Attracted to girls that look like girlfriend. - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

milian · 01-08-2005, 11:44 AM

I have had several crushes on several of my acquaintances that look like my girlfriend. They have the same facial types and about the same size and weight. I love my girlfriend and we have been together for over a year and don't have any serious relationship problems (no more than anyone else would have).

Is this a normal thing? Why am I attracted to something else similar?

discotequi · 01-08-2005, 11:58 AM

I find that I'm attracted to the same types of women... similar hair color, similar look in terms of style, etc.

I wouldn't think it's that unusual.

st33lr4t · 01-08-2005, 01:19 PM

you're asking why you're attracted to women?

Vincentt · 01-08-2005, 06:01 PM

I understand you Milian. I've had those same feelings.
If I go out with a blond, I notice other blonds, If I go out with black hair girl, I notice the black haired girls. It is just like when you buy a new car with a color you have never seen before, then suddenly see that same color everywhere you go.

Seaver · 01-08-2005, 06:09 PM

I have friends that find girls of all types attract attractive, but only ones that have certain features (brown hair, brown eyes, short for one) that drive them wild.

It's nothing out of the ordinary.

Besides, you associate the physical features that all these girls have with the memories and emotional attachment you share with your girlfriend. You see these girls' personality as everything you liked from your girlfriends personality.

absorbentishe · 01-08-2005, 06:27 PM

Not a problem unless you act upon it. Okay, quick story, my brother is divorced, and he's now dating a woman that is a carbon copy of his ex... We seem to gravitate toward those that look like the ones we've had. I'm sure many others can give you similar stories.

Martel · 01-08-2005, 07:32 PM

I'd say as long as you're still attracted to your girlfriend, this seems to be a reasonable expression of a healthy male libido. In response to absorbentishe's brother though, it seems kinda creepy that he'd be dating someone that looks like his ex. Hopefully its because he just finds that particular type of woman attractive and not because he's projecting his ex onto his new girlfriend...

Hard8s · 01-08-2005, 10:16 PM

Just be glad she doesn't have a twin sister....or maybe you should wish that she had a twin sister who wanted to join you.....

Sweetpea · 01-08-2005, 10:23 PM

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Originally Posted by milian

I have had several crushes on several of my acquaintances that look like my girlfriend. They have the same facial types and about the same size and weight. I love my girlfriend and we have been together for over a year and don't have any serious relationship problems (no more than anyone else would have).

Is this a normal thing? Why am I attracted to something else similar?

I don't think there is anything abnormal about you. I am attracted to a certain type of guy, and even though i am married, i still look twice at guys who are similar to my guy . . . it's just what turns me on, what i like . . . it's ingrained. So ya, i think you are perfectly normal, whatever the fuck 'normal' is, have we defined 'normal' on TFP yet? :P

Kalnaur · 01-09-2005, 02:02 AM

Normal: That which does not exist in reality.

Abnormal: People like you and me.

There are your definitions.

Sweetpea · 01-09-2005, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Kalnaur

Normal: That which does not exist in reality.

Abnormal: People like you and me.

There are your definitions.

i think you are very correct on those Kalnaur . . . So the question that reamins is................ why does everyone strive for normal when they should just be themselves?

sweetpea

milian · 01-09-2005, 08:25 PM

Thank you for your comments. I am very in love with her and obviously attracted to her. I didnt know if this attraction to other people like here was something subconsiously telling me that the relationship is missing something, etc...

As for the comments about being normal: I totally agree with everyone here. What is normal? There is no such thing.

gh0ti · 01-10-2005, 04:43 AM

I've gone out on a couple of dates with this girl I met at a gas station. She's a cool girl, I like her a lot. Problem? She reminds me way to much of my ex fiancé. That’s kind of a real turn off for some reason right now. I'm attracted to her physically but my head is telling me "danger! danger!" for no other reason then her mannerisms remind me way to much of the ex.

<-- got burned really really bad.

loonatic8her · 01-10-2005, 01:45 PM

Have we forgotten that we as human beings are creatures of habit? We will always be attracted to our base likes and dislikes... most times we tend to date or have relationships with people we are most comfortable... for me it is the small frames girl next door types with pouty lips... lips are the most important facial feature to me... all my girlfriends have had pouty lips.... I think we stick with what we know!

milian · 01-10-2005, 02:59 PM

But I never was attracted to her type before I met her. In fact, I want too attracted to her the first time we met. She was good looking but just didnt catch my eye. Now that we have been together for a while and are in love she is the most beautiful thing. I find her more and more attractive as our relationship progresses.

kel · 01-11-2005, 10:57 AM

Heh. That's pretty funny. Don't blame yourself, you like what you know.

TheBrit · 01-11-2005, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Hard8s

Just be glad she doesn't have a twin sister....or maybe you should wish that she had a twin sister who wanted to join you.....

A girl I went out with did have a twin sister. A really stupid friend said to me in front of my girlfriend "So, seeing as you fancy your girlfriend, I suppose you fancy her twin sister as well." I don't remember how I got out of that one.

DeeTee · 01-11-2005, 02:23 PM

Hmm... I'm a *.* kind of guy...
I've been attracted to all sorts of hair colors, body shape (thin, athletic, chesty, leggy, bubble butt, etc.) - sometimes similar to the lady I'm involved with at the time, sometimes not.

I don't think you're experiencing anything abnormal, but I don't think it's a constant of the universe or anythinh either.

01-08-2005, 11:44 AM	#1 (permalink)
milian Upright Location: PA	Attracted to girls that look like girlfriend. I have had several crushes on several of my acquaintances that look like my girlfriend. They have the same facial types and about the same size and weight. I love my girlfriend and we have been together for over a year and don't have any serious relationship problems (no more than anyone else would have). Is this a normal thing? Why am I attracted to something else similar? __________________ Lenny Bruce is not afraid.

01-08-2005, 10:16 PM	#8 (permalink)
Hard8s Addict Location: Wherever I am!	Just be glad she doesn't have a twin sister....or maybe you should wish that she had a twin sister who wanted to join you..... __________________ If ignorance is bliss, then wipe this smile off my face!

01-09-2005, 02:02 AM	#10 (permalink)
Kalnaur Psycho Location: Portland, Oregon	Normal: That which does not exist in reality. Abnormal: People like you and me. There are your definitions. __________________ PC: Can you help me out here HK? HK-47: I'm 98% percent sure this miniature organic meatbag wants you to help find his fellow miniature organic meatbags. PC: And the other 2 percent? HK-47: The other 2 percent is that he is just looking for trouble and needs to be blasted, but that might be wishful thinking on my part.

01-09-2005, 08:25 PM	#12 (permalink)
milian Upright Location: PA	Thank you for your comments. I am very in love with her and obviously attracted to her. I didnt know if this attraction to other people like here was something subconsiously telling me that the relationship is missing something, etc... As for the comments about being normal: I totally agree with everyone here. What is normal? There is no such thing. __________________ Lenny Bruce is not afraid.

01-10-2005, 04:43 AM	#13 (permalink)
gh0ti Crazy	I've gone out on a couple of dates with this girl I met at a gas station. She's a cool girl, I like her a lot. Problem? She reminds me way to much of my ex fiancé. That’s kind of a real turn off for some reason right now. I'm attracted to her physically but my head is telling me "danger! danger!" for no other reason then her mannerisms remind me way to much of the ex. <-- got burned really really bad. __________________ I ain't often right but I've never been wrong It seldom turns out the way it does in the song Once in a while you get shown the light In the strangest of places if you look at it right

01-08-2005, 11:58 AM	#2 (permalink)
discotequi Tilted Location: Dallas	I find that I'm attracted to the same types of women... similar hair color, similar look in terms of style, etc. I wouldn't think it's that unusual.

01-08-2005, 01:19 PM	#3 (permalink)
st33lr4t Psycho Location: Dallas, Tx	you're asking why you're attracted to women?

01-08-2005, 06:01 PM	#4 (permalink)
Vincentt Addict Location: Tokyo, Japan	I understand you Milian. I've had those same feelings. If I go out with a blond, I notice other blonds, If I go out with black hair girl, I notice the black haired girls. It is just like when you buy a new car with a color you have never seen before, then suddenly see that same color everywhere you go.

01-08-2005, 06:09 PM	#5 (permalink)
Seaver Junkie Location: Fort Worth, TX	I have friends that find girls of all types attract attractive, but only ones that have certain features (brown hair, brown eyes, short for one) that drive them wild. It's nothing out of the ordinary. Besides, you associate the physical features that all these girls have with the memories and emotional attachment you share with your girlfriend. You see these girls' personality as everything you liked from your girlfriends personality.

01-08-2005, 06:27 PM	#6 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	Not a problem unless you act upon it. Okay, quick story, my brother is divorced, and he's now dating a woman that is a carbon copy of his ex... We seem to gravitate toward those that look like the ones we've had. I'm sure many others can give you similar stories.

01-08-2005, 07:32 PM	#7 (permalink)
Martel Insane Location: Sage's bed	I'd say as long as you're still attracted to your girlfriend, this seems to be a reasonable expression of a healthy male libido. In response to absorbentishe's brother though, it seems kinda creepy that he'd be dating someone that looks like his ex. Hopefully its because he just finds that particular type of woman attractive and not because he's projecting his ex onto his new girlfriend...

01-10-2005, 01:45 PM	#14 (permalink)
loonatic8her Crazy Location: Greater Atlanta, Ga.	Have we forgotten that we as human beings are creatures of habit? We will always be attracted to our base likes and dislikes... most times we tend to date or have relationships with people we are most comfortable... for me it is the small frames girl next door types with pouty lips... lips are the most important facial feature to me... all my girlfriends have had pouty lips.... I think we stick with what we know!

01-10-2005, 02:59 PM	#15 (permalink)
milian Upright Location: PA	But I never was attracted to her type before I met her. In fact, I want too attracted to her the first time we met. She was good looking but just didnt catch my eye. Now that we have been together for a while and are in love she is the most beautiful thing. I find her more and more attractive as our relationship progresses. __________________ Lenny Bruce is not afraid.

01-11-2005, 10:57 AM	#16 (permalink)
kel WARNING: FLAMMABLE Location: Ask Acetylene	Heh. That's pretty funny. Don't blame yourself, you like what you know. __________________ "It better be funny"

01-11-2005, 02:23 PM	#18 (permalink)
DeeTee Upright Location: Raleigh, NC	Hmm... I'm a . kind of guy... I've been attracted to all sorts of hair colors, body shape (thin, athletic, chesty, leggy, bubble butt, etc.) - sometimes similar to the lady I'm involved with at the time, sometimes not. I don't think you're experiencing anything abnormal, but I don't think it's a constant of the universe or anythinh either.