's not to say I don't appreciate a beautiful person, its just not what's important to me.

little_tippler 02-17-2005 04:07 AM

I thin konce you get to know and love someone, then whatever flaws others might see might have become endearing and an important characteristic of the person you love.

The guy I'm with at the moment, I have liked from the word go. I can honestly say there is nothing about his appearance that I would change because I love every tiny little bit of him.

ShaniFaye 02-17-2005 04:26 AM

There isnt one thing physically I would change about Dave.....I adore bigger men, I want someone I know I can really roughhouse with and not worry about breaking hehehe

high_way 02-17-2005 05:57 AM

i wouldnt change anything in any of my previous lovers. i think one of the things that attracts you to some one is their imperfections (contradictory i know). i think if everybody was perfect and couldnt be changed then it would be boring because everybody would look the same (thanks plastic surgery).

i actually did a thing with one ex where we would stand up naked in front of the other and just pick things that we might like to change. after we did that we both realised that the things we would want to change are what made us attracted to each other...

doncalypso 02-17-2005 12:14 PM

I guess I would be a happier man if my girlfriend was more thorough about personal hygiene than she currently is. I understand that in American culture (especially up north where it gets really cold in winter) it is common practice for people to only shower once a day, but I find that repulsive and I make the effort to shower at least twice a day because I come from a warm country where one can sweat quite profusely and smell funky by the end of the day.

Because of our differing views of personal hygiene I haven't gone down on my girlfriend in a long time. This really bothers me because I really love eating pussy, but yet I can't bring myself to do it on her anymore because of this whole difference in perspective on personal hygiene.

In terms of her physical appearance, I wish she'd go to the gym to slim down a little. When I first met her she had more of a Coke bottle silhouette that I found appealing, but since we've been together she's let herself go quite a bit and now I must admit she doesn't look quite as appealing. Nevertheless I still love her and I would never cheat on her simply because she doesn't turn me on as much as she used to in the past.

StanT 02-17-2005 12:24 PM

I won't be posing for GQ any time soon, I don't expect my wife to look like a Victoria's Secret model, either. I wouldn't change anything, I'm used to her just the way she is.

NCB 02-17-2005 12:40 PM

I think wanting a change in your partner's phyiscal appearnce reveals more about your insecurities than anything else

Renaissance 02-17-2005 01:13 PM

I wouldnt change anything about my SO. They say you like someone for their good qualities and love them for their faults. I dont think its right to want something physical about that other to change. If you do, I dont think you're in the right relationship.

For me, looks are a small part of what attracts me to someone. There can be the most beautiful woman but she can have an ugly personality and that totally turns me off. I've met women who people say are "hot" but with their personalities I really saw them as ugly.

BabySealClubber 02-17-2005 01:18 PM

Appearance, well, this is more of a habit than anything. My SO walks on her toes ALL the time. She is really short, and I don't know if this has anything to do with it, although she says that it is from years of dancing on point. The only reason that it bugs me is sometimes she suddenly drops from my line of sight when she stops walking =)

Bryndian_Dhai 02-17-2005 06:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
There isnt one thing physically I would change about Dave.....I adore bigger men, I want someone I know I can really roughhouse with and not worry about breaking hehehe

Hehehe, that's one of the reasons why I like big men, too. *grins* I broke two (I dislocated one guy's shoulder, and I dislocated another guy's hip) before I finally stopped doing scrawny guys. heheh.

Halx 02-18-2005 12:29 AM

I do not have a signifigant other right now, so I will default to my fantasy girl.. and the response is, "No."

She's quite perfect inside and out.. to me. :)

Jay You Dee 02-18-2005 02:06 AM

I love my girlfriend more than anything, but I would still change just one single thing about her appearance. I wish she didn't have a tattoo on her back. When we dated the first time she didn't have it and the whole reason I was attracted to her in the beginning was because of what beautiful skin she had... then she had to go fuck it all up with a tattoo. Oh well, still love her and will continue to love her forever~

pinkie 02-18-2005 08:18 AM

I would take away the things that make him feel uncomfortable in anyway with himself, not because they bother me, but because if they bother him, and in turn, that bothers me. I accept and love every single thing about my husband. :)

water_boy1999 02-18-2005 08:22 AM

I don't have a GF but am actively dating. I date someone because I like what I see. I wouldn't change anything if I had a girlfriend because I am accepting them for who they are on the inside and out.

la petite moi 02-18-2005 08:35 AM

I dunno if I'd change anything...

Charlatan 02-18-2005 08:38 AM

I love my wife the way she is...

If I could change anything about her it would be to cure her alopecia... She puts on a brave face but I know she hates not having any hair on her body.

genuinegirly 02-18-2005 08:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Halx
I do not have a signifigant other right now, so I will default to my fantasy girl.. and the response is, "No."

She's quite perfect inside and out.. to me. :)

Must be some fantasy girl.

I haven't ever been much of one to place importance on physical appearance. My sister always was concerned with how handsome her boyfriends were... she ended up marrying someone that she thinks is dashingly handsome, but I see as plain.

My current SO (seems to change weekly) has the body that I fell in love with at the Louvre. There's a statue there that I often visited in my time there, just to gaze at. White marble, beautiful muscle tone, but not bulky or over-the-top heroic. Boi has the same incredible lines, and even the pale marble skin. My eyes won't tire of his physique. The only difference is in his bum. The statue had a firm and muscular buttox, and Boi has a little non-existant excuse for a bum. I guess if I could change anything, I would throw some more muscle into those cheeks.

03-10-2005 05:57 AM

i think feeling stuck with your significant other, knowing that's what you get for the moment naturally you'd want to be able to change what you have, but on the other hand if you like or love someone then you're a lot more likely to like the way they look. and i think, when you are close physically, you usually feel good during the experience, so seeing those body parts again can rekindle feelings of pleasure and therefore make your lover seem more beautiful.

Cimarron29414 03-10-2005 11:47 AM

My wife would change her chin if she could. It really bothers her, so I guess I would change that so she wouldn't have to worry about it anymore. I'm fine with everything else. Well... I would give her a bigger toe nail on her pinkie toe. She only paints eight toes and then two little dots. It's comical, I wish I had a picture to share!

MEAD 03-10-2005 12:41 PM

I'm going to give a cop out answer, there is nothing I would change about my girlfriend, I love her and if she ever looked too different it would feel really weird. But, (there's always a but). She looks the best to me when we are in bed together, lol. So maybe if we were in bed together constantly that would be the only change I'd make.

abaya 03-10-2005 12:54 PM

Mead, great answer!!! I think you've got a pretty universal wish there. :lol:

Grasshopper Green 03-10-2005 05:44 PM

My hubby has a little gap in between his two front teeth that I LOVE but he hates, isn't it funny how that stuff works?

If I could change anything about him though, I'd give him better sinuses. He has major allergies that plague him in the spring and summer and make him absolutely miserable. I'd give him some new knees, because he ruined them playing football and being in the military and at 26 has already had three surgeries on them. I'd give him a new left eardrum, because he lost some of his hearing in the military. Other than that, I don't think I'd change him in any way.

visotech 03-10-2005 05:58 PM

The only thing I would change physically about my girlfriend is the way she dresses. I want her to dress more cute/trendy then we'd match :)

ironmaiden7o7 03-15-2005 07:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by visotech
The only thing I would change physically about my girlfriend is the way she dresses. I want her to dress more cute/trendy then we'd match :)


I think that matching thing is cute! :thumbsup:

jhkayakr 03-15-2005 07:17 PM

Not a thing, everything about her makes her unique and special

Elusive Dreamer 03-15-2005 07:17 PM

nothing. i love him because he's who he is, hence why i'm with him.

although............. ha-ha, i am 6'1" and he's about 5'9"ish. but you know what, at first i thought i'd mind it, or more-so that he would; but it's a small part that adds to my love for him. he's shorter than me and we laugh about it together :)

lindseylatch 03-15-2005 09:01 PM

hehe, I'd change his hair back to blonde, from the blue he accidentally dyed it...But it's not so bad, and it'll grow out eventually. :p
As for myself, like many girls, I've got the whole body-image thing, but he says I'm super sexy, so that helps a lot.

snowy 03-15-2005 09:39 PM

Nothing. He's perfect. Always has been. Ever since I laid eyes on him I thought he was my "ideal" man physically.

That hasn't changed a bit.

blizzak 03-15-2005 10:00 PM

it's the things that are unique and a little different that make your SO special, beauty is totally in the eye of the beholder
"You don't love her cause she's beautiful, she's beautiful because you love her"
That being said, my girlfriend has all the right curves and the nicest skin ever, and there's nothing about her that I don't like

ironmaiden7o7 03-16-2005 06:29 AM

You guys are so sweet. It's so nice to be completely satisfied with the way your significant other looks. And I do agree with most of you. "she is beautiful because you love her," how wonderful!


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