A few people mentioned kegels and those are good for strengthening your PC muscles but they won't help you stave off an orgasm. The reason they don't help with premature ejaculation is because the movement pulls your prostate gland closer to the penis, which increases the stimulation and thus will actually make you cum sooner. However, doing reverse kegels might help you with your problem. Instead of squeezing your muscles, you push out with them, as if you're trying to force out the stream of urine. This will move your prostate gland farther away from your penis. Try doing it while masturbating and you'll probably find that you can last much longer; some guys can last almost indefinitely.

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Aside from the kegel/reverse kegel (btw, the reverse ones work REALLY well) muscle exercises that have been mentioned, you can probably help yourself mentally too. When you're having sex, instead of concentrating on how awesome it feels (which I imagine you are), you could try concentrating REALLY hard on your technique, and aspects of it that aren't directly related to the nerves in your penis. If your mind isn't on it, you might be able to last a lot longer.

Kegels and breathing exercises definately rock. When you feel yourself starting to get close to climax, slow down a bit and look away a bit, and focus on controlling your breathing. A nice, deep, steady breathing pattern will do. It does wonders.

I'd also recommend the "sacrificial lamb" idea that others mentioned - have her go down on you, give you a handjob, or just rub one out shortly before you have sex. If you get the first one out of the way, the second one will typically take longer.

With the regards to the excercises, another good way to get into the habit of doing them is to just excercise while listening to music. I listen to a lot of beat-heavy techno, so I basically make my penis dance to the music while I'm on the computer.

Makes DDR a lot more interesting as well.

This is actually what works best for me. Do it till you cum just a bit, that way you're still hard, but not as sensitive.

I haven't tried any special condoms, although i've heard that they do work well. My gf says she doesn't want anything to "aid" us though so that's why i've never tried them.

:D at the last bit!

I never understood guys who complain about cumming too fast. (no offense)
Just tell the girl you usually cum too fast and after you've cum for the first time and if she's had any experience with men, she'll know that you're up and running in no time.
A frind of mine says he can cum about four times a night. (4x10min fo heavy pounding + orals = well satisfied women)

My problem is that it usually takes me about an hour to cum, foreplays included. The women more than often complain about going sore, before I have a chance to cum...

I know that this question is probably for the guys but my * X * had the same problem with me, he couldn't last to save his life. I just wanted to see if anyone who is responding to your question could explain why that sort of thing happens?

80-proof seems to do the trick for me. ;)

Do those exercises really do a lot? It seems like a whole lot of work, but for how much reward?

Well, I understand your problem...kinda. See I'm at the other side of the line here. I just don;t get off from sex or oral! WHat a sad, sad life I live. Sometimes, I think that I focus too hard on pleasing my partner, so try that. I mean, put all of your desires to explode all over the place and focus on her breathing, her body language, etc. and see if that helps. Also, Anyone have any advice for me?

Check out The Multi-Orgasmic Man. It covers the male Kegel's, methods for maintaining an erection, how to get to that euphoric zone of an orgasm without ejaculating and a bunch of other stuff. My favorite technique is the 9 and 1, but only if I can count that high while in the throes of sexual ecstasy.

Good luck.

Also known as Whiskey Dick. :lol: :thumbsup:

If a guy is nervous about having sex, he probably won't last as long. And the reason that so many guys are nervous about sex is because there's a lot of pressure to perform. I find that women often place unreal expectations on men to perform sexually. I laugh to myself women say things like "If a guy can't last for an hour, I don't want to bother with him" when guys last, on average, about 2-3 minutes.

or grandma. hers, yours, anybodys. if you cum thinking about a grandma, then you have a bigger problem, and maybe you'll forget about this one. :p

I have had a similar problem in the past. I've tried many things: Double-baggin' it (don't recommend it... too expensive!), counting or other "think not sexy thoughts" type of things, masturbating beforehand, etc.

Things that I found to work great: Have a hard workout that day (or just exercise more in general), pre-sex whackin', changing positions frequently during sex, Have a drink or four before you do the deed. 3 of the ones I just mentioned help you R-E-L-A-X. Being tense is not good. For me, the counting thing worked but I felt like I was really cheating myself out of having a good time by putting my mind on other less, exciting things (like numbers). What's the point of having sex if you're not into it?

Also, I most certainly found that I could last longer when I was having sex more frequently. Just practice lots!!! This is key.

Frequent masturbation/sex and a good hard workout for me are the best combination. I've surprised myself on numerous occasions by doing those two things pre-sex.

Excellent advice from my gf: Never feel bad about cumming... No matter how fast. Just enjoy it and try for longer the next time. If you don't last very long, there are other ways of pleasin' a woman.

I don't expect a guy to last an hour not even 30mins but at least longer than 5mins & If he can't last for 10mins I wouldn't bother because to me thats a tease especially if he isn't showing signs of improvement or that he is trying to do his best, some animals last longer then most men... Thats the sad part.

I'll say it again, guys last about 2-3 minutes on average. You're setting yourself up for disappointment.

Don't worry about it. Just get it up and go at it again. It will take a lot longer to cum a second time, if you can at all.

I think this is called normal.

Thanks for the update invalidiuser.

Thank you very much for posting this info. I'd never heard of reverse kegels before.

Thank you for this info too.

In my experience, I have found that how long I last is 90% psychological, and it may be that way for you too.

If I go into bed excited and all geared up for sex and it has been a while, I find that I come very quickly.

However, if I'm very calm and not worked up about getting laid, I can go for a good 45mins-an hour. A bottle of Vodka also helps with this ;)

I think thats all the advice I can offer. Hope things work out!

what about using that thing that makes you last forever and use it till she is close to cumming and u pull it off, makes you have a soft one again, and give her you're full load.

We already have most covered here with reverse kegels and all, but let's put some more general on it. The muscle spasms that occur when you are about to cum is what you want to avoid if you don't want to come "early". Most men are aware of the point where they begin their orgasm, usually you begin to feel those spasms or whatever you call it (I hope you understand what I'm trying to describe). What you want to do is avoid coming into that state because when you're there it's only a matter of time before you're going to come. I don't know if it's hormones or what, but it's hard not to when you're there.
Anyway, teverse kegels is really the way to go. You can usually help it on your way by being relaxed in your hips and in your groin area. Ironically many men are so afraid they might come early that they tense up completely and this actually makes them come even faster. So practise your kegels (didn't know they were called that until today) and utilise it while masturbating. Learn to be completely aware of how you slip into orgasm and learn to detect when you're doing that. Most of all be completely comfortable with how you feel during sex. For a few people coming early is a direct physical problem, but for most it's more psychological so working on it and gaining some confidence is the most important thing.

You know what could help? Trojan condoms with Climax Control. I tried them out and believe me, they make you feel like your dick isn't even there. You will not cum even if you want to. I almost got soft one time because I simply couldn't feel anything. Of course, you should use it if pleasing her is more important to you than pleasing yourself. Don't get Durex ones, they're weak. Get Trojan.

EDIT: I don't know if anybody mentioned this, but there are cock rings that might help you. Basically it's a ring that you put close to the base of the shaft and it stops blood from going out and sperm from going in. Basically you can last as long as you want as long as you have it on.

I'll echo what many others have said.........

I think I'm very similar to you, and probably to a lot of other men. For me it's the idea, and thoughts that go into sex that put me over the top sooner than I want. I just get too into it. The problem is I don't want to be any less into it.

What I've found that works is, first of all make sure you please your woman first and foremost. Give her great oral and make her cum. Everything from that point on is icing on an already good cake for her. Then invest in the Trojan Extended Pleasure. I've found I can completely control myself in these. Sometimes it's a little bit hard to cum, but if I really concentrate on the feelings and thoughts of what I'm doing then I can cum.........unless of course I've been drinking heavily, and then it might not happen.

Anyway, follow those steps and you and she will be very happy.

I also take a long time to get aroused. What my b/f and I have found is that he will work on me (kissing, necking, sucking) that sort of thing. He'll even finger and do oral a bit.

He will get me to a point that I am almost about to orgasm. Once this occurs, we'll have sex. He comes faster then me, so by working me up to orgasm we end up coming together (most of the time).

fortunatly for me i can cum very quickly so even guys that dont last long caan get me off... but as for the guys that know how to last long i can cum again... and again... and... well u get the idea... but when i was youngeri had a hard time climaxing... i found that by mixing it up a bit and changing postions and tempo can help a guy last longer

Once a long time ago, I suggested to a friend of mine to think of our Economics teacher if he was starting to lose it. (this was way back in high school). He reported back that this worked wonders.. Basically just stop for a few seconds and think of something else.. The wall tress, cars passing by, anything to get your mind on something else for a few seconds to regain your composure

just try to have her get on top.. then your not so worked up.. then pump her

As much as I hate to say it, not too much oral to get started. If you get all the way to the edge, it's hard to step back.

Just tell the girl your problem (if she doesnt already know). Tell her that you need her to suck you off every time before sex. As soon as she does that, you'll be golden if you do it quickly after.