joemc91

So I've got a date with a really cute girl I met this weekend and of course need an idea for a first date. A lot of the girls I know don't recommend the stereotypical movie or coffee but something a little out of the ordinary. I was thinking of going to a rock climbing gym, which a few of my female friends think is a great idea. One of my problems is I did not catch if she is a "sporty" person or not. Is this a decent idea?

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vvveronica

best to find out what she likes to do before fock climbing or you may be going alone. if you dont know it would be good to have a couple options planned. Give her a choice You be surprised how we like that.

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DEFINITELY find out if this is something appealing to her first. If someone took me rock climbing as a first date, I doubt there would be a second. But that won't be true for everyone.

Maybe present her with some options? Decide together what you want to do...

Val_1

For a first date, pick something in which you'll have some time to talk and do things together. Passive dates, like going to movies, aren't good because you're both just sitting there being entertained and don't get a chance to get to know each other (which is really the purpose of a date). Rock climbing sounds like a good idea to me. Even if it's not something she'll normally think of on their her, she'll will love it if you're creative.

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Carno

Ice skating
Bowling
Zoo

joemc91

Thanks for the feedback. It really seems like it will depend on what she likes. Conveniently enough, this weekend there's a jazz festival at school and I found this:

Conrad Herwig's “Another Kind of Blue: The Latin Side of Miles Davis” and
David Berkman Quartet from New York City

Seems like they could be could, plus the latter is free. There are a few more shows in the area, but I don't know if they're live acts. They're certainly on the other extreme of my first idea, but I'll float both to her.

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radioguy

i wouldn't go to a place that is too loud. you want to be able to talk to her and learn more about her. the jazz fest could be cool. if it's a lawn type concert, check on bringing lunch or wine or something like a picnic. have fun.

joemc91

No, these aren't lawn type concerts. Hell, I'd freeze (it's 9F out right now) if it were. The first is a concert in a hall and the second is at a little pizza place. There is another gathering called the "Jazz, Espresso & Food inspired by Jazz Legends" at one of the local coffee houses. I have no idea if it's live music though. That would be ideal.

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pinkie

My husband and my first date was a game of pool, canoeing, sauna, and sleep over.

uptown

Something inexpensive and low key. The idea behind the first few dates is to decide if this is a relationship you're both interested in taking further.

Time enough for wine,roses and fancy meals or adventures like rock climbing which can be pricey somewhere down the road.Go for coffee or maybe to a buffet place for dinner.See if she likes you for you and not just for the expensive outting you're offering her.

Bryndian_Dhai

I have to ditto the zoo idea. And maybe the bowling idea. Honestly, unless she's seriously into the rock climbing thing, she might not have a very good time.... and she may not want to toss on a helmet, strap on climbing gear and hike up a wall... it doesn't present a lot of opportunities to talk and get to know each other.

If there's a winery in your area, do a tour there. Or a museum. Or an "event", like a festival or a fair. I still really like the zoo idea.... It's a great place to walk around, talk, get to know each other in a neutral, no pressure scenario. <i>Then</i> go get dinner or coffee or drinks or something, to cap off your day.

There are places where you can paint your own pottery, make your own teddy bear.... creative, fun things that you can do together. Check your craft stores for free classes and make that part of your date. Or dance lessons at the American Legion or something. Anything that involves the two of you doing something fun and in a setting where you can talk and laugh.

Girls respond to creativity and thought.... if it seems like you put a lot of thought and effort into thinking up something she might enjoy, then you're two steps ahead of the majority of guys out there.

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Jay-Z

Ice skating, blowling are all good option cause you can talk. Also, if the date sucks you can bail on it pretty easily. Ice skating is my all time favorite because if shes good at it, then you can play around on the ice, if shes not you have to get in close and hold her, instantly breaking the intimate contact barrior with good cause.

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superredhead

you might think this is silly, but miniature golfing! you two will have more than enough time to chat and get to know each other. after that have a couple of suggestions. if you get to know her well during the golfing, perhaps you can pick one with absolute certainty.

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TexanAvenger

I actually really like the idea of going on a date to a miniature golf course. The few times that I've done it have always ended up well. It's usually fairly cheap, a little silly, fairly slow-paced, and gives you time to talk and show off a little (assuming you can putt well).

As for the zoo idea, I like it, save one thing. The smell. I love animals, and it can be a beautiful thing to see them together like that. All the walking is good for talking too. But the odor might be a little much.

One of my personal favorite dates was going out in a row boat and just drifting and talking for a while, usually with some simple kinds of food and drink to relax things a little. The only problem I can think of, though I never really had it, would be if the date doesn't go well, you're stuck in a boat with this person and both you and they can get pretty claustophobic.

Hardknock

Do you watch tv? Mabye watch one of those dating shows like "the fifth wheel" or "blind date" They go out on all kinds of dates and do allkinds of stuff. Mabye it'll spark up the imagination.

spindles

I'm picturing this guy sitting on a lake in 9F temperature, rugged up like an eskimo. I'm laughing I think this is out, and for the same reason as the zoo.

I don't mind the climbing idea. Indoor is not expensive, not overly difficult and fun (especially if you are me and have enough gear for two - btw I've never seen anyone wearing a helmet indoors). I think it might suck for her if you are really proficient, and she is an unatheletic type. I've taken girls climbing (but not first dates) and even the not athletic ones have enjoyed themselves. It just depends on her sense of adventure.

My ideas mostly revolve around outdoor stuff (picnic etc.) so I'm gonna move on now.

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KungFuGuy

definately go for something interactive, as opposed to movies. rock climbing is a bit extreme unless you met her at an extreme sport activity and u already know she'll like that.

also, you might think about talking to her about it first, and mutually agree on something. that could break the whole 'surprise' thing, but it'd also be going against the typical where the guy's gotta come up with what to do.

TexanAvenger

Haha... damn, completely forgot about the whole temperature thing. Maybe ice-fishing then?

joemc91

I love it! I talked to her and we decided on going to the jazz show at the coffee house. I may give her a call the evening before to verify the time and see if she's interested in going ice skating a little before going to the coffee house. As long as I can remember how to skate, it should be fun.

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minyn

Go dancing
Go bar hopping
Dinner is classic, but still a good one.
Go play pool (always a fave of mine)
Comedy clubs
any local bands anywhere?

and you can always call and ask her too! she may have ideas

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Cimarron29414

The first date will be fine, sounds like you have a good idea. The key is what you do AFTER the date. I never called the day after - alway wait two days or more. Don't ask for a second date while on the first date. And NEVER send flowers the next day - you might as well send her a card that says "I never want to see you again."

The trick seems to be to remain SLIGHTLY aloof. That way, you don't seem like a sure thing, which equals "boring" in the mind of the modern woman.

Bryndian_Dhai

*snorts* I <i>so</i> hope you're being sarcastic.... You most certainly don't have to call and expect a marathon conversation, but a quick call to say you had a great time and thank her is most definitely the classy, mature way to go. Flowers or a small gift would be nice, too, though those could wait until a second date. Which is probably better asked for when you speak with her <i>after</i> the first date.

I don't know what idiot started telling guys that waiting a couple of days to call and playing "aloof" is the key to a girl's heart. Sincerity and not STALKING her would be good..... Casual attention is the way to go.... Let her know you like and appreciate her, but don't smother her. These days, a modern woman isn't likely to wait around three days for a guy to get off his ass and decide it's been a requisite number of days to not look needy.... She's going to move on to the guy who is sure enough of himself to be casual, classy, mature and confident.

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losamigos

depends how comfy she is with you

people do the coffee thing to make sure they want to date you, so if ur past it then i say.....

bowling - good ole time, fun and laughter is a quick way to her heart
we have a place out here where i live called LUCKY STRIKE. my GF loved it. it's kinda like a trendy bowling/bar/resturant

dave&busters


i took my current GF to a lounge place where they play jazz and we had drinks.

u know with girls, make sure u act like a MAN. lead a responsible life, have a career and be confident. don't play stupid games, that's for kids. real men don't play games or jedi mind tricks. be nice but remember to be a man.

yippiekiyeh

I agree with those that say have a few ideas planned, throw them out find out what she might be interested in... that way you have a few plans (A,B,C) to go through... Plus it shows your flexibility!

thespian86

I'm big into taking my date to a coffee house where there is live music, slow jazz or blues. You can talk and learn and if things are slow then you can dance or watch the band. Once I was invited on stage and I played with the band on stage and dedicated the song to my date. It went over well.

Go somewhere with lots of options, as longs as one of the options is chatting. With lots of options you can learn what kind of things she prefers. Also, I recommend a place that you can show your strengths; dancing, shooting hoops, cooking etc... as long as she enjoys herself.

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Horseback riding!

Oh, ummm... Never mind then

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