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tman17m · 11-03-2004, 06:46 AM

okay, this might turn out to be a long story, so if it does thanks for reading/your input...
i dont exactly know where to start, so if its disorganized...well yea

my ex and i went out for almost two years. it was a good relationship, dont get me wrong we had our share of problems like everyone. a little less than two months ago she goes on this road trip with some friends. she comes back, and when i went to see her i over heard her talking to somebody, saying "blah blah toms in the bathroom, ill call you after work..." so, i questioned her about it, and she told me she met some guy..blah blah blah...she says that she never cheated on me, i believe her...but thats besides the point. so, we broke up....i havent really talked to her all that much, but ive seen her a few times...twice in the last month...i felt good to see her, but afterwards i felt like shit. well, last night she called me up and just wanted to hang out. okay, thats fine. as of yesterday i was feeling better about everything. so, she came over and everything was cool. but then, her new, awesome bf calls and they talk for a while, atleast a half hour or so, right there in my living room...okay, im a little pissed becuase thats shitty, but i get over it, whatever....then, she goes on my computer and talks to him there for...forever....now, im pretty pissed off and hurt. but, i still really care for her, thats why i cant let this shit go.

i guess i just need to take my friends advice and straight up ask her what her intentions are...and if they are to just be friends thats fine, but i need to know, and then make it clear that its cool if she comes over, but the fact that i cant handle her talking to her new bf in front of my face...i mean, thats pretty shitty....

well, just wondering your thoughts on all this

ShaniFaye · 11-03-2004, 06:54 AM

Maybe its just me...but when I go to hang out with friends...I hang out with friends...I dont spend time socializing on the phone, I dont spend time socializing on their pc's....thats just rude beyond belief. Well I take that back...I did it maybe one time when Dave was out of the country and I was at a party and he called...but then he talked to everybody there...not just me...so thats a different circumstance.

If I were you and she did that there I would have NO problem letting her know it wouldnt happen again. If she wants to stay up her b/f's ass let her stay at home and do it.

phredgreen · 11-03-2004, 06:56 AM

it's pretty obvious what her intentions are... she has a new boyfriend. you're old news. get over it and move on. that's all there is to it.

this seems very junior-high dramaish. read king's stcky about where we stand on bullshit like this.

11-03-2004, 06:46 AM	#1 (permalink)
tman17m Psycho Location: my cubicle	advice about an ex...dealing with the situation okay, this might turn out to be a long story, so if it does thanks for reading/your input... i dont exactly know where to start, so if its disorganized...well yea my ex and i went out for almost two years. it was a good relationship, dont get me wrong we had our share of problems like everyone. a little less than two months ago she goes on this road trip with some friends. she comes back, and when i went to see her i over heard her talking to somebody, saying "blah blah toms in the bathroom, ill call you after work..." so, i questioned her about it, and she told me she met some guy..blah blah blah...she says that she never cheated on me, i believe her...but thats besides the point. so, we broke up....i havent really talked to her all that much, but ive seen her a few times...twice in the last month...i felt good to see her, but afterwards i felt like shit. well, last night she called me up and just wanted to hang out. okay, thats fine. as of yesterday i was feeling better about everything. so, she came over and everything was cool. but then, her new, awesome bf calls and they talk for a while, atleast a half hour or so, right there in my living room...okay, im a little pissed becuase thats shitty, but i get over it, whatever....then, she goes on my computer and talks to him there for...forever....now, im pretty pissed off and hurt. but, i still really care for her, thats why i cant let this shit go. i guess i just need to take my friends advice and straight up ask her what her intentions are...and if they are to just be friends thats fine, but i need to know, and then make it clear that its cool if she comes over, but the fact that i cant handle her talking to her new bf in front of my face...i mean, thats pretty shitty.... well, just wondering your thoughts on all this

11-03-2004, 06:54 AM	#2 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	Maybe its just me...but when I go to hang out with friends...I hang out with friends...I dont spend time socializing on the phone, I dont spend time socializing on their pc's....thats just rude beyond belief. Well I take that back...I did it maybe one time when Dave was out of the country and I was at a party and he called...but then he talked to everybody there...not just me...so thats a different circumstance. If I were you and she did that there I would have NO problem letting her know it wouldnt happen again. If she wants to stay up her b/f's ass let her stay at home and do it. __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

11-03-2004, 06:56 AM	#3 (permalink)
phredgreen who? Location: the phoenix metro	it's pretty obvious what her intentions are... she has a new boyfriend. you're old news. get over it and move on. that's all there is to it. this seems very junior-high dramaish. read king's stcky about where we stand on bullshit like this. __________________ My country is the world, and my religion is to do good. - Thomas Paine