Talking During Sex?
 

Do you like to talk during sex, or do you prefer it silent? How about music? What kind of music? If you talk, what do you like to hear?

Moaning, grunting, and screaming only- No talking except for dirty talking.

Depends on the girl. You won't be having a conversation while having sex (at least any kind of conversation that requires a significant amount of brain power; all the blood has gone somewhere else), but music and your traditional noises abound.

It's not my thing

No requirements, no taboos. Unless you want to talk baseball scores or something like that. I think I would find that a little distracting.

Whatever happens, happens.
Whatever is said, is said.
Music or no music
I don't shy away from anything with a lady.
I just enjoy the whole damn thing.

Honestly, I have never done it with music playing. Maybe ought to give that a try sometime. :)

I personally was never good with music, I get distracted and want to go with the beat or something. But with talking... What Greg said... Is so sexy! I love that. But SUB side of me loves the dirty talk, like being degraded, but that only works with the right person...

Living in a dorm, music is a must to drown out the other noises :-)

shrug weve done it with music on... no music tv sometimes... once during startrek... lights on lights off usually not too much talking.. .but sometimes there is...it varies everytime...

not really much for conversations during sex. we'll say stuff like i love you, and the usual noises, but talking isn't really a good idea, can just distract.

music can be good, but i wouldn't advise techno or "The Prodigy - Smack my Bitch Up". just a thought there :P

I love to talk during sex, let the person know how it feels, have them tell me how it feels....

but then again there are times when words are not needed.......


and the kids are down the hall.

Haven't had sex with music on, but there's a great variety of other things going on - noises, talk, and so forth. Nothing's really a requirement, I just hang on and enjoy the ride. :D

It better be really damn dirty, or really damn poetic. Otherwise let the bodies do the talking.

My wife really gets off when I talk dirty to her, especially during foreplay. Music is another story. I like soft mood music playing in the background and she finds it too distracting. No other complaints, though!

my partner and i saw a therapist who suggested talking more during sex , so i bought my partner a mobile phone.

Actually the problem goes back to the late 60's early 70's my first experiences sexually were done to the backdrop of star trek and now i can't get it right off unless i hear kirk or spocks voice.
weird but true

You know... That is just funny as hell.




Leviathan

Dirty little stories are always fun.

Dirty little limericks are also sort of fun, but not in the same way.

To me, type o negative, october rust is hands down the best cd to fuck to. Lyrics like "i'll do anything, to make you cum" are just great fun. Tracks 3 and 4 are the best, imo. But then again im "gothic" as is my girlfriend. Other than that...i take it as it goes...*nin closer* thats an amazing song to fuck too also..

Yes and no. Depens on the partner and mood and how well I know him/her.. Usually it's just few words like "not yet", "feels good", "that hurts" or "harder!!" or something or dirty talking and BDSM play usually includes "confessing" stuff and taking or giving orders, but with my bf we might talk a lot, just casually. When I am not intrested in sex, I might jerk him off and tell him a story, usually featuring some women we know IRL. I think all our female friends have been gone through several times. :P

for us its always different, sometimes its quiet, sometimes its just a lot of moaning and stuff and we have also been known to carry on a full conversation... well once we did

Moaning and groaning and panting are the best ways to go.

same here. she loved every little description of how it felt.

no talk for me just music its what ever the fuck is playing

i like some talking..sexy stuff...

usually is mostly me doing it, i wish my bf would do it more, tell me stories and fantasies or comment on porn if that's part of it...

but he says it's 'distracting'.

:shrug:

maybe eventually hopefully...

Sometimes I just can't help myself.

If it feels really fucking good I am going to let it be known.

Moaning, talking, screaming, it's ALL good.

There you go *Nikki*! That's what I like. Maybe it's just an ego thing, but I like to know that my "work" is appreciated.:) A little feedback lets you zero in on what she likes, and is sexy as hell!

If you're looking for a few laughs during sex, just ask during sex, "Can I pee in your butt?"

It's friggin' hilariuos. lol

My girlfirend always laughs when we have sex. And that's regardless of what she's reading at the time. :( :D

Sometimes I talk during sex...usually just the regular stuff:
Do you take VISA?
I'm sorry, did I wake you up?
Why are you crying?
Will I save money if we stop now?

Just the usual stuff...

I too prefer this gentlemanly approach.

It could be worse. Instead of "I'm sorry, did I wake you up?", it might not be that great to hear "Oh, was that all?"

"Oh, Daddy! Daddy!"

"I forgot to clean the cat box."

"Hurry! Hurry!"

"I love you!" "Let's not spoil it, ok?"

... Come to think of it, I prefer NOT talking during sex. ;)

Talk is good. Before during and after. As long as it's about sex and not laundry or children or whatever. Thngs like "Oh, that's good", "harder", "I'm cumming", etc. Always say what you want and what you like.

Turn the TV off, unless it's a porno. And keep the volume down, so you can hear the kids. And never, ever have a sports game on! The kids will tell you who won in the morning.

On the radio, like the morning fuck, country music is good. You can both sing to the love songs while fucking. Time it so the news doesn't come on.

I would have to agree with you. I love to talk during sex. My husband however is very quiet and never says a thing. I have told him that this bothers me and he is doing better in expressing how things feel during sex.

talking depends on the mood.

music depends on whether i have roomates or not!

Ya know, I never really thought about it. I guess generally I prefer not to do a whole lot of talking, but we do when its necessary to further the process...

My partner has been talking very dirty to me during sex and I'm now beginning to suspect she fakes her orgasms yet I'm too ashamed of having this insecurity to talk to her about it. I have the lowest self-esteem evar. LOL

Talking during sex is good. Sometimes we talk dirty, sometimes we have a nice boring conversation while the foreplay is going on.

For us it's sometimes the best time to communicate. The nakedness can get rid of any social inhibitions.

As far as real, honest conversations go: After sex only :)

My wife doesn't like to talk or make too much noise during sex. I've asked her to talk dirty but she says she would just laugh.

I had a girlfriend years ago that would always have a great sound track for sex. We had a regular date on Saturday nights and would always end up back at her place having sex to really aggresive music. It was some of the best sex I've ever had.

I was also with a woman who was a real screamer. Her I just felt embarassed with...

any type of communication during sex is good and the more the better .... much better

Talkin for me and the wife is a sometimes thing. mostly its along the lines of moanin, "i'm cummin" etc.


g'damn thats funny.

for me and my girl i usually ask her if it feels good and there isnt too much moaning. theres always some music in the background. we've even has sex to where we could watch tv and still fuck at the same time. but we do talk. its wierd. we can talk like we are talking on the phone, asking how our day was and stuff. but usually the talking stops when she is about to cum and then the moaning and the best stuff happen and at this point i usually go right after she does :)

talented, playwitlips! ;) we have to turn the TV off, I get distracted. (shiny things do that for me).

Noises? Yes. Saying what you want and asking what they want? Yes. Music? Sometimes? What kind? I prefer Techno or something with a quick beat and steady rhythm, fucking to a live dj is way better than just recorded music. But to get into the mood some light r&b jazz or something like that, but during definately techno. if any at all, It's good to hear your girl when she cums.

Doggystyle + X-Files?

Well we both still live with our parents. Bummer! :(

And so we usually play music and try not to make much noise.

But when they are out there is usually a whole lot of moaning and groaning! :D
Had so much fun over the last 2 weeks as we were on holiday and had a hotel room to ourselves! But the people next door must've hated us! And next week we are housesitting while his parents are away! :D

Not so bothered about talking though. I'd rather just get down to it! lol!

That rocks!
I love giving orders- the most kinky thing I did was masturbating her and ordering her to beg me to fuck her. It was sort of a game where we challenged each other and if I won, we'd have BADASS sex :)

We don't talk, we just moan and scream. My ex dirty talked a few times.

I think woman are more auditory and men more visual. If you want to turn your woman on men, talk dirty -- be specific and give feedback. I for one respond very well to positive feedback and fun dirty talk!

Nicki---------I Love your pic of Angelina......totally hot!

Well lets see,
we talk during sex , listen to music during sex , put on clothing during and talk and take off clothing during sex, use rope and she moans and we have sex , use floggers and she smiles and asks for more, and we have sex, I tickle her with feathers and she laughs out load while having sex. So I guess one day I'll have to try that quite thing, I just don't know when, cause we are just have too much fun talking.

Depends on what type of mood were both ends. Sometimes we'll talk dirty, call each other horrible, horrible names. Make fun of each other. Beg, Plead, Act like sluts.

On other occasions, we've been so into each other, and such in a Love high, that we'll make beautiful mood, only interrupted by whispering each others name or the occasional "I love you"

My girl often speaks German to me during our really intense sex (she being German). Anyone else like to be spoken to in foreign languages during sex?

Talking dirty is a fucking must! The moaning and screaming is really good too. And music is fun as well...I had great sex to "The Downward Spiral" once. I guess that makes me fucked in the head, huh?

I don't think i've ever had a conversation about how my day at work was, but I'm not going to tell her to shut up either.

(Random tangent)
If the lights are on, I have to close my eyes or face away from my partner. I'm kindasortanotreally like Amelie in the fact that I can't help but think the faces made during sex are funny/strange. I kinda end up staring at his face mesmerized and end up messing up the timing. Heh.

Anyways, sometimes talking in the beginning is okay, but once things start going usually words can no longer be formed.

It really depends on the mood and my mental state. Sometimes I love talking dirty and being told dirty things, and sometimes I like hearing about how it feels, or whisper little teasers about what I'm going to do, and vice versa.

Then there are times when I just want to talk about religion:

OH GOD! OH GOD! oh GOD!!

It's all in the mood...music or talking.

"I want to posess you" sex
music:
NIN
Ministry (the industrial stuff)
Lords of Acid
Scooter
Ambiant (of the faster variety)
Drum N Base (of any kind)
120 BPM (if you are really ravenous)

Talk:
"Oh fuck me!"
"Yeah baby, right there"
"Take me!"
"You fucking animal!"
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Romantic, sensous sex
music:
Kitaro
Andreas Vollenweider
Ambaint (of the softer variety)
Depeche Mode
Jazz on the radio

Talk:
"You are my queen"
"You are beautiful"
"Your skin tastes so good"
"Let me gaze into your eyes as waves of orgasm splash over us" (corny but works wonders if timed correct)
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Anytime sex:
Music:
Easy listening on the radio
Coldplay
U2 (Joshua Tree is superb)
Tangerine Dream
Enya
So many others, too many to list

Talk:
"I love you"
"What can I do to make you moan?"
"Come for me."
"God you feel so good, I love what our bodies do together." (again, corny, but timing is everything)

Talk and music can make or break the moment, usually the music can set the mood, and talk can elevate the mood if apllied properly. Sometimes it is absolutely ok to be completely silent, sometimes moans, grunts and groans are in order. Test the waters lightly and go forward with a smile on your face.....


These are just a sampling of Daddymem's bag of tricks....I can't give away all my secrets :)

I make ape sounds :) :(

Yea a little talking is good. moaning too... Music why not. Do what feels right for ya... And I would even leave the lights on. Oh yea!!!!!!!!

I like talking nasty during sex, but don't do it all the time.

Sometimes my wife asks me to talk nasty to her, other times she wants to be "loving" and romantic.

Different moves for different moods...

Mr Mephisto

No talk unless its "yes yes yes!"

Any noises allowed though.

Talking drives my wife wild. She loves to hear me tell her what I'm going to do (as I'm busy working on another area); what I'd like to do; whispering detailed versions of fantasies she has shared into her ear. I'm trying to encourage her to talk the same way a bit more, too. It's an incredible turn-on for us both.

Occasionally, the talk turns into a little role-playing, with one of us being dominant and making the other beg for something - or 'forcing' the other to do something. It makes for some real nice variety!

Talking can be very stimulating depending on what is being said or done. I mean talking thru a BJ is a bit distracting specially if im the one talking... But depending on situation. anything from a "OH yes!" in a soft play to a "Your my little toy.." while bound helpless and gagged, can be very arrousing.

Suvi, my wife does the same thing! After twenty years, we've talked about just about everyone we know. LOL!!

I still consider the time special because she's willing to take care of my needs even when she's not interested.

Sometimes we talk, sometimes we don't. We still have fun.

there is some talk, but usually not very involved. sometimes end up talking about cartoons, go figure.:rolleyes: :D

Yup us too Suvi. I feel like I know our female friends much more intemently than they would probably like. Nothing like getting together for a few beer with friends and not having to wonder, but rather knowing.... "she is shaved", "she has a moon/star tatto"... etc.....

i've done it before and it was pretty cool

i like tlaking dirty to them its the best hah

You could ask my neighbors - its mostly moaning, screaming, and sometimes singing (at least that's what i8one2 calls it when I do it). I like it when he talks to me about what he's doing to me. I am usually too far gone to form coherent thoughts, so he's much beter at the talking thing than I am.

Dirty talk and grunting/moaning.

We also like to agree with each other.

A lot.

I don't believe in the BS that you don't talk during sex. You do what you want. We don't have conversations, but we say what we feel, or whatever. We laugh if something funny happens (damned cat), whatever.

Sometimes sex is just sex, but for us a lot of the time sex is experiencing everything about each other.

I feel awkward talking dirty. I don't really talk dirty on a regular basis, so starting it up just in bed is kind of a weird thing for me, personally. My girlfriend has less of a problem with it, she can be pretty aggressive when she's, ah, riled up. =)

Mostly though it's moaning and, as someone else put it, talking religion. hehe