@ the gym convo starters, pick up lines, etc?
 

we've all done it - had our eye on someone in the gym but really couldn't muster anything in our minds that sounded remotely good enough to say to them. so here's my question: what is a good, appropriate, and relevent thing to say to someone else at a gym to get a convo started? i don't think "hi" is enough :p and what about the variables, like their friends with them, them being actively engaged in their workout (IMHO you should never bothor someone who is focusing), or headphones?

Hi. You must be an astronaut. Cause I sure want to taste your Tang!

Not recommended if she's holding 20lb. dumbbells. ;)

You know what? Nobody and I mean nobody wants to get picked up at the gym. People are there to get the job done, if you know what I mean. They want their attention on getting their sets and reps, not on their hair and makeup.

Why isn't "hi" good enough? It's better than a lame pick-up line.

Except for the chicks who actually do their hair and make-up before going to the gym. Yuck. :rolleyes:

Actually, there are plenty of people (men and women) that use the gym as a singles club. It depends on the environment of the gym. The gym I go to now is a "go there and get your workout done" place. The last gym I went to, was a meat market (which I wan't interested in at the time, but now that I am, I kind of miss the place).

I go to the gym at 5:00 am after I get off work, the few attractive women are obviously their to work out only. I've gone a few times in the evening before work and it has the vibe of a place where you go to hook up.

bench press 550 lbs a couple of times... i am sure that could not hurt for getting girls... only need to be able to bench that much

i would have to disagree with the "gym is not for pickups" idea. maybe for some people the gym is only to get a workout done. and i understand that. i goto the gym primarily to work out. but not completly for that. i know i wouldnt mind havin a nice lookin woman come up to me while im workin out. like the rest between sets. but the problem is i wear headphones...so that would make it difficult. even though i dont have the music loud at all and i can hear whats going on fine, id imagine that just the fact of headphones makes things a lot harder.

If a girl wants to start talking to me in the gym, cool. Otherwise I am sure not going to waste my time since I am there to work out. I visit bars and go to work (job) to meet girls.

All the girls at the gym are already friends of mine, and I've come to accept that. It would just be weird to try to pick them up.

i wasn't so much fishing for a pick-up line as much as I was trying to get an idea of some appropriate actions in a gym - like someone else said, I guess it depends on the environment.

If you see a lot of fluorescent spandex, it's probably a pick-up gym. Otherwise, not.

Even a regular gym usually has a couple of "queens," very in-shape women with a lot of makeup and flattering workout clothes who talk to a lot of different people (usually well-built men) and do a lot of socializing. It's pretty easy to get into a conversation with one of these, if you want to. I generally haven't found them worth talking to.

Except for the meat markets, the gym's not really a place to meet someone. It's a good place to _go_ with a woman you already know; I always liked working out with a girlfriend or potential girlfriend. In a serious gym, you're most likely interrupting women's workouts if you try a line, and that's not going to be attractive. If you're over at the juice/smoothie bar and there's a general discussion going on, however, that's something else. In that case, I'd just try to contribute to whatever conversation was going on and try to talk directly to the woman I'm interested in, as at any party.

At the meat markets, of course, it probably doesn't matter what you say, just what you look like (and optionally, what you drive).

oh another variable is a school gym - my primary workout facility is on the university campus with nothing but ~18-~24 year old women there, so i feel like that environment is much more inviting for striking conversation

No I have noticed that some single women prefer to pick up people at gyms as opposed to bars where there are drunk unnattractive people who won't leave you alone and are 2 seconds away from pukin all over you everytime they ask if you want to dance or if they can buy you a drink. But try this...get on the machine next to the chick yer trying to pick up then glance at her and say...

"OMG...WOW...yer tits!"

Asta!!

Lol..uhh, darn, you are sooo good at that.

The gym i go to has alot of pretty and in-shape girls. However, i have always felt that it would be an inappropriate place to pick up women. Maybe it's because i'm a freshman, or maybe i'm just vibing it wrong, but i prefer to get in there, get my work out done, and just leave.

Nevertheless, if you should feel that approaching a girl @ the gym is appropriate, by all means, do it. What i would probably do is something like, "Hey...i see you come here alot, what's your name?" Then give her your name, n' say hi to her whenever u see her there, or even strike up a quick 5 minute convo. If she's interested, you should get her # in due time, and be able to start up a relationship.

K-Wise also makes a good point; the gym is full of young, fit, ambitious (usually), and disciplined people. To a girl, it is probably a much nicer place to pick up guys than a club or a bar, where people are drunk, disorderly etc.

Sometimes, if you'd like to pick up girls, maybe you can dress to impress a little. Like a beater/a-shirt instead of a normal shirt, and then, see if your potential target ever looks at you. I sometimes notice girls looking at me, and i'm not sure, but i guess that indicates at least a slight level of interest.

**Edit:** And if you're in to playing games...sometimes not noticing them on purpose makes them like you more. Go figure :D

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haha nice, I'm pretty sure that will work flawlessly.

I think sometimes opening with a question, so that it looks like you bumped into her acidently is better, and then say Hi, my name is..whats yours..

Causually: (raise eye brows, dont smile) Have a good workout? pause, (then make a general statement like) I find it really helps me relieve stress. Then moving on to talk about some other form of exercise that's not in the gym that you like to do, like hiking. Then continue the convo from there and at the end ask her if she'd like to go hiking. That make sense?

Just my thoughts, I don't do this much, but it seems logical and almost risk free.

EDIT: Oh and obviously, you wouldn't do this while she was working out, but resting, and youd still want to make eye contact and smile first, etc.