I am so confused, Help needed.
 

Ok, now I know I have posted on a similer issue before, but this is somethignt hat i have absolutely no idea how to deal with. I dated a girl four years ago, but we didn't do much together sexually, like at all. Well, after four years of not talking she suddenly emails me and askes if we can get together, so i say yes. We start hanging out and we are very open about talking about sexual stuff. I think this is because she is Bi, and it makes it reall easy to talk to her about other girls. Anyways, a few days ago she asked me if I still had any fantasies about her, and I decided to be truthfull and say yes, that i did. She asked me to describe one of my fantacies, and I readdily agreed since I figured that it meant she felt something too, since she was talking about how she just gto back from "Getting off thinking about me". Anyways, I mentioned that I definately had feelings for her and all of a sudden she got really surprised and said "Well, I think it's best if we just stay as friends. P.S. Write me another story" Well, I am a bit confused, but I do it anyways, and then she sends me a bunch of pics of her naked, and talkign about how much she gets off thinking about me. Can anyone tell me what to do? From all my experiance, this would seem like a big come-on, but she keeps saying she just wants to be friends. Is she asking for like, friends-with-benefits or fuck-buddies or something? I know also that I am the only guy who she has sent pics to, and she took these especially for me. What should I do? Women's advice preferred, but Men with this kind of experiance would be appreciated too. Thanks :confused: :confused: :confused:

I am going to be a bit un usefull and suggest that she has MPD (multiple personality disorder). Or she revels in sending you mixed signals. I certainly would not want to get mixed up with her.

my prediction - this will all end in tears. you may or may not get some, but tears there will be. not hers either.

Women are strange beast not to be understood at least thats what i think. But the real reson why i'm writing apart from making that valid point is to say it's time to move on. I say move on i mean keep moving. After been seperated (or not talking) for the last four years nothing really has change. Even if you get back together it won't be long will you realise that you split in the first place. Even if she wants to get back together is it really worth it?

She sounds like a head case and someone you'd best avoid. She's getting off all right: getting off on keeping you on a string. Friends generally do not send each other naked pictures and masturbate while thinking of each other. Ask her what the hell is going on, and tell her that you don't appreciate the mixed messages: she says she wants to be just friends, but is sending all sorts of sexual come-on signals. If she doesn't respond, then good riddance to her.

She's playing games with you and not worth the time spent writing your post. :D

She's a classic tease-- you can look all you want to, but you can't touch... Lurkette's right, she's getting off on having you pant after her. You deserve better than that.

Since you have feelings for her, what she's doing is just mean and not worth your trouble.

Judging only from your description, it sounds like she's not looking for any benefits from nor offering any benefits to you. You've suggested she's someone who enjoys being wanted, loves to hear how much and in how many ways you want her, but doesn't need to give anything in return. I would look elsewhere for someone who will reciprocate.

Women are insane, 'nough said. Stop trying to figgir 'em out, won't work.

Sounds like she wants some attention. She's using you in a way. I don't want you to get hurt by this. There are a lot of great girl's out there.

Sorry to hear about this beacuse it obviously has you bugged, and so it should.

I aggree withone of the comments earlier about getting off on keeping you hanging. She seems to definitely have some kind of manipulation dependancy, is she is playing some kind of a game.

I would challenge her straight up to reveal motives as to why she is telling you about her fantasies about her, or tell her to send the pictures to some who cares because that is not the way friends communcaite with each other. Either way, whatever you do you must tell her that the mixed signals must stop.

I do not know you or this person, but from the little I know, it would be my first instinct to give her plenty of room a keep a safe distance, or things may go badly.

Good luck, keep us posted.

Peace,

Pierre

this girl = attention whore

Wow, she sounds crazy! I agree with all the other comments, so I will join the bandwagon and say you're better off without her.

Give her a Dirty Sanchez, then move on.:D Seriously, she's fucking with your mind, get far, far away.

Thank you for your input. I am even more confused now, because she just did declair motives. Now she just sent me something saying "Chris, I love you. All I want is to curl up close to you in your arms and hear you say you love me." Does this change anything, or does it just reafirm more that I should get the fuck away from her?

Go with your first instinct-- RUN!! FAST!!! AWAY!!!

Why did she declare her motives, had you said something to her? Doesn't sound like she's serious or worth your bother.

To be honest, this is kinda weird and the best thing would be to avoid the situation, cause she apparently doens't know what she wants unless what she wants is to mess with your head ... which is not someone I would want to hang around.

E-mail her back and tell you you know she's messing with your head, but you enjoyed her photos and you also enjoy the fantasies you've had about her. Ask her if she'd mind awfully if you shared them here on the Titty Board.

But its pretty obvious that she's trying to get you to want to force her a little bit. The trouble is, if you do, she may holler "rape," and get you in terrible trouble. I had a gf once that wanted to work through some issues she had so she seduced me and then when she thought I'd gotten to where I couldn't stop before orgasming within her, she went into where her fear was stored and just got this huge panic feeling. Trouble was, it instantly withered my johnson, each time. I'd have liked to have helped her, but there just isn't much rapist in me, as I found out.

I'd guess this friend of yours is working on some similarly bizarre thing. You could go with it, but don't expect roses and lace at a wedding down the line.

Thank you, I think I will take your advice, since it's pretty much a 100% agreement that this girl is bad times. So thank you all, I will tell you how it went. Planning on telling her this weekend.

?? Why is everyone telling him to run? Yes, she is bad news, she is a tease and she is an attention seeker.

But then again, Nos could very well get laid too.

My opinion is that she's mixed up and confused.. on one hand, she wants you to talk about your fantasies and then she gets cold feet and brushes you off.. and then keeps coming back.

Maybe she got cold feet b'coz you told her you had feelings for her. Maybe she doesn't want to hear feelings.. fantasies only.

Try teasing back. Try making sexual innuendos and act like you don't mean it.. get her all hot play her like a fiddle. You might get somewhere.. :D

Well, as long as you DON'T have feelings and you won't get hurt.. otherwise, like everyones been saying, this could end up with you nursing a broken heart.

Haha, Funny story coming up. O, and a but of information I forgot to tell y'all. Im kinda... and Emotionally Detatched Extrovert (Look it up if you don;t know what it means, yes it is a very rare combo), so that may help shed some light on why I have stuck through this. I took her bait, and told her I loved her to see what she would do, and now she says she never remembered saying that she loved me, or asking me to tell her that. So now Ima try and take Geltlesoul's advice, and i'll let yall know how THAT turns out.

Keep the pictures for the hard times though.

Asta!!

Better yet, post the pictures in the Titty Board... :-)

Definite nut case. She's not worth your time.

She is fucking nuts do your self a favor .....This is the voice of the future, and im telling you stay away.....oooooooo ooooo :crazy: