Men's opinion of MMF Threesomes
 

Okay, this may not be the first fantasy for Men thinking about threesomes, but I just wanted to see what people felt about it.

The thing is, there is a stereotype out there that most Men would love to have a FFM threesome, but not a MMF, and many Women out there are a little pissed off at the male gender because of this.

From my perspective, which is admittedly a little sexually off-centre for a heterosexual, would be that three naked bodies in a bed (hot tub, floor, elevator, whatever), as long as one fo them was female, is still all good.

Personally, I think a MMFF foursome would be the most fun, but that's another story.

What I want to hear is if any Men out there (or women if you would like to deride us even more), have opinions about having a MMF threesome. You know how I feel, let's hear about your thoughts...

Pierre

Although I prefer the intimacy of the whole one on one thing, were the situation to present itself, both MMF and MFF would probably both be really interesting.

I believe this thread or something similar to it has been done, but I haven't posted in it, so here goes...
I'm married to a woman who'd never in a billion years invite a third party into our bedroom, so my opinions are based purely on fantasy and/or wishful thinking, but I would be most prone to enjoy a FFM myself. If I was to ever cross the boundary into bisexuality I think it would most likely be just him and I alone. I think I would enjoy that more than having my wife present as well.

I've finally accepted that I'll probably never get a threesome (my wife isn't a fan of the idea) but I'd take either one. I'd prefer a FFM because the I'd be able to have sex with the third party but a MMF would be lots of fun too.

I think I'd get off on seeing my wife suck someone while I'm doing her. I'd also like to try a DP. We've done that with vibrators and she loves it. I like how I can feel it vibrate while it's in her. I'd also like to see how her oral would be affected by having someone inside of her at the same time. A double facial would be pretty cool too. I'd consider getting in a 69 with her while someone fucks her but that would depend on the situation.

I would only do it if it was with one of my best friends. I wouldn't feel comfortable if it were a strange guy and another girl. Also, my dick would have to be the biggest in the room. Something about being ultra competitive has something to do with it......

No complaints if it were FFM.

Since I'm in a similar situation to the two married posters here, I'd have to agree. Both would be fun, but most likely won't ever present itself, given my wife's 'never in a billioin years' attitude toward threesomes of any kind. FFM is the ideal, but I would probably get into MMF too, given the right conditions and attitudes of all parties involved.

[edited to qualify the married posters]

Set the record straight
 

Just to set the record straight, I'm in the same married and "it'll never happen" scenario. This thread was just to see what the general thinking was regarding the whole thing. My position (no pun intended) is that I would absolutely do it if the situation presented itself, which is comfotable since I know it wont, so does that make me a lair? Or worse a Hypocrite?

Pierre

In a MMF 3some I think I'd rather have it be someone we don't really know. It would be weird to have my best friend sleep with my wife. For some reason it wouldn't be weird if it was someone I don't know well. I don't think I'd care about who is bigger.

Techincally, MMF would be a gangbang, granted a small one but a gangbang just the same. The only combo that counts as a threesome is the MFF, which just sounds like too much work to me. :)

I guess I agree with you. It would be a small gangbang, not a threesome. So the difference between a gangbang and a threesome as in a threesome all three people please each other vs. in a gangbang two or more people are having sex with a member of the opposite sex but not with each other.

I say tit for tat, but I'm not horribly interested in a FFM threesome either. I think one at a time is enough to handle as it is. I have all kinds of insecurities that would come up during a MMF threesome, all of which I'd rather avoid. Then again, not being open to one after having a FFM with your girlfriend would be hypocritical.

Well, I would do either. However, I wouldn't want to know anyone in the group. Since it is a fantasy, let's also assume everyone is disease free.

I wouldn't want to do a MMF with my wife because I think that a ting of jealousy might ruin the experience for me, as it might her in a FFM. So, the best would be that you don't know the people.

MMF would be fine as long as there isn't any expectation for the two guys to play. Not there's anything wrong with that, I am just not attracted to men. I don't even like DP porn because all I can think about is my balls touching his balls. So, I think we would have to stay on either end of her, so to speak.

This has always perplexed me. I would love some group sex, dreamt about it, fantasised about it. But never done it. Think I might have had the opportunity when I was younger, but was a bit naive (screwed a girl in a bed next to her friend who was pretending to be asleep, but she was watching and fingering herself on the sly - damn how hindsight is great).

The thing is, In a MMF with my girl, it would have to be someone I knew (a stranger may be a bit too rough, or not have the same level of respect for her) and yet if it were a friend I wouldn't want them to see her naked, bang her etc in case I marry the girl! - she's my girl, not my friends (selfish I know?!)

A MFF would be great but I don't know if i've got the stamina! Having said that I did work my way thru a couple of my girls friends before I got to her (if you know what i'm sayin) so should i approach her on this subject..??

I have done both, there was no "interaction" between the guys. To me its was just fucking, but I had an audience. That was a few years ago. Of course the FFM is the best cause you have two girls giving you attention, and you don't have to worry about accidentally touching another naked guy.

Why is it men associate a MMF threesome (yes MMF IS a threesome) with bisexuality? I've done many of them and the two men never engaged in any sexual activity with each other....not to say they CANT but just because its two guys and a girl DOES NOT automatically mean it is

Threesome
Slang for a group of three people engaging in sex.
http://www.mybodyvibes.com/sex_dictionary_t.html
(its not gender specific)

Menage a trois/Threesome
A sexual relationship between three people.
http://www.4sexual-pleasure.com/definitions.html

I'm in no way shape or form every going to get either, so it's all fantasy for me. If we could have a FFM, then why not a MMF. There would be no interaction between myself and the guy, other than a Hi 5 or something. If she truely wanted this, it would happen, so I know it will never. I'd love to see her enjoying herself x2, whether another male or female in the room, but it's hard enough to at times for her to enjoy just me.

Because to some men, one cannot be sexually excited around another man (whether or not that man is the object is irrelevent) without it having homosexual overtones.

Silly, I know, but it's true.

God forbid you got a hardon while taking a shower after gym class...

I'd be totally up for a MMF. I think it would be better than a FFM because I can only fuck one person at a time. I'm not bi but I would not have a problem slapping balls with a guy as we DPd a chick. It's only skin. I have wondered what it would be like to suck cock and I have heard that a live cock up the ass is far better than a dildo so if I was in a MMF situation where I could experience something new I would probably go for it.

I think that MMF is just not right.. different strokes for different folks I guess

if i were to particpate in multiple partner sex...i think MMF would be the more likely. i'm bi, and so that idea of having the chance to express that more fully is a cool idea.

That said...i'm not sure about the concept in general. i'm personally not a fan of casual relationships, so the third party would have to be someone i knew, and cared for outside of the sex.

FFM: Done it. S'fun.

MMF: Would do it. Sounds like fun.

The only trouble I've seen with group sex is, you're never quite sure if they're moaning because of something you're doing or something they're doing....

MMF was fun... haven't had an opportunity for FFM

I couldn't do either personally. I'm only 18 but I thought about a MFF before, quite frequently and I'm sure at least one of the girls i've been with would have been into it (actually now that i think about it, one of the girls I was with before has a female lover now) but I just couldn't do it. I couldn't know if they were getting more satisfaction from the other person or not and I don't think I can separate sex and love. Its just something I can't do...and I'm not sure why.

It's funny when I hear about this male competition thing, or how self-conscious males are about their bodies/sexual performance. Maybe I'm just not normal, but I just think it would be erotic to be with another naked horny guy having sex with a naked horny woman.

Would I cum too quickly? Maybe. Would he? Possibly. Would she, not likely. Still, with three naked people, where's the rush. My gawd, there could be hours of fun, manually, orally, any other way.

Gawd, I'm getting horny just thinking about this. Any takers?

Pierre

Oh yea!

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Why not FFF?

Don't tease us. Please don't do that to us :)

MMF? no f*ing way. MFFFFF would be much much better :D

Prude... ;)

Sorry, please spank me... Doh! ;)

lol, I think 2 girls at once would be enough to handle. Anything more and my head would explode.

any more than 2 girls at once and one would get bored. Two, if you're not really good. And i guess 3 if you're a horrible lay.

Well I guess I'm a horrible lay. Bring on the girls.

Yeah, I'd be will to do a MMF threesome. Mostly because giving a DP is a bit of a fantasy of mine (perv!). As long as the other guy understood that I wasn't interested in any man on man stuff, it's all good. It seems like it would be very intense for the girl. I would love a MFF as well. Hell, I'd be will to sit in the corner while a FF went on.

Having a hard on in the gym shower is wrong.

Having a hard on with a coed gym shower, would be ok :p

Having been in a number of MMF threesomes, they are fun but mostly for the women. I'd much rather be one on one.

If both males were bi it could be more fun, but not my thing.

I think I'd have a problem sharing my partner with another guy. On the same note, I think she'd hate sharing me with another girl.

-Thlayli

I'm told that DP is like rubbing your penis against the other guy's with a thick condom on or something. There isn't much separating them. ;)

i think having a naked guy having sex with a girl i like (or simply just like to fuck) wouldnt be the biggest turn on around.

who even likes the idea of having a girlfriend or whatever having sex with another guy let alone doing it right infront of/with you.

in closing, ew.

For the record I'm married and while my wife hasn't said she'd never ever do it I'm not holding my breath. If I got the chance I'd be all over it though. Of course my preference would be MFF. But for MMF as long as its 2 on the chick and not 2 on the dick its all good. I'm not interested in playing with another guy but I'm not scared of catching teh ghey from one either. :) And I think I'd actually get turned on from watching another guy nail my wife.

I think so too, swapping partners, each person gets doubled up on, yeah...would be alot of work especially for the guys but damn that would be so worth it.

Although I'd rather do it with someone I know than a stranger, say 2 of my friends who are a couple.

Oh hell yeah, that would kick ass!

My wife is too jealous for a FFM, and I am too jelous for a MMF. Neither of us is interested anyway. Good question, but no thanks.

I'm married, and I have absolutely no interest in a threesome of any kind. A FFM would probably just feed my wife's insecurities, and a MMF is just nastay. heh

Also, if I were single I wouldn't want to have a threesome with anyone I cared for. It would be FFM with two girls I barely knew. Simply because I would have a hard time respecting them afterward. And yes, I fully understand how hypocritcal that last sentence is.

One thing I have noticed is everyone is thinking that they are the ones to ask another male (female)to the party. (of course I suppose most people are already in a relationship) In other words, why not be the one that is invited by the other couple? That way you don't have to worry about pissing off your significant other.

I wouldn't have a problem with MMF, provided that the other M was someone I didn't really know. I'm sure my wife feels the same way about that one. I think it'd have to be in another city though. MFF of course would be good, but not with any of her friends. She has the smugliest friends I ever seen.

I agree that MMFF would be preferable to MMF though.

Otherwise, it would just be another guy screwing your girl, am I right?

My g/f is willing to try a FFM threesome (in fact, she seems interested in it), but she knows she is a jealous person and couldn't deal with me being with another woman. I would be willing to try a MMF threesome, but in the same way I wouldn't want here to have sex with another guy. I'm a jealous person too.

I guess we'll never end up trying either, unless we can both ditch our paranoia and jealousy. Maybe some day...

We've had two MMFs, one oral, the other full blown sex. I didn't involve myself with the other guy at all, BUT, it was still hot as hell. I love watching TW having fun. I have absolutely NO problem with it at all.

I would be up for either.

I've done a MMF and it was a frickin blast. It was with my best friend and a mutual (female) friend. There was no "interaction" between the us guys, but there was no wierdness about trying not to accidentally bump into eachother. It was pure, unadulterated hedonism that left everybody fulfilled.

The only word of warning I can offer is this - Think about positioning before you make a move. If you are on your back with the girl on top of you, and she's sucking off your buddy, you can end up staring straight up his asshole. And really, that's not a great view.

I've done this, and wasn't very impressed with the results. It was one of my best friends and a girl he'd been talking to, but not been serious at all with. Also no interaction between us guys. For one reason or another, I just couldn't get into it. Any time I wasn't penetrating, I went limp. It was impossible to get off. I guess the only good thing about it is that it lasted for a couple hours, but it certainly isn't anything I'd try to get into again.

2 women though, I'd definitely try. (Imagine that!!)

either way, mmf and ffm, would be sexually stimulating and as exciting or as comfortable as you let it be. i'm married and either way would instill jealousy in either me or her respectively. it's just human to want to protect what is close to you.

But...one night while sitting on my couch watching tv with the wife, she blurted out, "do you like to see girls kiss? does that turn you on?"

turns out...recently, a very attractive woman that works for my wife and is a fairly close friend of hers, casually brought up to my wife that her husband had requested a risque birthday present. she said he wanted to see her make-out(kiss and touch) with another woman while he, and in this case me, get to watch. the other woman is pretty good looking and my wife says he's decent looking.

my birthday and his birthday are a couple weeks apart and it could probably be considered a present for both of us.

in talking about the prospects of this "party"...

1. my wife had said that she'd strongly consider it--- "what the hell" and "i'm gay until it's my turn" have come up in conversation.

2. but she is uncomfortable with the way her body looks after a couple of kids and doesn't wwant anyone to see her naked in any way(she even hates me to see her sometimes). this was solved when it was learned that the other guy requested tanktops and thongs and never really brought up any prospect of us joining in.

3. my wife said that she'd only consider the other woman because she knows her and vice versa...that the two of them had actually talked about us guys joining in and that neither of them would be disappointed since us guys are decent looking and according to traded stories, are good in the bedroom.

i've actually talked to the other woman and asked if this proposal was genuine or just a joke at work between girls and she said it was totally up to my wife, but that she originally was joking about it being the two of them. although she now is taking it serious since my wife seems to be. :crazy:

my thoughts have been scattered and have ranged to all ends of the spectrum. part of me knows i'd like to see my wife and her friend go at it. part of me knows i definitely wouldn't mind joining in. part of me knows that the other guy may be looking for some of my wife or another woman other than his wife, but i'd be in the same situation, so who cares? part of me knows that me seeing her with him and her seeing me with her would stir up some very odd feelings and even some jealousy, but it would definitely be highly erotic. i can't truly say how i'd really feel until i've been through it.

nonetheless, i keep asking the wife on the status of the "birthday party" and she says she isn't sure, she'll have to ask. i don't want to rush it or push it because i know the wife is suspicious that i want to screw the other woman or any other woman most likely, which is true but not in that context. she's said as much when she's said, "you just want to have sex with other people." to which i reply "no. i just want to see you and her and if it goes farther, then fine. if not then that's fine too." we've both agreed that it would be uncomfortable when it came time for the guys to join in(not to mention she's nervous about fooling with the other woman to begin with---first time) but we both seem game for it. at this point i don't care about the feelings afterwards. i just want it to happen because it has occupied my mind day and night since she brought it up 2 months ago and i am going crazy fantasizing about it! let's just do it honey. :thumbsup:

since i'm married, the prospect of mmf or ffm male are just faded dreams, but i wouldn't mind either one. i'm beyond the limiting inhibitions and am open sexually with some guidelines of personal taste, so interaction with me and the other guy is not disgusting to imagine, but not the first thing on my mind. being married does leave it open for 4somes and proposals like i've described, so maybe there is still some hope. if not, i'm still very pleased with my gorgeous wife and could live with it just being the two of us if need be. :icare:

This girl I was dating once asked if I'd consider having a 3some. We talked about both FFM and MMF and she was on for both. This conversation came up once in a while although we never did anything about it... mainly because we never could think of the right person nor did we try asking. There were many rules: if it was a girl, then I can't penetrate her; same if it was a guy, but I also wanted to make sure that the guy was someone i know and trust that will never call her on the side.

Anyway, once we were chatting and she started to suggest names, and out came names of my friends etc. I was seriously considering asking them and I said I would. But later I thought about it and realized that while it was a fun thought, I don't think I could handle it the day after. But thats not the point. The point is.. my girl started to get pissed at me cause while she was asking those questions, she was also not pleased with ther fact that I'd let her have sex with someone I knew. She felt that I didn't love her that much and that I didn't respect her. This became a turning point in our relationship. Well, little did I know that talking about our fantasies could have led to her getting insecure.. after all, its just talk and she was participating in it as well.

So would I do it?

FFM - sure I would. Best if neither of the girls was my gf. But if one was, I think I would be happy watching her get on with the other girl.. I don't need to get too involved.

MMF - yeah i think I could. I think only with a guy friend and a girl who's neither of our partners. I'd be happy to oblige any girl who wants some fun. Don't expect action between the guys tho.

That being said, I once had an MMMFFF action. Us 3 guys were friends but we didn't know the girls. Hung out naked in a jacuzzi before heading off into the rooms. Quite good fun if not for the fact that the girls didn't want to move around... ie play musical chairs. Lots of naked girls together are good fun. ;)

If I wasn't married, I'd go for MFF, but probably not MMF. But being married to a lovely woman, I don't really feel like sharing.

i can't even manage to get involved with a guy willing to do a mff, much less a mmf :(

ahh well, i guess having all your fantasies come true would make life a little boring (except for winning the lotto...that would simply make life more interesting!)

I had MMF and MMFF action in college. Its all good as long as everyone is confortable and you trust your partner (if your partner is involved). I did the whole MMF where neither of us did anything to each other, and I did the whole MMF where we did. Something about two people giving you head at the same time is just bliss..

yea thats the problem finding the right person

Might be OK. Would depend a LOT on my wife's interest and who the other guy was. As the saying goes, I'll try anything once... no promises after that. :crazy:

I am very turned on by the idea of an FFM, but an MMF really doesn't stimulate me at all. Perhaps I embody that male stereotype of "you are mine, and no one else can have you... but if you want to bring a friend in on the action, by all means..."

Maybe it makes me sound uneducated, perhaps it shows my jealous side... I am just not that excited about watching another man do anything to my wife... Just as my wife is not excited by another woman doing anything to me. That is why we'll most likely never have a threesome of any kind. In a way, it's kind of a moot point, but if the option ever arose I would definitely choose FFM.

I dont think I could do it. FFM? In a second, but two men. Thats tough, I just couldnt get past the fact that I could accidently touch the other guy, or have him get some of his "juices" on me. Weirding me out right now.

Depending on the situation I'd be up for it...

In my head it works but in real life I just can't imagine getting that intimate with another man... I would have difficulty trusting him.

Clearly, most women find other women beautiful, and even arousing. Most women are comfortable being affectionate with other women, even if they feel totally hetero. So a FFM scene isn't just two one-on-ones with a common person in the middle and the other two all focussed on that one. But a MMF is like that, unless the guys are bi, and there are relatively few women who'd want to get into a scene with two bi fellas. (Think of the risk)

I think women do feel competitive about who's sexier, or has better boobs and whatever. But if they can get comfortable without clothes around one another, then sharing a man isn't a strain for them. Conversely, men are much more likely to be comfortable naked together, but far more competitive about time with the woman, who's pleasing her more, etc.

One last point. Women really do have more influence, if not control, of the sexual relationship they have with their SO. So the woman has to agree to or want the threeway. As I said at the beginning, most women find other women rather attractive, even more attractive than men. Once they feel confident of a man in their lives, then they would be comfortable enjoying a woman too, as long as they don't feel that it threatens their primary relationship with their man.

Still, I agree with the one who suggested that a double couple, MFMF manage' would seem best. Just think of the combinations and visual stimulations.

Pinkie, I'd love to spank you. I wrote a whole fantasy story of how it would go, but I think it was to erotic for this thread. Sigh . . . Oh, well. Slap, slap, fondle.

I'm sure it's already been mentioned ... but I have no time to read through the whole thread now..

Just curious, for tte male 'naysayers' -

is it


1. not wanting to get naked/etc with another guy

or

2. not wanting to see your girl having sex with another guy

:confused:

I have no problems with MMF threesomes. It usually adds a little something for the girls. I think most guys are just too homophobic to try it. It's a shame because it's quite fun. Of course FFM threesomes are just as fun too! :thumbsup:

SiN, for me its definitely not wanting to see my girl having sex with another guy.

Anyway, i thought about it and probably will not do an MMF if I can help it for the above reason, and I think in an FFM case, the girl (IF i had one that wanted it) will probably feel the same way too.

So.... to compromise, we could set the rule where I don't touch the other girl.. so they can only do girl-on-girl action. I'm ok with that as its still fun having 2 naked ladies around. :P Now.. where do I find a straight girl who's willing to forego the sex with the man and only make out with the girl?

And of course, where do i find the first girl?

Got to do the MMF w/ a married couple who became my best friends. It was a case of 2 males pleasuring the same woman at the same time. There were a couple of high 5's exchanged, a bunch of laughs and a lot of "Big O's". We don't play anymore, but we all play golf and fish together. Thanks for the memories! It's an experience I'll never forget and wouldn't pass up if the opportunity presented itself again!

well, i've been involved in one mmf with me, my ex gf, and our gay friend. it was interesting getting head from a guy in a forplay triangle, but i made sure to concentrate on my girl, wasn't really looking into handling the another guys stuff

I am very possessive when it comes to my SO (when I have one; currently single), so I would never do a threesome if it included her unless the other person was her hot best friend. ;) If it were just a hot friend of mine...I might consider it, but something tells me I'd be turned off by seeing the other guy there, and the whole "I hope he doesn't accidentally shoot that on me" thing would start kicking in.

im too insecure to have a mmf threesome.

LOVE MMF, especially if he is bi....

ahh, the mmf threesome, what a great invention, or ffm for that matter...
obviously requires 3 compassionate, bright, considerate human beings to work, this one!
to be the most erotice, both partners of the same sex have to get over the mind-boggingly limiting standards of hetero-/homo- and just allow themselves to be -sexual, plain and simple. the truth is human bodies are turn ons to other human bodies and the more the merrier.
i have never done this with a "loved one", but have with people i genuinely cared for and it's a great, life-changing experience. to live the rest of your life and know it's okay to get aroused by another guys presence (those with catholic, midwest upbringings can definitely relate) is a liberating thing. i'm still "straight" but always cherish the experience of being with a male and female.

Dosn't sounds too good for me!

i would never do a MMF cause i just wouldn't be able to do a girl with another guy around, it's just wrong and weird.

Interesting question, but not likely for most people in the REAL world. This only seems to happen in porn and for swingers.

But, If I had the chance, A FFM would be my preference. I would do a MMF, but only with stragers, it would be to creepy to half to talk to those people in normal life.

now this I'd like to see expanded on. What do you base the words 'wrong' and 'weird' on? Are you saying that someone who indulges in this act is automatically weird; and/or are you saying that engaging in this act is wrong against some moral code? .. discuss

if wouldn't let another guy in with my girl and me if he was like purely just wanting sex with my girl.... thats where most men draw the line i think...


sex is really more of a personal thing between you and your partner... and unless if the third person is a really good friend to both you and your partner and isn't sexually attracted to either one of you any more than the other... it will work