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Casanova. No man is more renowned for his power over women. His name is synonymous with seduction. During his 73 years, he made love to noblewomen, actresses, dancers, chambermaids, Greek slave girls, a preist's niece, a farmer's daughter, five ,sisters (and their mother), a transvestite, a hunchback (with 'an excitingly misplaced vulva'), a nymphomaniac, and two unrepentant nuns - 132 women in all. He was irresistable. This is Giacomo Casanova.

I'm here to tell you it's possible. It depends largely on sytle and sincerity. These commandments are based on Casanova research of actual Casanova events and Casanova writings! Casanova.

Casanova Commandment #1: To make a woman feel special, do something special.

For his illicit dinner with the nun, Casanova rented an elegent five-room apartment. He met her as she stepped off the gandola, and they walked arm-in-arm across a lantern-lit plaza.
-Your move:When you're trying to impress a woman, never utter these words at the cusp of an evening: "So, what do you feel like doing?" A true Casanova takes charge. He has a plan. To devise a memorable one, imagine you're proposing. What would you do to make the night so special she couldn't possibly say no? Then arrange it (minus the ring and bent-knee of course). After all, you are proposing-only it's something far more enticing than marriage. Women are appreciative of any kind of effort. Casanova certianally realized that.

Casanova Commandment #2: Privacy is sexy.

The nun had a reputation to protect, and Casanova was sensitive to that. The apartment staff did not disturbe Casanova and his guest; dinner was served through a window in the wall, allowing the servants to deliver the food without being seen or heard. There were no prying eyes to fear, nothing to distract them from each other. Privacy gives a woman permission to be herself.
-Your move: Create an intimate atmosphere whenever you can. Invite her to dinner at your place, reserve a cozy table at a fine restaurant, encourage her to slip away from the party for a starlit stroll...Continually be searching for eddies in the evening where you both can linger and connect. You can bestow no greater compliment on a woman than your full attention.

Casanova Commandment #3: Let her admire you admiring her.

Casanova's rented apartment was full of mirrors and candles. He wanted his love to be "reflected a thousand times," and he wanted to be able to enjoy her from many different angles during dinner. He knew, too, that a beautiful woman enjoys looking at herself-that the mirrors would become her portraits, and she'd feel even sexier because of it. There's a magical quality to mirrors, candellight and silver. Women find it enchanting.
-Your move: If you can't duplicate an atmosphere like this, become a mirror yourself. Let her see the efforts of her beauty and charm reflected in you. Every now and then, look at her appreciatively and smile. At opportune times, compliment her-choosing a trait other than the obvious (no "you have wonderful breasts, they remind me of fruit in a bra." kind of stuff). For instance, pretty women are used to being called pretty. That kind of compliment has little effect. But tell a pretty woman that she's smart, and you often win her heart. There's a magical quality to a man's open, insightful admiration that women find equally enchanting. But remember to be honest. You obviosuly find many things about a woman to be attractive.

Casanova Commandmentt #4 Ask her what she thinks.

Casanova's seduction lasted several hours, and he spent much of this time asking questions and listening. In an age when women wer considered inferrior to men, such behavior was flattering. He treated his guest reverently, and not just because she was a nun. This woman was his equal, and he was genuinely interested in her perspective.
-Your move: The reason women found Casanova so facinating is that he found them so facinating. In fact, he believed that without engaging conversation, physical pleasure was uninteresting. The minute you start thinking of the woman as an object, the instant you become more interested in yourself han in finding out about her, then you're not being a Casanova. He made women feel valued for things other than their bodies.
It's not difficult to get a woman to talk about herself. Just ask an open-ended question and shut up. Remember to be sincere about it. Genuine interst should come natural, we just have to bring it to the surface. Touch her heart before you dare venture anyplace else.

Casanova Commandment #5: Encourage decadence.

For this particular evening, Casanova spared no expense. The apratment, the dinner table, his own body were all dressed with the finest things available. The meal consisted of eight courses, served in pairs. Many of the dishes, such as oysters, champagne, game, sturgeon, truffles, fruits, and sorbets, were delicacies, let alone combined with everything else. Casanova was obviously out to impress, but he also knew that after the first sampeling of something sinful, it becomes much easier to sin again.
-Your move: Provide your lady with something decadent. This could be a single chocolate truffle (gift-wrapped) or an ice cream sunday that the two of you can share. Indulgence is the removal of a single brick that significantly weakens the temple.

Casanova Commandment #6: Appeal to her senses.

Casanova scented the apartment with tuberoses because he believed that they were an aphrodisiac. He served oysters and champagne as an apatizer because on the tongue there is only one thing move titillating. He asked for the lady's opinions because every women loves the music of her own voice. He created an atmosphere of lavishness and luxury, so her own indulgence would feel less guilty. And her touched her, often and gently, to return her attention to the true focus of the evening. By stimulating every sense, Casanova was able to immerse this woman more fully in the moment, and make her feel more alive and sexual.
-Your move: Be atttentive to ever one of your mate's five senses. Play background music, tough the small of her back to guide her, make eye contact, give her a flute of champagne to sip, buy her a fresh flower to sniff...Think of each sense as a little engine you need to warm up (btw, always warm up your cars, guys. We're supposed to know this stuff.). When all her senses are purring, she will be, too.

Casanova Commandment #7: Savor the anticipation.

Although Casanova immediately grew "ardent" when he noticed that his lady's breasts were covered by only a dainty chemise, he didn't force himself upon her. He was patient. He accepted her single kiss and cherished her two word promise: "After supper."
Casanova appreciated that if you have your pleasure too quickly, you don't suck (excuse the phraseology) all the pleaure out of it. Savor the anticipation, it's half the fun.
-Your move: Foreplay doesn't happen only in the bedroom 60 seconds before intercourse. It's organic. It encompassses the entire day. Slip a note into her purse confessing how much you're looking forward to this date. or call her at work and tell her the same. When you meet, take her hands and softly kiss her lips. Most important: Allow the evening to progress at it's own pace, remembering that neither of you has to be anywhere except together. In other words, don't plan this during Monday Night Football.

Casanova Commandment #8: Be playful.

Most of the food and drink Casanova preferred was sexually suggestive. Plump oysters, succulent game hens, soft cheeses, ripe fruit...On one level, he simply enjoyed watching women put these things in their mouths. But on another, he saw dinnertime as an opportunity for playfulness. When a slippery oyster fell onto an appple blossom, he immediatally offered to slurp it off. When the salad arrived undressed, he encouraged the lady to dribble on the oil and vinegar. Casanova realized that sex isn't serious-it's playtime for adults. Games like this are the warmup.
-Your move: Whether you're dining at home or at a restaurant, choose something provocative that two of you can share. Put the plate between you and nibble. Eat with your fingers. Feeed each other. Make your goal to keep the evening lighthearted.

Casanova Commandment #9 (almost done): Be spontaneous.

Casanova was an opportunist. He drifted from country to country, working at ludicrously divese jobs (among them preist and pimp). He was a disciple of the moment. Once, while sharing a carriage with a farmer's wife during a severe storm, he foudn her perched on his lap after a frightening thunderclap. Seizing the opportunity, he deftly rearranged her skirts.
-Your move: If the evening isn't going according to plan, abandon it. Be attuned to fate and go where it directs. The confidence and daring this shows is in itself seductive.

Casanova Commandment #10: Surprise her with a gift.

After supper, Casanova and his lady retired to a candlelit alcove, where he presented her with a beautiful lace nightcap. She pronounced it "magnificent." It was the final, coup de grâce. "She told me to go undress in the next room," writes Casanova, "promising to call me as soon as she was in bed. This took but 2 minutes."
-Your move: Women love unexpected gifts. Make hers personal rather than trendy, small rather than large, silly rather than serious-something only she can appreciate. Casanova gifts showed a great deal of creativity and thoughtfulness. Most important, time your gift's delivery for that critical point in the evening when there remains just one obvious was for her to show her gratitude.

You Casanova, you.

Dilbert1234567

you do all that your self, great job, thanks a lot, it gives me much to think about.

(if you found it, great find and thanks for posting just the same.)

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CityOfAngels

Waaay too much work. Here's my simplified version:
1) Talk to her like you would talk to anyone else.
2) If you're interested, tell her outright, yet respectfully.
3) Depending on her response, you either change the subject, bid farewell, or offer to "hang out sometime."
4) If you chose the latter choice in #3, let time and the both of your actions take their course. In the end, it all comes down to body chemistry and how you react to each other. Sure, you can compliment her by spending a million dollars on an evening, but none of those compliments will surpass the compliment that you're interested in her; they're just signs that you're trying way too hard.

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Willravel

Well, actually what I put WAS the simplified version. I have copies of many of Casanova's writings. This was just a breif overview of how one date (with the nun) was an excelent example of how to treat a woman, and it illustrated a lot of what he taught in his writings. Besides, I like to add some personality to my informative posts (see the menstrual cycle post, and the sex olympics post).

SiNai

GREAT post dude, I love it. Much appreciated!

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Phant84

very nice post. it makes a lot of sense and should help a lot of guys out.

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LaughinMon

hell if youre that sex driven, you dont need a guide, just alot of money.

SpikeQX99

Interesting for sure! Gives you something to think about at least. And how could you argue with the knowledge of Casanova????

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slimshaydee

edited........

KungFuGuy

sounds like its..

1-9) spend money on her.
10) be nice about it.

ratbastid

You cynics need to read it again.

That was beautiful. Here's the thing that really strikes me about it: how often sexuality and relationships happen in the context of conquest and defeat. Cassanova creates a situation where everybody wins. Relate to her like this, and she's honored, respected, and allowed to express herself in every way.

Willravel

slimshaydee: What? What's edited? I'm confused.

ratbastid: Thanks!

MikeyChalupa

Is this from Cosmo? It's in their style.

-Mikey

Ustwo

Way to much work.

Not to mention long term it spoils the woman and she will expect such things every time if you are not careful.

As my wife says I was romantic....once.

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Willravel

Mikey - NO. This is not from Cosmo. Straight guys don't read cosmo.

Ustwo - You get out what you put in. If you feel our SO is worth all of this, do it. If not, that's okay, too. This is just what Casanova did. My wife isn't spoiled, although she would never be treated as well as I treat her by any other man.

Ustwo

Hehe, its not about worth, its about being sort of fawning and phoney. I'd much rather 'be me' then turn it into a planned event.

This is why my wife and I are still so happy together after 13 years. We are just ourselves, and never have 'acted'.

If this is your personality, then you are being true to yourself.

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ShaniFaye

/just to interject

I know plenty of straight men that read cosmo

/end interjection

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Willravel

I agree. For some people it would be fake. However, there are a lot of guys out there that might appreciate some example how to show your love and appreication. It's not fake to try something new to show your love. If it works, it can become a part of your romantic repertoire. If it doesn't, you're none the less of for trying.

ronan

that was... awesome man! thankyou

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blahblah454

Well that was some good advice from the chief wine and dine-er (not sure how that saying is spelled)