lost1rach

ok so i think i am bi, but no one knows it.. and i dont know how to tell if another girl is..any suggestions?

Rlyss

Just search for her name on the international database.

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Well, short of seeing her with another woman or her telling you that she is bisexual, there really isn't any way to tell. No more than you can tell if a man is gay or a woman is straight, that is. People don't generally announce their sexuality to the world in so many words.

If you think she is then you should ask her. Don't say 'Are you bisexual?' of course, but ask her out to a bar and as the conversation gets going, try and steer the topic to that. If she's got a boyfriend or a girlfriend then don't try and move in on her.

If you are pretty sure that you want to date or experiment with a woman then you should let her know. If she is a friend of yours then it might be awkward but if she is just an acquaintance then perhaps you should treat her like you would treat a man that you wanted to date. Ask her out on a date, give her some hints, make a move on her. If she's not a friend then you've got nothing to lose, just like asking a man out on a date.

Flyguy

ASK HER...

Rainy

alternatively if you are looking for gay experience, find out where your local gay scene is, i.e. bars and clubs and go there for a night out.

the more time you spend around gay/bi people if you are bi increases your ability to spot others as there as subtle hints that can give people away that straight people dont see. Its called a gaydar as in radar for gay spotting.

I'm a bi male and it took me a couple of years to develop this, but now i can tell if someone is gay or definately not or if they have tendancies. Of course you will still get things wrong but i think its less awkward for women as guys that are really homophobic usually wanna fight you if you get it wrong!

Mango

You kiss her and she tastes like pussy.

Jay_Jay

Nah, just kiss her, take a picture and we'll help you out.

Coppertop

Why not ask?

ratbastid

I'm pretty clueless about gays or lesbians (unless it's really obvious of course), but I've developed a nose for bisexual girls. Can't quite explain how I know, but I can usually tell.

Being married to a bi girl for 9 years and in an intimate relationship with another for over a year, you start to pick up some clues.

analog

I would think that flirtatious behavior would be the #1 indicator of a fellow female's fondness for fuckable, feisty feminine fun...

Yeah.

On a more serious note, try flirting much like you would with a guy. Attraction is a universal language.

Bryndian_Dhai

I'm bisexual. And I'd MUCH rather someone ask than beat around the bush or play games. That's just my personal preference, but I know a lot of bi girls who feel the same way. If you're new to the whole idea of maybe being bisexual, you might try a local lesbian bar/club. Be open about your nature, make sure who you speak with knows that you are not playing games but are interested in exploring your sexuality... You'll always be surprised how effective honesty is.

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TM875

I think you're overlooking one very important factor here - all women, regardless of whether or not they're willing to admit it - are bisexual.



Especially if drunk enough.

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*Nikki*

While your fucking her she is eating out another girl.

I have found this to be a sure sign.

Shizukana

*moan Nikki*

Ahem.

If they're bi, they probably know the "family/family-friendly" lingo. It's lingo that gay/lesbian folks use to discreetly find out if someone is like-minded. I don't know, but I'd assume that bisexuals would use the same lingo?

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theburner

Just look for the little tattoo above her clitoris. If it says "Equal Opportunity Employer" she is bi.

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Bryndian_Dhai

I use it, but a huge number of my social circle is gay. *shrugs* Very few bisexual people I know who aren't immersed in the gay community use it. On the other hand, even when they don't use it, if you use it with them, they catch on pretty quickly, lol. I'm still in favor of asking. Admit before hand that you have a very personal question, and ask away if they give you permission to ask it. I wouldn't walk up cold and ask someone, mind you.... engage them in conversation, make their acquaintance. I'd never advocate being rude. But in the course of conversation, you can say, "I have a kind of personal question..." If they say ok, then ask, "Are you ever interested in other women?" Be gracious if they say no, don't just run off. But at least then you know for sure.

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Jizz-Fritter

Don't hide your bi side. The caveat being: don't bring up the subject in conversation; if the conversation naturally comes to "flip-floppers" just matter-of-factly state you belong to this group. Don't embellish, don't give unnecessary details. Pushing the subject will make people uncomfortable.

A girl being bi is a bombshell that will get around by itself, and certain people will float your way naturally.

Even if you don't land some poon, it's always fun to see who drops their jaw first.

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Blackthorn

I've heard it said that most women are pretty much three beers away from a bi-curious experience. Find a female friend you might be interested in and go out for a few drinks then ask her if she's ever been interested in girls....the conversation that follows will tell you whether you're in for a good night.

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jillian

well being bi myself and being a girl that speaks her mind i usually come right out and ask...i usually will try and get on the subject and just ask her if she has ever done anything or if she would... if she says no..... no harm... most ppl know that i am bi so she probably wont look at me any differently... and if she does.. it probably wasnt meant to be anyway... if she says yes.. then u can go from there... now with all that said i dont go up to a strange girl in a bar and ask her right off the bat... i might start dancing with her... if she digs the dancing maybe dance a lil more racy... if she digs that then i usually have a good idea.. i usually make a lil small talk then work it in the conversation... if yes wooo hooo...if no just say something like awww thats too bad.. or sorry i guess i was just wishing u were.. sorry.. if u ever want to try dont be shy... uknow stupid lines like those.... usually ur best bet is go to a gay bar/club

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Lost1rach - How old are you?

Ustwo

So true

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ShaniFaye

I've never been closed mouthed about being bi.....if I meet a woman Im interested in I will talk to them straight up.....ask them if they have ever been into girls....Life is way too complicated to play guessing games.....

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Bryndian_Dhai

*applauds riotously* Astoundingly said, ShaniFaye!! *grins* Life is too short for anything short of the truth.

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lost1rach

I am 18 years old.

lost1rach

I think i would be open about it, i am just scared, because i live in an all girls dorm, and i am afraid i might scare the friends that i have here away, and i really dont want that happening. So its difficult to ask one of them. I do have inquiry though.. one of the girls in the hall and i were drunk together at a party and kissed and touched a little, but since have not spoken of it. I would love for it to happen again or to talk about it at least, but i dont know what to say to her! I am just so confused!

ShaniFaye

I have found that its best to "be with a girl" that will do the same sober as she will drunk. I always made sure that decisions were made without the influence of anything....it allows for a LOT less awkwardness later on

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lost1rach

I would totally do the same things drunk as i would sober.. although dont know how to figure out if she would.. all the replys have helped tho.. not as confused.