molaga

All right so i go down on my gf every so often, but she never orgasms. I know guys can be terrible at sex, but at eating a girl out.......doesn't seem right. Just wondering if anyone else has had this problem. Cuz my girl says it's nice but she always makes me stop after like 20 minutes. She feels bad for making me do it or something. I've reassured her i like doing it, but she doesn't seem to believe it. I think it's probably cuz i'm bad at it. So just wondering how long it takes a girl to orgasm when a guy is going down on her, and if any of you guys have ever not been able to make your girl orgasm through oral. This is my first gf so i don't have experience with any other girls.

Pretty embarassing, but i really wanna make my girl happy so just wanna know what this all means. any replies are greatly appreciated, you guys and gals are great.

Neptune

Has she EVER had an orgasm from oral sex? If not, the issue could be hers and not your technique.

I started dating my wife when she was 16 and she was very naive and inexperienced then. She'd fooled around a bit with a few blokes but nothing too serious.
For ages (a few years I think) she was unable to reach orgasm with me, but now she can. 11 years later, I am able to go down on her and bring her to orgasm within a few minutes if we need to be quick.
She has never had an orgasm from just penetration, she always requires clitoral stimulation be it from tongue or finger.

Talk to her about it, ask if there is something she'd prefer you do. Learn about it together and things should work out for you

Cherrymo0n

Don't worry about it... My ex-was soooo bad at it actually "sex" period that when he was trying to please me that way the jerk cut me with his tongue ring in the most sensitive area above the "Lips".... Now I don't know how that was possible or if it was intentional but he was banned from that area.... Maybe the guy on "fingering" can give you some tips... He typed all of this wonderful information which could be helpful to U...
From: arch13
The last thing you want to do, is as mentioned just go shoving your fingers in. I'm going to assume you familiar with the female body at least somewhat (if your not then go study the tittie board).

1. Realize that a womans erotic zones encompass more than just her actuall vagina (ohhhhhh, steral terms) This should be something that is led up to with heavy kissing an petting. it's going to be less than half as enjoyable if she's not ready and wet.

2.As stated, flatten your fingers (usualy two will do nicely) and begine to massage the clitoris in a SLOW rotational manner. it's located at the top of her vagina inside several folds of skin. It's extremly senstive and won't come out to play until she's further aroused, so rub the folds of skin at the top gently.

3. pay attention to her breathing and body signs. subtly she's letting you know what feels good, you just have to listen for the no-verbal signs. ask her what feels good

4. realize that your hand is going to get tired the first time you do this. Deal with it. you don;t want to know how her neck feels after blowing you. increase the tempo ever so slightly as her breathing increases. again, use her breathing and the reactions of her body as signs to increase speed.

5. By the time you've got a reasonable speed going, she'll proabably be wondering when your going inside, but slightly delaying your ahhhhm "entrance" is going to make it all the better when you do.

6. keep your pointer finger on her clit, continuing to massage it, begine to use your middle finger and run it up and down the length of her vaginal lips, from bottom to top. you'll notice how wet she is almost immediatly but you need to spread that wetness all over her vagina and liberally coat your fingers with it before you can enter her.

7.after you feel that your finger is sufficiantly wet, use the tip of your middle finger and press it at the base of her vagina. slide it gently in to your first joint and then slowley back out. just like with the clit, you need to pick up tempo slowly. The faster the tempo, the more you slide into her.

8. Go with your gut. get her feedback. do as little or as much as you think she'd like. Pay attention to her and the way's she likes this done will begin to show with practice.

Above all else remember that it's her body, so she call the shots on what happens to it.

Enjoy yourselves kids.

and just how old are you by the way?
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aKula

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...ht=cunnilingus
try reading this there's some good advice in that thread if you're concerned about your technique.

fallenangel

Don't focus on doing oral just to get her off, you're too focused on the end point and not enough on the fun ride in between. There's so many variables involved in situations like these. Do you give it often enough? Has she orgasmned before? How long are you willing to spend down there before you 'give up' because it's not working. (That kind of pressure is difficult for both parties, remember there's not alarm that's going to go off if she doesn't get off in 20 minutes right?) Communicate with here, that's incredibly important in your sex life. Don't stress!

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molaga

I'm 18 so not much experience. I'll stay down on my gf as long as it takes, I just feel bad cuz it seems I enjoy it more than she does if she doesn't orgasm. I love doing it, but feel a little stupid if it doesn't feel good. =/

molaga

I'm 18 so not much experience. I'll stay down on my gf as long as it takes, I just feel bad cuz it seems I enjoy it more than she does if she doesn't orgasm. I love doing it, but feel a little stupid if it doesn't feel good and she seems to feel uncomfortable telling me what to do. I think she thinks its supposed to be simple, which it may be, but i can't help that i'm bad at it. =/

Fresno_aztec

Guys let me tell you, if in the case above this is the first time that anyone is doing this to her, i would almost bet that she is still really embarrassed and nervous everytime that you decide to make your way down to that area of her body. This is a comfort issue that takes a lot of trust. I have had to learn that the more the girl trusts you and the more comfortable she feels with you the more relaxed she becomes and the more she enjoys having you go down on her. With that she will also start feeling more comfortable telling you what feels good and what doesnt. Talking to her and making her feel completley relaxed is the key. From my experience the girl is so nervous about having you down there thats all she can really think about and not actually enjoying it. Trust and comfort take time and with that comes better nights for both parties involved, cause i promise you this... take care of her well and she will REALLY want to take card of you!

StickODynomite

If she's not telling you what feels good/what doesn't and she doesn't know her body well, it may not be your fault. She has to let you know what she enjoys or what she doesnt.. and she should explain to you what she likes (that is assuming she KNOWS what she likes).

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sushiboy

Are you using the same technique everytime you do it? Maybe you can try and change it up a little.

Ofirethorn

Like everything good in life it requires practice, both her and You.

Cherrymoon- that's just not right ........ about getting cut in the mons area.

Stick- Good advice communictions,its not just about relationships

Glory's Sun

I have one bit of advice.. don't eat pussy like a hamster drinking from a water bottle..

HomerSimpson

i have always started to lick every where then focus on the clit, round the clit to tease a bit then straight to it, as sum1 said try a few fingers while ur laping at her clit.