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dogma13554u · 01-09-2005, 12:04 AM

Okay, it's an age old dilemma. Opposites attract, no doubt about it. It's always interesting to be with someone who has a different perspective to add. But at the same time, it's nice to be with someone who's more similar to your personality, makes life a whole lot easier. So what now?

Is it better to have the opposite and experience something different,
or is there reason like people tend to stay together?
What do you think?

CityOfAngels · 01-09-2005, 12:08 AM

It's good to be with opposites because they can bring new perspective to your life. It's all about balance, really. Don't settle down with someone who is your complete opposite, to avoid emotional anarchy, while also avoiding people who are exactly the same as you, to avoid living a boring ass life.

cavu · 01-09-2005, 12:13 AM

I agree with CityofAngels

Vincentt · 01-09-2005, 08:21 AM

For dating look for opposites, best way to see it all and find what you, want in life.
For marriage though, you need to look for something that can last long term, you will want a few commonalities.

Devoid · 01-09-2005, 08:37 AM

I think Vincentt nailed it.

st33lr4t · 01-09-2005, 12:19 PM

longevity is about seeing eye to eye with one another on important issues concerning the daily goings on in the relationship. as long as that is met i believe you can be opposite/same as your mate.

El Kaz · 01-09-2005, 01:44 PM

I tend to be more attracted by persons similar to me for dating.
I guess I'm just so good I don't need any new insights *cough*

milian · 01-09-2005, 08:45 PM

My girlfriend and I are total opposites. We have many flaws but if you would combine us they cancel out and we will become the perfect person.

SiNai · 01-09-2005, 08:51 PM

A little bit of commonality is nice, that way you can do things you both enjoy together, give you something to talk about during times you're not doing anything, etc. But the differences are what makes some people really interesting. Trying new things, arguing.. err.. discussing topics you don't quite see eye to eye.. etc.

loonatic8her · 01-10-2005, 01:56 PM

Opposites attract... true statement... it is generally fast, furious, fun but for a long term relationship you must have equal grounds to stand on talk about etc and so on.

Sweetpea · 01-10-2005, 02:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vincentt

For dating look for opposites, best way to see it all and find what you, want in life.
For marriage though, you need to look for something that can last long term, you will want a few commonalities.

very true Vincentt, good point . . . you don't want to spend your life with someone who is too divergent from yourself. . . but someone who is just different enough to keep things interesting.

skysooner · 01-11-2005, 12:51 PM

The way it was described to me was this:

You can completely differ on your viewpoints on things and how you react to things, but it is how similar your personalities are that dictates if you will have an easier time being married or not. You can differ on some things (i.e. you an extrovert while she is an introvert) as long as you are alike in the majority of ways. Anything else puts a stress on the marriage. My wife and I are complete opposites in our open-mindedness and views of how the world should be, but we are just about exactly alike in our personality type. We have one of the happier marriages that we know of.

DeeTee · 01-11-2005, 02:33 PM

You need to have something in common, but a little tension can actually hold things together sometimes... you don't want to date your clone, nor your polar opposite.

Giant Hamburger · 01-11-2005, 03:02 PM

I don't think that two people like me would do very well in a relationship together.
I have known others who have had success with similar personalities.
This is one of those scenarios where there is no correct formula.
There are way too many variables in relationships that work.

Cynthetiq · 01-11-2005, 03:12 PM

the wife and i have lots of similar interests...

and lots of dissimilar interests.

notonlybeauty · 01-11-2005, 04:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vincentt

For dating look for opposites, best way to see it all and find what you, want in life.
For marriage though, you need to look for something that can last long term, you will want a few commonalities.

i agree completly

Konichiwaneko · 01-11-2005, 09:59 PM

that saying, like reading a horoscope, works by being conveniently easy to support because you make yourself believe it.

theres so much to like about girls for me, that I'm happy to concentrate on that rather then what I dislike.

01-09-2005, 12:04 AM	#1 (permalink)
dogma13554u Crazy	Which is better? Okay, it's an age old dilemma. Opposites attract, no doubt about it. It's always interesting to be with someone who has a different perspective to add. But at the same time, it's nice to be with someone who's more similar to your personality, makes life a whole lot easier. So what now? Is it better to have the opposite and experience something different, or is there reason like people tend to stay together? What do you think? __________________ So many people to love in my life. Why do I worry about one? - Ben Harper

01-09-2005, 08:37 AM	#5 (permalink)
Devoid Psycho Location: Floating amongst the ether	I think Vincentt nailed it. __________________ We're here to steal your pornography, and sodomize our vast imaginations. - Inignot

01-09-2005, 08:45 PM	#8 (permalink)
milian Upright Location: PA	My girlfriend and I are total opposites. We have many flaws but if you would combine us they cancel out and we will become the perfect person. __________________ Lenny Bruce is not afraid.

01-09-2005, 08:51 PM	#9 (permalink)
SiNai Dreams In Digital Location: Iowa	A little bit of commonality is nice, that way you can do things you both enjoy together, give you something to talk about during times you're not doing anything, etc. But the differences are what makes some people really interesting. Trying new things, arguing.. err.. discussing topics you don't quite see eye to eye.. etc. __________________ I can't seem to remember now What it was like- to live life, before you.. symbiont

01-11-2005, 03:12 PM	#15 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	the wife and i have lots of similar interests... and lots of dissimilar interests. __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

01-09-2005, 12:13 AM	#3 (permalink)
cavu Upright	I agree with CityofAngels

01-09-2005, 08:21 AM	#4 (permalink)
Vincentt Addict Location: Tokyo, Japan	For dating look for opposites, best way to see it all and find what you, want in life. For marriage though, you need to look for something that can last long term, you will want a few commonalities.

01-09-2005, 12:19 PM	#6 (permalink)
st33lr4t Psycho Location: Dallas, Tx	longevity is about seeing eye to eye with one another on important issues concerning the daily goings on in the relationship. as long as that is met i believe you can be opposite/same as your mate.

01-09-2005, 01:44 PM	#7 (permalink)
El Kaz Crazy Location: Canada	I tend to be more attracted by persons similar to me for dating. I guess I'm just so good I don't need any new insights cough

01-10-2005, 01:56 PM	#10 (permalink)
loonatic8her Crazy Location: Greater Atlanta, Ga.	Opposites attract... true statement... it is generally fast, furious, fun but for a long term relationship you must have equal grounds to stand on talk about etc and so on.

01-11-2005, 12:51 PM	#12 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	The way it was described to me was this: You can completely differ on your viewpoints on things and how you react to things, but it is how similar your personalities are that dictates if you will have an easier time being married or not. You can differ on some things (i.e. you an extrovert while she is an introvert) as long as you are alike in the majority of ways. Anything else puts a stress on the marriage. My wife and I are complete opposites in our open-mindedness and views of how the world should be, but we are just about exactly alike in our personality type. We have one of the happier marriages that we know of.

01-11-2005, 02:33 PM	#13 (permalink)
DeeTee Upright Location: Raleigh, NC	You need to have something in common, but a little tension can actually hold things together sometimes... you don't want to date your clone, nor your polar opposite.

01-11-2005, 03:02 PM	#14 (permalink)
Giant Hamburger Gastrolithuanian Location: low-velocity Earth orbit	I don't think that two people like me would do very well in a relationship together. I have known others who have had success with similar personalities. This is one of those scenarios where there is no correct formula. There are way too many variables in relationships that work.

01-11-2005, 09:59 PM	#17 (permalink)
Konichiwaneko The Dreaded Pixel Nazi Location: Inside my camera	that saying, like reading a horoscope, works by being conveniently easy to support because you make yourself believe it. theres so much to like about girls for me, that I'm happy to concentrate on that rather then what I dislike. __________________ Hesitate. Pull me in. Breath on breath. Skin on skin. Loving deep. Falling fast. All right here. Let this last. Here with our lips locked tight. Baby the time is right for us... to forget about us.