Ricer

Well what I was wondering is, I don't know if my gf is (wow this is hard to say but at least it's the internet) completely satisfied. I'm asian and you can assume whatever =\.

snowy

Y'know I've gotten that rap a lot from certain guys I've been with simply because I'm not the most vocal of people, and I tend to have smaller orgasms over a longer period of time (think small but constant) so while it may not be evident that I'm enjoying myself, I very much am.

The trick here is communication--communicating with my partners and letting them know how much they pleased me let them know that they WERE doing the right things. I am still not very vocal, but they certainly know when I've had my fun now.

You need to sit down with your girl and talk about this--ask her outright if you're satisfying her and if not, what you can do to change it. Tell her you need feedback. Everyone has the right to ask for feedback or confirmation in their sex life. Communication is the key to good sex--when it comes down to it, size is relative, because as long as you can communicate, you know the motion of the ocean.

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the_marq

Chances are, she's not.

Sorry to be harsh, but brother that's just the way it is.

I am going to make some crazy assumptions here since your question is still a little vauge:

Assumption 1** You are talking about straight up penis meets vagina sex.
*********Some girls can go almost forever, especially if there is synthetic lube available. I'd say maybe 1 in 5 will regularly achive an orgasm this way (ladies please correct me if I am wrong).
Assumption 2** Since you brought up the Asian thing, you may be worried your penis is too small.
*********Well, you have hands and a tounge right... find a way to use them.

I don't know if that helps or not, maybe some more details would be helpful, age, time with this girl, sexual experience (for both of you) and so on.

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maleficent

Why don't you know if she's satisfied or not? If you are having a sexual relationship with her, you should be able to talk to her, and have her talk to you about said sexual relationship. You arent a mind reader, you need to ask her what she likes, and she needs to be able totell you what feels good and what doesn't

Sometimes all it takes is a change in position, with the right position, size doesn't matter at all.

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Zenir

They are all pretty good avice, except some girls can go forever and some will freak out if you don't take slow down or wait a bit. Unless she told you that she would like to work on sex, I would like to assume that is not a problem, however it might be better if you feel this way to ask her and make sure. Tell her that it is important to you. My girlfriend actually doesn't like having sex for too long periods of time. She likes sex, just that she finds it somewhat tiring after a bit. Specifically after orgasming.

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bad jane

i'm not sure what the duration of sex has to do with whether or not she's satisfied...or do you mean, how long does an orgasm last for a woman?

as to how to tell, you're gonna have to ask her. what some may tell you is a dead give-away she's faking, another will say is a sign she's having an orgasm. it varies by person, and sometimes, by orgasm.

i'd suggest voicing your concerns. reassure her that you want her to be satisfied and that you need her to let you know what she enjoys. when she fakes an orgasm, she's giving you false positive reinforcement--which only prevents you from learning what she really enjoys and keeps her from having a real orgasm.

milian

I can actually feel the vagina contract and pulse during a strong orgasm. With smaller orgasms, its hard to tell. Thats where the communication comes in.

I dont know if this is true all the time, but after an orgasm I usually can feel the vagina start to "dry up." That is always my cue to finish, unless we have extra lube, because it will start to get painful for her shortly after.

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drakers

My wife and I can last awhile, not in marathon time, but long enough to know were going to be sleeping for awhile.

bad jane

communication is always key, don't rely on those contractions if you think she might be faking. while that does typically happen with an orgasm, the contractions can be faked. even if i don't orgasm, i often contract like that just because it is a pleasurable sensation for my partner during and just after his climax.

strcrssd

Talk to her, enourage her not to fake anything. I can't get my girl off with my penis alone...HOWEVER, I have not received a single complaint about my tounge, and my girl tells me my hands were excellent last time we messed around (still learning with the hands, every girl is different, my current one likes it much lighter than previous girls).

Talk, then learn. Tell her to /please/ not fake it, then learn how to pleasure her.

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tuffrr

Just ask. If you can't talk about this honestly, then find someone else.

Bauer_Power

There is a place on women where almost all guys are still big...

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